"Out of Your League..."

  • DaForgotten1

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    Oct 10, 2010 11:50 PM GMT
    I am finding out as I venture into this lifestyle more and more that gay guys are worst than str8 people when it comes to attitude. So many guys I've come across seriously think they are God's gift to man. I have had so many incidences where I hit up guys online just to say hi and I've had so many nasty responses. My most recent incident was I saw a profile online with a screenname I saw that reminded me of a TV character. So I asked was his screenname in reference to the TV show (of course not using those exact words). His immediate response was that I was out of his league and blocks me from sending him any future messages. I just though I'd share this with the site. I am sure others have had similar incidents. I just can't see why individuals can't be cordial or respectful to a fellow man, let alone a gay/bi/DL person when we already have enough discrimination and backlash from the general public. Its situations like this that make me reconsider wanting to venturing into the lifestyle any further....
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    Oct 10, 2010 11:54 PM GMT
    "Beauty is a curse." -Author unknown
    Well, unless you have a thick skin and don't give a fuck about what others think.
    Regardless of sexuality, most people will be assholes and a select few will be nice.
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    Oct 11, 2010 12:12 AM GMT
    The whole gay brotherhood thing is a myth. I still remember coming to that harsh realization. Like paul said, grow a thick skin and it won't matter all that much what others say or don't say.
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    Oct 11, 2010 12:24 AM GMT
    I've come across a few guys like that on here, and even on gay411. My advice...sometimes beauty comes without class. Meh.

    There's a long line of people who don't like me, take a number and wait your turn.
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    Oct 11, 2010 12:34 AM GMT
    DaForgotten1 saidI am finding out as I venture into this lifestyle more and more that gay guys are worst than str8 people when it comes to attitude. So many guys I've come across seriously think they are God's gift to man. I have had so many incidences where I hit up guys online just to say hi and I've had so many nasty responses. My most recent incident was I saw a profile online with a screenname I saw that reminded me of a TV character. So I asked was his screenname in reference to the TV show (of course not using those exact words). His immediate response was that I was out of his league and blocks me from sending him any future messages. I just though I'd share this with the site. I am sure others have had similar incidents. I just can't see why individuals can't be cordial or respectful to a fellow man, let alone a gay/bi/DL person when we already have enough discrimination and backlash from the general public. Its situations like this that make me reconsider wanting to venturing into the lifestyle any further....


    yes i posted a similar forum topic and got insulted repeatedly. most guys on here probably do think they are better than you. doesn't mean it's true. it's like sharks swimming to the chum(your sensitivity is the chum) in the water lol.
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    Oct 11, 2010 12:41 AM GMT
    hey dude,

    welcome to the gay world! Though the straight world offers as much attitude and disgrace as the gay world, you would think the gay world offered a crutch for young men entering the world to hold on to, while learning about the the dos and donts. Unfortunately, they do not exist.

    Though gaining a thicker skin is a typical response, I advise you to remember in this harsh world that if a man who does not meet your physical or otherwise appetite you not block him or disrespect him. I always learned to treat others the way I want to be treated and move on.

    Most insecure men are out of your league, you'll do fine brother. Keep you head up and keep moving forward.

    Mike
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    Oct 11, 2010 12:42 AM GMT
    Unfortunately, some like any other sub-groups are assholes in this world, is just a fact, they are inbreeds, idiots, without a sense of good manners and courtesy...they were raised by wolves and is just the way it is...the best like some folks have said is not to taking it personally and move on. I had a situation similar and the guy just advised me in one email that we were not a match and then proceed to block me for no apparent reason...I did the same on my end, but have learned to grow thicker titanium skin. You are right that you would think because of the discrimination we already endure that our own would not commit the same offense, but unfortunately is not the case. Also, this is the internet, so people can get away further without being in a social setting with people around them it would be a different story.
  • Jacob_dane

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    Oct 11, 2010 12:47 AM GMT
    So wait, he was saying you were too hot for him or he weren't hot enough for him.. because either way that's pretty much bullshit lol. and that's just really rude. who's to say you were even hitting on him.. you can't take assholes like that seriously.. you just have to brush it off and move right along.
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    Oct 11, 2010 12:50 AM GMT
    The sad truth is that a lot of gay men are very superficial and in their world looks and status are all that matter. The good news is that there are many gay men who are the warmest and nicest people you could ever meet and who tend to accept others unconditionally and don't judge. Having been out for well over a decade, I can tell you there isn't a gay "lifestyle" . There are gay guys all into the circuit scene and gay guys that are total home bodies and every thing in between. Be true to yourself,surround yourself with good people and you'll be fine.
  • metta

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    Oct 11, 2010 1:01 AM GMT
    Good for you for being willing to put yourself out there. I have never been able to do that. Esh, when RJ members were trying to make me motd, I got messages from a fake profile telling me that my smile was creepy and telling me to go kill myself, etc. It made someone really angry that they were trying to nominate me.

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  • awayfromtheci...

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    Oct 11, 2010 1:05 AM GMT
    Sadly the internet seems to give people permission to be real assholes. It is how they deal with their own insecurities. what people do on the internet - the best people would never do in person. find things that you really like to do and meet your guy doing those things in person. Have to take all of this with a huge grain of salt.
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    Oct 11, 2010 1:08 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidThe whole gay brotherhood thing is a myth. I still remember coming to that harsh realization. Like paul said, grow a thick skin and it won't matter all that much what others say or don't say.


    while the brotherhood of gays might not exist the brotherhood of tribes does. There are tribes for all of us to belong too.

    But the gay life is no different than st8...there are aholes in each group. But look past them and you will find a whole bunch of good, caring guys to date and have as friends.
  • metta

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    Oct 11, 2010 1:10 AM GMT
    ^
    agreed! thankfully, i have some very special people in my life, both straight and gay. icon_smile.gif
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Oct 11, 2010 1:13 AM GMT
    I don't think this is a gay thing, I think it's an asshole thing.

    The guy was stupid. Who preemptively decides they are not good enough for a random stranger?

    From my experience, cocktails and a nice smile can elevate anyone to anyone's league. I've been on both sides of that coin.
  • tkd1987

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    Oct 11, 2010 1:17 AM GMT
    Whenever I think about situations like this I always think of KARMA. All those people on here that have the good looks, but no class, treat others like they don't matter and are just a waste of space and call people ugly just because their looks don't fit their standards, yada yada. Those people tend to get knocked down a notch when something goes down in their lives where they are forced to rethink the way they treat people. Whether they get a taste of their own medicine or some HOT guy with the CLASS that they lack rejects them or embarasses them in the process. I also think of it as an insecurity or they're really lacking something. It's basic psychology 101
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    Oct 11, 2010 1:33 AM GMT
    soulman1969 saidThere's a long line of people who don't like me, take a number and wait your turn.
    I am SO stealing that line! icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 11, 2010 1:38 AM GMT
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    soulman1969 saidThere's a long line of people who don't like me, take a number and wait your turn.
    I am SO stealing that line! icon_lol.gif


    You're more than welcomed to Paul. I've actually used in life several times and people don't know how to come back to it other than "fuck off".lol
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    Oct 11, 2010 1:40 AM GMT
    I don't mean to be condescending or anything but do you think it is because of the way you write? I noticed that you were able to write this post using the proper spelling of all the words, for the most part (but whatever). However, when I read your profile, you are using the ghetto spelling of words. I also noticed that you are looking for "bruthas" which I guess explains why you spelled the words the way the way you did in your profile. Did send a message like "yo brutha, yo tite screen name hellz remindz me of mah homeboi mickey mouse."?

    I would be offended and give you a bitchy attitude too if I was black and received that message. I am not saying you did but I was just wondering. If you didn't then yeah some people are assholes.
  • turbid2wenty

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    Oct 11, 2010 2:05 AM GMT
    This is a site where folks will add you to a buddy list without ever actually meeting you in person, and then not have the courtesy to reply to an email...think about it.
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    Oct 11, 2010 2:10 AM GMT
    That's really terrible DaForgotten1. I've been treated equally badly by guys online and it's really made me think less of gay people. It's bad when they respond and equally bad to not hear back or they delete your message without reading it. Ugh.

    I've actually met nicer guys on here than most sites, of course they all live far away. Ha ha.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Oct 11, 2010 2:12 AM GMT
    bro, i feel your pain. i have come across a few people like that and recently. but like a few of the others stated on here. dude, you have to get thicker skin because there are always going to be assholes. however, i have met quite a few good guys on here too. one of them is a really good friend of mine so those that act like total douche bags tell them to fuck off.
    i do it all the time
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    Oct 11, 2010 2:13 AM GMT
    sashaman saidThe sad truth is that a lot of gay men are very superficial and in their world looks and status are all that matter. The good news is that there are many gay men who are the warmest and nicest people you could ever meet and who tend to accept others unconditionally and don't judge. Having been out for well over a decade, I can tell you there isn't a gay "lifestyle" . There are gay guys all into the circuit scene and gay guys that are total home bodies and every thing in between. Be true to yourself,surround yourself with good people and you'll be fine.



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    Oct 11, 2010 2:21 AM GMT
    Dont worry about him DF1. There are better fish in the sea.

    And do not give up on us so easily; many of us are not like that asshole.
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    Oct 11, 2010 2:27 AM GMT
    Interesting topic.

    Not sure that I have had the same experience as you, but I can say that most people have a reason for the way they treat others. Those that choose the "I'm better than you" route, generally suffer from deep insecurities coupled with a tendency to use their sexual appetite as a filter for making friends. The net result is they miss out on some potentially great friendships with amazing people.

    Don't be dismayed. There are millions of us. Our personalities are diverse and occupy the full spectrum of character traits. Consider yourself lucky enough to have the presence of mind to wade quickly through the shallow end of the pool. Those of us with authentic lives (and hearts) are waiting for you at the other end.

    D.
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    Oct 11, 2010 2:32 AM GMT
    man...no one is out of my league...if I want, I will go after it...if he's not interested...then...