Do you think Young gays generally tend to stick up their noses at other gay guys who are older?

  • frelling_cute

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    Oct 09, 2010 7:01 PM GMT
    I have noticed this before and wondered if it was just an isolated incident.
    Is it an Age thing? Is it intimination?
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    Oct 09, 2010 7:02 PM GMT
    often yes they do, unless they have a Daddy fetish and you happen to look rough and dominant enough for them.

    You only just noticed this?
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    Oct 09, 2010 7:13 PM GMT
    Let me get back to you on that one...
  • rnch

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    Oct 09, 2010 7:20 PM GMT
    only if they are as ignorant as they are young icon_exclaim.gif
  • frelling_cute

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    Oct 09, 2010 7:22 PM GMT
    itsmourning said
    frelling_cute saidI have noticed this before and wondered if it was just an isolated incident.
    Is it an Age thing? Is it intimination?


    I don't. I usually look up to them.

    The problem is that many older men sexually/romantically want much younger guys who don't want them. A lot of young guys aren't interested in that kind of age difference, but older men typically are.

    Also, I think it's just based on what the gay male community is all about. We see young people/youth all the time as representing what it means to be gay, so older gays (over 30-35ish) are seen as being past their prime and out of the gay loop.


    So young guys automatically think that Men want to get into their pants and don't want to just be part of a community? Do they not realize they will be older someday?
    How shallow can you get?
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    Oct 09, 2010 7:52 PM GMT
    Do you think Young gays generally tend to stick up their noses at other gay guys who are older?

    I don't think it, I KNOW it. But that's OK. I'm smarter than young guys, better educated, traveled, experienced, richer than most, have a loving partner, superior in a thousand ways they can't even begin to imagine.

    Where they got me is in looks, stamina, health, and they dance better. Plus they'll outlive me. But one day they'll be in my shoes, if they're lucky enough, with younger guys mocking them the way they do me today, so it all evens out.
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    Oct 09, 2010 7:56 PM GMT
    Lostboy saidoften yes they do, unless they have a Daddy fetish and you happen to look rough and dominant enough for them.





    DITTO!
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    Oct 09, 2010 8:21 PM GMT
    It'smourning hit the nail on the head. For the most part it's not that younger guys loathe older guys; it's just that younger people in general are not interesting in hanging out with people who are much older than them.

    So instead of wishing misery upon them just think back to when you were their age. Did you want to hang out with people your parents age? Probably not. And while you're at it don't forget that some younger guys do appreciate the company or advice of an older person.
  • frelling_cute

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    Oct 09, 2010 8:43 PM GMT
    I think there are a lot of older guys that tend to be sexy and personable. Why would they not want to talk to others like themselves. It's a community. Why do we need attitude?
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    Oct 09, 2010 8:48 PM GMT
    I wouldn't say "stick up their noses", but there is certainly a level of discomfort among young guys wnen it comes to dealing with older gay men. I really don't think its snobbisness as much as wariness at maybe being a sex object for someone old enough to be their grandfather and also, just a "WTF do I talk about with him?" feeling. I enjoy being around younger guys sometimes, younger girls for that matter, just to know what is happening in a much younger universe, but I do not want a sexual encounter of any sort.
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    Oct 09, 2010 8:52 PM GMT
    Young gays always stick their noses up at me.
    But that could be because they're on their knees in front of me, looking up at me. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 09, 2010 8:55 PM GMT
    There's allot of older guys that stick up their noses at older guys as well.
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    Oct 09, 2010 9:11 PM GMT
    antelope saidI wouldn't say "stick up their noses", but there is certainly a level of discomfort among young guys wnen it comes to dealing with older gay men. I really don't think its snobbisness as much as wariness at maybe being a sex object for someone old enough to be their grandfather and also, just a "WTF do I talk about with him?" feeling. I enjoy being around younger guys sometimes, younger girls for that matter, just to know what is happening in a much younger universe, but I do not want a sexual encounter of any sort.

    I agree with you completely. In fact, just a few months ago, my partner & I ran into a 20-something guy at a gay bar who was major-depressed over his birthday that day. And we turned his day around, at least we think we did. Maybe he was scamming us, but our judgment was he wasn't.

    My own late father remains an example for me. He was always curious, always learning, always wanting to know more from young people, even in his mid-80s. Granted, most young people in my experience are largely idiots, but I always hold out the hope I might on rare occasions learn something from them. We even learn from idiocy, even if it's an opposite lesson.

    And I'm always interested in cultural changes, even if it's something I don't like for myself, just the novelty of knowing about it. I more fear living in an ignorant vacuum than being exposed to the stupidity of youth.

    I was once a foolish kid myself, and have learned that even if I've gained a little wisdom through trial & error over decades, no kids are interested in knowing about it, no more than I was at their same age. And so each generation reinvents the wheel over and over again, and think ourselves so clever for having done it. Oh, well...
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    Oct 09, 2010 9:14 PM GMT
    Most definitely... Older guys usually can't relate to younger guys by interests and what not.

    However, I usually am more in to older guys... They tend to be more mature and I feel like I can communicate with them more easily.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Oct 09, 2010 9:19 PM GMT
    I would not say that all or even an overwhelming majority of young gay guys are arrogant and rude to older gay men. You have a large number of older guys that can be just as unfriendly and cold hearted. It all depends on the person and the situation. As for these young 20 something gay men who are arrogant and rude the only thing I have to say to them is that their day is coming and they will be much older.
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    Oct 09, 2010 9:38 PM GMT
    They don't want to catch Age, that's all.
  • Jacob_dane

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    Oct 09, 2010 10:07 PM GMT
    I think in general it's most young people gay or straight. How often do you meet an 18 year old that wants to hang out with someone in their 30's? It's a typical reaction i believe. I on the the other hand am indifferent to age. I'll talk to anyone, regardless of age, as long as the conversation is fun and easy to come by. No need not to talk to someone because they are older than me.
    I also typically tend to be attracted to older men as well, not always physically even but i believe because of the fact that they are usually more stable and have their lives more figured out because of their age and experience in life which cna also give them confidence in what they do. Younger guys are all about the next party or the next boy.. and that doesn't attract me in the slightest.
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    Oct 09, 2010 10:18 PM GMT
    Caslon16000 saidThey don't want to catch Age, that's all.

    True. Young'uns despise us, want nothing to do with us. Unless they want our money. And then they're all complimentary & fawning, so long as our wallets are open.

    Well, I know that game. They see us like their parents, expecting to be supported and given things for nothing, just because they're young & cute. And some old fools fall for it, fake flattery being their Achilles heel, and wanting a trophy boy.

    At 20 I was making my own way in the world, totally independent, as I've been ever since. Most of these young guys I encounter are parasites, looking for a sugar Daddy to support them.

    But it does no good to state this. Old fools will still be seduced, and kids will still score with Daddy Bigbucks. This is why I simply avoid young guys, lest my pockets get picked.
  • frelling_cute

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    Oct 09, 2010 10:49 PM GMT
    roadbikeRob saidI would not say that all or even an overwhelming majority of young gay guys are arrogant and rude to older gay men. You have a large number of older guys that can be just as unfriendly and cold hearted. It all depends on the person and the situation. As for these young 20 something gay men who are arrogant and rude the only thing I have to say to them is that their day is coming and they will be much older.

    So I guess we can say that no matter what age, there is unnecessary attitude?
    Arrogance?
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    Oct 10, 2010 4:57 AM GMT
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    Caslon16000 saidThey don't want to catch Age, that's all.

    True. Young'uns despise us, want nothing to do with us. Unless they want our money. And then they're all complimentary & fawning, so long as our wallets are open.

    Well, I know that game. They see us like their parents, expecting to be supported and given things for nothing, just because they're young & cute. And some old fools fall for it, fake flattery being their Achilles heel, and wanting a trophy boy.

    At 20 I was making my own way in the world, totally independent, as I've been ever since. Most of these young guys I encounter are parasites, looking for a sugar Daddy to support them.

    But it does no good to state this. Old fools will still be seduced, and kids will still score with Daddy Bigbucks. This is why I simply avoid young guys, lest my pockets get picked.


    In my experience, not to make generalizations, older men have misrepresented themselves. They assume that young guys look for a certain type and they try to assume that type. I can admit that at times I am superficial, shallow, vain, etc., but I assert my independence and I dont need anything from anyone else. If other young men have shared my experiences (once again MY EXPERIENCES), then I can completely understand why older men might be a bit off putting. In general, however, I have no problem with older men.

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    Oct 10, 2010 4:59 AM GMT
    itsmourning said
    frelling_cute saidI have noticed this before and wondered if it was just an isolated incident.
    Is it an Age thing? Is it intimination?


    I don't. I usually look up to them.

    The problem is that many older men sexually/romantically want much younger guys who don't want them. A lot of young guys aren't interested in that kind of age difference, but older men typically are.

    Also, I think it's just based on what the gay male community is all about. We see young people/youth all the time as representing what it means to be gay, so older gays (over 30-35ish) are seen as being past their prime and out of the gay loop.


    Man are YOU out of the loop icon_lol.gif I don't even think gay men have reached their prime at 35. As for younger guys sticking their nose up in the air at older guys, I think that can work both ways.
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    Oct 10, 2010 5:04 AM GMT
    "So young guys automatically think that Men want to get into their pants and don't want to just be part of a community?"




    Yeah. Yep. ..yea thats pretty much what we're sayin.



    But typically I have to admit that applies to any gay man. Unfortunately. And I hate it when they say one thing like they come under the guise of friendship when they really are all about something else. I can't stand that shit and I can sense it a mile away.
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    Oct 10, 2010 5:07 AM GMT
    Lostboy saidoften yes they do, unless they have a Daddy fetish and you happen to look rough and dominant enough for them.

    You only just noticed this?


    OK, why when a young guy happens to like an older gentleman (haha) it has to be a "Daddy fetish"?
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    Oct 10, 2010 5:18 AM GMT
    Yes! But, the revenge is that their getting older is really not too far off. I was always respectful of older guys and have dated guys all ages between 20s and 50s. Never had a guy in his 60s or older ask me out. If I found one I was attracted to, I'd go out with him. I have no hangups about age. But, I don't plan to live until I'm so old I'm no longer attractive at all. That's no life. When it's time, I'm gonna go.

    By the way, I like guys my own age. However, the one's I've been around seem to prefer younger.
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    Oct 10, 2010 5:26 AM GMT
    I have to say yes, but it's nothing new. U recall when I first went out on the gay scene, when I was 18, and another world away. Some one around my age, putting the older guys down, saying " they had their time and now it's over, and if they waisted it, it their fault, and now it's our time to rule. But..... thats is on the gay scene. In my work, I get to work with a number of young homosexuals, and they are all respectful to me, some even look up to me because of my confidence, and they see all the straight people have no issues with my sexuality, and the acceptance I receive, and the confidance I have.