"I'm mature for my age"

  • swimjohn

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    Oct 10, 2010 1:43 AM GMT
    I see or hear this around a lot and have started wondering what other people think of this statement.

    So for guys who are "mature for your age":
    -Why do you say this? Was it something you were told a few times and you now tell everyone?
    -What is it that makes you so mature?
    -What is it about others that makes your more mature than them?

    For guys who don't say it:
    - Why don't you? Do you not say it because you think you're immature for your age?
    -What do you think of guys who insinuate that they're better by being more mature?

    For older guys:
    -What do you think when you hear a guy say this?
    -What has been your experience with guys who say they are "mature for their age?"

    Thanks for the responses guys, and I'd appreciate it if you tried to keep them relatively short. I've noticed that the death of most threads occur when the regulars get into long and heated debates which tend to push the non-regulars away from the thread. I'd like to see EVERYONE'S opinions on this.
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    Oct 10, 2010 1:50 AM GMT
    If someone is truly mature for his age then he does not need to say it. He can let his words and actions prove it for him.
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    Oct 10, 2010 1:53 AM GMT
    heartrobb saidIf someone is truly mature for his age then he does not need to say it. He can let his words and actions prove it for him.

    No one on Earth has ever been mature at 18. End of issue.
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    Oct 10, 2010 2:09 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    No one on Earth has ever been mature at 18. End of issue.


    Wiser words have never been spoken in these threads!
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    Oct 10, 2010 2:15 AM GMT
    I would never judge a person's maturity by their age, but the statement that older people are generally more mature is also true. However, I also know older guys who aren't mature, so...

    Maturity can be based on the way they act or think... also having your life in order or knowing what you want can be maturity. It's basically the idea that you've grown up and understand how to deal with issues appropriately.
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    Oct 10, 2010 2:19 AM GMT
    When I hear that, I think they are saying they are open to some kinds of interaction with older guys and want to be considered more seriously than some of their compatriots. BTW I know one guy on RJ who is around 20 and reads books ranging from 18th century English politics to post-World War II trends in the US. (not for a course, on his own) I find him more mature than some guys 3 times his age.
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    Oct 10, 2010 4:58 AM GMT
    If you feel 80 at 23 then you are dead(mature) on the inside.
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    Oct 10, 2010 5:14 AM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    heartrobb saidIf someone is truly mature for his age then he does not need to say it. He can let his words and actions prove it for him.

    No one on Earth has ever been mature at 18. End of issue.


    Though you can get a mighty fine bottle of red that's only matured half that time.
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    Oct 10, 2010 5:15 AM GMT
    . . . "ye shall know them by their fruits"
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    Oct 10, 2010 5:29 AM GMT
    i never say that .

    i'll tell someone that what he just said is deep or something like that but i hate those patronizing statements .
    It's exactly in the same line as " you look young for your age" .

    teaching kids, teens, young adults, full grown ups and elderlies i'm amazed at what i hear from them ... i think maturity is a momentary state of mind no matter the age or character.
  • swogdog

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    Oct 10, 2010 5:59 AM GMT
    When people say these kinds of things it tells me two things: that they need convincing of their own maturity, and that maturity (and the relative amount of it of they possess) is what's on their mind. Both are useful things to know about a person.
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    Oct 10, 2010 6:05 AM GMT
    It's something more said in passing, or said about someone. If someone says they are mature for their age, generally it's an attention-grabbing bullshit statement.

    Saying that, I'm quite mature for my age.

    Notice how "quite" sounds old-timey? Like I'm three sheets to the wind.
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    Oct 10, 2010 6:35 AM GMT
    heartrobb saidIf someone is truly mature for his age then he does not need to say it. He can let his words and actions prove it for him.


    Exactly.
    Whatever your age, actions speak louder than words.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Oct 10, 2010 9:35 AM GMT
    actually statement can be true. but does not mean that you are just as mature as someone who is older. for example, 25 is not as mature as a 30 year old. but then again there is always a exception to that rule
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    Oct 10, 2010 9:38 AM GMT
    Having to explicitly state core qualities that are largely subjective and open to interpretation is usually a sign of immaturity icon_razz.gif

    That being said, I think the same argument of "actions louder than words" applies for "masc" as well. Just 'cause you write it, doesn't make it necessarily true. And those who are, don't need to write it.
  • Hunter9

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    Oct 10, 2010 9:49 AM GMT
    why is this of such interest to you, OP? i think having that context would be very helpful in answering your question, since you're clearly fishing for something
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    Oct 10, 2010 11:14 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said
    heartrobb saidIf someone is truly mature for his age then he does not need to say it. He can let his words and actions prove it for him.


    Exactly.
    Whatever your age, actions speak louder than words.


    So true, not only about age. A persons action speaks volumes of his character, more so when no one's watching.icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 10, 2010 11:33 AM GMT
    I don't buy that line.........99% of the under 25 guys who have said that to me were, in fact, terribly immature. Maturity is one of those qualities, in my opinion, that if you have to tell people you have, then you probably don't. I think someone can be more responsible at a younger age than his peers, but responsibility is just one of many factors that make up maturity. Experience being another factor, and i think most guys over 30 would agree with me that they have more life experience than they did five or ten years ago.
  • HumanReactor

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    Oct 10, 2010 11:47 AM GMT
    I said it last night when a hot Spanish guy said he is into older guys. Basically, it's a really bad pick up line. Other than that I try to let actions speak for themselves.
  • cityguy39

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    Oct 10, 2010 12:13 PM GMT
    It's been my experience, if someone has to declare to others they have a certain quality, it usually means they don't possess it. It's the same thing as someone stating they have class, if you really had it in the first place, you wouldn't need to tell people that you did.
  • swimjohn

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    Oct 10, 2010 3:22 PM GMT
    Hunter9 saidwhy is this of such interest to you, OP? i think having that context would be very helpful in answering your question, since you're clearly fishing for something


    You're right, this is a terribly directed question, but I feel like it's so biased you should be able to guess why it interests me. I see/hear that phrase all over the place and it just got me thinking. So I decided to ask and see if others thought the same thing when they hear it, and for the most part the responses are what I expected.
  • mizu5

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    Oct 10, 2010 3:24 PM GMT
    Well I've been told I am. I think it entirely depends upon the situation. I am apt to act 19, but as I am 19, is that so bad?
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    Oct 10, 2010 11:05 PM GMT
    mizu5 saidWell I've been told I am. I think it entirely depends upon the situation. I am apt to act 19, but as I am 19, is that so bad?


    Nooooooo.............i'd be concerned if you were 19 and acted my age! or if you reach my age and still act 19!
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    Oct 10, 2010 11:13 PM GMT
    I'm immature for my age. I haven't even hit puberty yet. icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 10, 2010 11:15 PM GMT
    Ive heard it both, mature for my age, and sometimes childish, I can go back and forth, in bed too btw