rude roommates

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    Oct 10, 2010 6:17 AM GMT
    Ok so I live with 4 other guys in a small house and me and one of my roommates have been noticing that Brock, another one, is kinda freeloading off of us a bit, eating our food, etc. Some examples are, we'll be making dinner in the kitchen and he'll loiter around until it's done, eat some of the food out of the pot on the stove without asking, while were doing dishes or something then just bail. He also will eat the last of our nutrigrain bars then throw the empty box back in the cupboard like we're complete morons and wouldn't notice. And... my roommates girlfriend gave him a ride once, they had to stop at her place first and he went inside with her.. He asked her if she was a germ freak, she said no... upon hearing that he promptly went to her fridge and drank directly out of her milk jug. I want this to be as drama-free as possible, basically how do I say, "dude your a douchebag, stop eating my shit and learn some manners," without making the next 8 months awkward and full of tension. I mean if these were single occurences I wouldn't even think twice about it but it's happening on a DAILY basis. Enough is enough, damn.
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    Oct 10, 2010 6:43 AM GMT
    I read "nude" instead of "rude" (2:45am here) and read the WHOLE post. ugh
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    Oct 10, 2010 6:45 AM GMT
    Sounds like it's time for an "intervention." Talk it out with all your roommates first before deciding what to do. I'm thinking, there is no nice way of saying "You're a freeloader and need to fucking stop it!" If worst comes to worst you can always try to get him evicted.
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    Oct 10, 2010 6:55 AM GMT
    paparazzi66 saidI read "nude" instead of "rude" (2:45am here) and read the WHOLE post. ugh


    and then wasted another 15 seconds typing a response!!!! brutal! best get some sleep buddy. icon_razz.gif

    Quadratic you're probably right and until then, keeping all my food in my bedroom! Although at this point wouldn't even be surprised if he'd help his happy ass to my food while masturbating to porn on my comp and then shaving his balls with my electric razor.
  • brycetippe

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    Oct 10, 2010 7:01 AM GMT
    Ugh.
    Bad roommates are the worst.
    I'm living on campus, and I was just randomly placed with 3 other guys. I didn't mind, but 2 of them were just complete douchebags.
    Got drunk every night, blasted their music, blasted their TVs at 2am.
    Like I despise them.
    I didn't make I big deal I just requested to move.
    I, like most people, don't like confrontation; So I just got out of there.
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    Oct 10, 2010 7:08 AM GMT
    OR... try teaching him a lesson, "eye for an eye. That son of a bitch needs to be taught he can't do that shit. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 10, 2010 7:09 AM GMT
    KardioKing said
    paparazzi66 saidI read "nude" instead of "rude" (2:45am here) and read the WHOLE post. ugh


    and then wasted another 15 seconds typing a response!!!! brutal! best get some sleep buddy. icon_razz.gif


    No, I must resist.
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    Oct 10, 2010 7:45 AM GMT
    "I want this to be as drama-free as possible, basically how do I say, "dude your a douchebag, stop eating my shit and learn some manners," without making the next 8 months awkward and full of tension"


    Ahhh! Life is full of heated tension, you'll never fully avoid that.And, soo-what?Let the gnarly -do nothing-get burnt.He has the right not to be offended? At the cost of what, others' not dishing out much needed veracity? What he needs to hear is the bonafied truth!!! You say: Dude your a douchebag, stop eating my shit and learn some manners.

    What came to mind and actually wanted to say; in truth, works effectively very well! And; you'd actually be doing that Lame-o a favor by setting shit back in sync! Who knows, he may privately thank you for it later in life. -IMHO-
    G'luck bro~icon_wink.gif
  • tajsreve

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    Oct 10, 2010 7:55 AM GMT
    I asume that you have all already addressed the issues with him. When they happened. Addresss it as a group. You are all paying rent and you all need your space / stuff / whatever respected. If he is displaying a lack of respect for personal stuff then what are his boundaries???
    If nothing works... then start the a sytem of: "Teaching Brock." If he was drinking milk right out of the container, he is doing that elsewhere at home or where ever. Leave one container of milk at home open. Put some vinegar in the milk and leave it there. (make sure your room mates know) Make some Ex-lax brownies. Just a thought!
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    Oct 10, 2010 8:24 AM GMT
    I also read nude.

    Very disappointed.
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    Oct 10, 2010 9:48 AM GMT
    QuadraticEquation saidOR... try teaching him a lesson, "eye for an eye. That son of a bitch needs to be taught he can't do that shit. icon_wink.gif


    I'm all about that strategy, and it's worked pretty well for me over the years. But I flat out warn them first, and let them know what the problem is.

    If you act like a douche and eat my food, I'm going to start buying bland food and then eating your good stuff until you realize just how douchy you're being.
  • coolarmydude

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    Oct 10, 2010 12:55 PM GMT
    Here's what you do:


    Let your fellow roomies in good standing know to not drink the milk. Leave the milk outside, hidden, for a few days and then put it in the fridge. Now let's see the free loader learn a lesson.


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    Oct 10, 2010 12:56 PM GMT
    tajsreve saidI asume that you have all already addressed the issues with him. When they happened. Addresss it as a group. You are all paying rent and you all need your space / stuff / whatever respected. If he is displaying a lack of respect for personal stuff then what are his boundaries???
    If nothing works... then start the a sytem of: "Teaching Brock." If he was drinking milk right out of the container, he is doing that elsewhere at home or where ever. Leave one container of milk at home open. Put some vinegar in the milk and leave it there. (make sure your room mates know) Make some Ex-lax brownies. Just a thought!


    Oh snap! We would make great roomies! icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 10, 2010 1:01 PM GMT
    I think you need to talk to him all of you and tell him what you feel maybe that would make him be better or tell him you would kick him out
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    Oct 10, 2010 1:07 PM GMT
    Address it openly, directly and if he does not like it he can leave.

    The point is that people have different standards.

    This is why I live alone.
  • LJay

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    Oct 10, 2010 1:10 PM GMT
    Sitting down--all together- and sorting it out is the hardest, but probably the best, thing to do.

    You might pitch it along the lines of "We need to have an understanding that we are not buying stuff for each other but individually, so w need to ask before using or eating someone else's. We also have to agree to share chores."

    Just clear the air. Then, if it continues, you have to get tough, maybe even ask the guy to leave.
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    Oct 10, 2010 1:22 PM GMT
    This sounds all to similar to what I just went through this past year. I had three roommates, two of them were just like your douchebag roommate. Left trash everywhere, didnt wash there dishes, never paid rent. Sadly I hate confrontation and tried ignoring it and picked up there slack. DO NOT DO THIS! It was the worst on my part. Best thing to do is talk to them right away and solve the issue . I now live in a much better apt with the one good roommate and life is much better. Good luck!
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    Oct 10, 2010 1:38 PM GMT
    Tell them to put some clothes on.
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  • sportsjockla

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    Oct 10, 2010 2:00 PM GMT
    I had a selfish roommate before. Buy him a book on, "Manners" and leave it on his bed. He'll get the hint. I hope.
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    Oct 10, 2010 6:10 PM GMT
    Thanks for all the advice guys, I appreciate it. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 10, 2010 6:22 PM GMT
    KardioKing saidThanks for all the advice guys, I appreciate it. icon_biggrin.gif


    Your welcome...lol

    This is just one of the "perks" of having roommates. Just man up and confront him. I used to be nice like you and never condemned friends for doing anything wrong just so there's "no awkwardness after that". You just have to learn to be tough. For some people that's the only way to send the message, if you overlook and dont say anything they assume that you are cool with their actions. You will be surprised that they actually react really well when you tell them in their face that you do not like something. Be casual about it. and good luck!
  • owen19832006

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    Oct 10, 2010 6:42 PM GMT
    punch the motherfucker for stealing your food!! HATE freeloaders
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 10, 2010 7:11 PM GMT
    I can understand why you'd want to avoid tension, but I think to be clear is most important. I'd talk to him directly about what is and isn't acceptable.
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    Oct 10, 2010 7:24 PM GMT
    "I don't want you eating my food without my permission."
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    Oct 10, 2010 7:26 PM GMT
    Roommates are evil. Being roommates can turn a best friend into a raging enemy in 2.5 seconds flat.