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    Oct 09, 2010 7:36 AM GMT
    Any of you suffer from Performance Anxiety?

    http://www.whitelotuseast.com/PerformanceAnxiety.htm


    How do you cope with it?

    It's happened to me atleast 4 times and I'm getting fed up. I can precum when I'm with someone, but that's about it. 1 time I spent 4 hours trying to shoot the breeze. I'm already on meds for anxiety and I don't feel nervous about anything, so I honestly don't know what to do. I don't really want to go see a doctor about this... I thought I had gotten over it, but that isn't the case.
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    Oct 09, 2010 7:45 AM GMT
    Eat more olives.
    They're like a natural aphrodisiac for me.
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    Oct 09, 2010 2:37 PM GMT
    Its very possible that it may be a side affect to your medicine. Does it happen just when your with another guy? Talk to your Dr, its not the first time they have heard this, its nothing to be embarassed about.
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    Oct 09, 2010 4:23 PM GMT
    Get off your meds altogether. Eat right (fresh and wholesome foods) and exercise. Eliminate negative people from your life. Especially the ones that "as a friend" tell you not to achieve your dreams and desires or who try to protect you from yourself. Make friends with people who have positive attitudes toward you and others. You'll be fine.
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    Oct 09, 2010 4:35 PM GMT
    Agree with both of the guys above me. I was on anti-anxiety meds for about a year... same problem. Be careful stopping meds... gradually wean yourself off of them. Don't go cold turkey... decrease to half the dose and stay for a week, then decrease again til you are off. Good luck!
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    Oct 09, 2010 4:56 PM GMT
    Before adjusting or stopping your medication, talk to your doctor. None of us here know your situation as well as you and your doctor, so use caution with any advice on your medication.
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    Oct 09, 2010 6:23 PM GMT
    QuadraticEquation saidAny of you suffer from Performance Anxiety?

    http://www.whitelotuseast.com/PerformanceAnxiety.htm


    How do you cope with it?

    It's happened to me atleast 4 times and I'm getting fed up. I can precum when I'm with someone, but that's about it. 1 time I spent 4 hours trying to shoot the breeze. I'm already on meds for anxiety and I don't feel nervous about anything, so I honestly don't know what to do. I don't really want to go see a doctor about this... I thought I had gotten over it, but that isn't the case.


    Study the side effects of the mind control drugs. Almost without exception they can kill sexual performance. Lots of medications will cause your sex life to go into the toilet.

    Depending on the variables in your case, you may have to ween yourself from the mind control stuff, actually learn to cope with life if you want to have good sexual performance. You'll need to do that research for yourself.

    I've seen a lot of kids your age strung out on all sorts of stupid meds, and have all sorts of trouble with the side effects. You may have to clean up to fix this issue.

    There may be something going on, of course, but, usually, folks that are on meds have these issues. It's not at all uncommon and you'll have to make the choice on whether to be in a medicated haze or to go into The Real World.
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    Oct 09, 2010 6:28 PM GMT
    heartrobb saidBefore adjusting or stopping your medication, talk to your doctor. None of us here know your situation as well as you and your doctor, so use caution with any advice on your medication.


    No doctor knows your situation as well as you, what your priorities are, or what you are feeling. Many, many, many doctors make bad diagnoses all the time. It's very common for doctors to be wrong. If you feel your doctor is wrong, tell him, and, if he gets argumentative, get rid of him and see another doctor.

    Abruptly stopping some meds can have some serious effects. If you're wanting to clean up you'll likely want a plan for that.

    I've seen several young folks have a hell of a time lately trying to get clean from ADD drugs.
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    Oct 09, 2010 9:34 PM GMT
    I should mention I have Depression and Bpolar, so I'm not so sure going off my meds would be beneficial. it might have to be a trade off. All i know is that my sexual feelings haven't decreased at all... I'm still horny all the time.

    I can usually get off when I'm not with a guy... although, I have to be watching good porn.

    QUOTE AUTHOR GOES HEREOct 09, 2010 12:23 PMGet off your meds altogether. Eat right (fresh and wholesome foods) and exercise. Eliminate negative people from your life. Especially the ones that "as a friend" tell you not to achieve your dreams and desires or who try to protect you from yourself. Make friends with people who have positive attitudes toward you and others. You'll be fine.


    I eat right and exercise, but I do have quite a few negative influences in my life... I don't let it get to me though. I guess subconsciously I could have major problems with them, but I can't think of anything.
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    Oct 09, 2010 9:58 PM GMT
    Sounds like you've made you're choice about what important to you. You'll probably need to accept that the mind control drugs will have a negative effect on your sexual performance and a variety of other things.
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    Oct 09, 2010 10:04 PM GMT
    chuckystud said
    QuadraticEquation saidAny of you suffer from Performance Anxiety?

    http://www.whitelotuseast.com/PerformanceAnxiety.htm


    How do you cope with it?

    It's happened to me atleast 4 times and I'm getting fed up. I can precum when I'm with someone, but that's about it. 1 time I spent 4 hours trying to shoot the breeze. I'm already on meds for anxiety and I don't feel nervous about anything, so I honestly don't know what to do. I don't really want to go see a doctor about this... I thought I had gotten over it, but that isn't the case.


    Study the side effects of the mind control drugs. Almost without exception they can kill sexual performance. Lots of medications will cause your sex life to go into the toilet.

    Depending on the variables in your case, you may have to ween yourself from the mind control stuff, actually learn to cope with life if you want to have good sexual performance. You'll need to do that research for yourself.

    I've seen a lot of kids your age strung out on all sorts of stupid meds, and have all sorts of trouble with the side effects. You may have to clean up to fix this issue.

    There may be something going on, of course, but, usually, folks that are on meds have these issues. It's not at all uncommon and you'll have to make the choice on whether to be in a medicated haze or to go into The Real World.


    This is the worst advice ever. Anti anxiety medication is not " mind control drugs " in fact, they have the effect of reducing anxiety, not increasing it.

    Some people need medication, so to advocate that he ween himself off, unless you are a doctor, is terrible advice and not medically sound especially since you do not know his medical history nor are you a doctor.

    It isn't about coping with life to make you sexually competent,you lots of guys have performance issues and are not on "mind control drugs" and he might need the medication - but it sounds like you value sex over mental and physical health.

    Anxiety medications are usually temporary. and they are prescribed for a reason.

    I sometimes don't cum with some guys because they just don' spin my wheels. Bottom line.


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    Oct 09, 2010 10:06 PM GMT
    chuckystud saidSounds like you've made you're choice about what important to you. You'll probably need to accept that the mind control drugs will have a negative effect on your sexual performance and a variety of other things.


    Unbelievable.
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    Oct 09, 2010 10:10 PM GMT
    Talk to the doc. Be very frank and tell him that your sex life is important to you.

    It is a common side effect of SSRI's to inhibit sexual perfromance.

    None of us here can do doctoring. You are best talking it over with the pros. Get other opinions if you want, but don't feel like you just have to give up.

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    Oct 09, 2010 10:13 PM GMT
    SSRI's are typically antidepressants but not anti anxiety but not always. I sometimes use Klonopin for anxiety but it does not destroy my sex drive nor does it control my mind.

    and I don't believe it contains an SSRI
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    Oct 09, 2010 10:23 PM GMT
    CaliBoySwag saidSSRI's are typically antidepressants but not anti anxiety but not always. I sometimes use Klonopin for anxiety but it does not destroy my sex drive nor does it control my mind.

    and I don't believe it contains an SSRI


    Might as well go into details, maybe more of you know stuff about what I'm on and it's a weekend, so I'm not going to to be able to meet with my doctor for a little while.

    I'm on Wellbutrin, Citalopram and Risperdal.

    I was on other stuff, but i didn't like the side effects.
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    Oct 10, 2010 6:17 AM GMT
    You may wish to read up on the effects of the drugs you listed.

    You may well find that answering your questions.
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    Oct 11, 2010 9:17 PM GMT
    Dude, performance anxiety happens to everyone. Relax. Yeah, you could be having problems with your meds. But, can you masturbate without a problem?

    If so, you are working yourself up over whether or not you will perform. Permit yourself to just enjoy the sexual experience. Don't make it so goal oriented. It isn't about your throbbing erection and your mind-blowing orgasm. Make it about the pleasures of enjoying your body and your friend(s). Once you are relaxed and in the right head space it wont be such an anxiety-inducing event.

    But you should talk to your doctor about it. It could be that you simply have to swap one med with another.