Coming out to my mother on the national coming out day.

  • disasterpiece

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    Oct 12, 2010 7:38 AM GMT
    So this is it, it's finally done, I came out to my mother. It was definitely a huge step for me. Now, I still have to tell my father, and it'll happen very soon, but please, give me a break for now icon_razz.gif

    So yeah, I've been thinking about it for a long time. I moved from my parent's house this summer and since then, my relation with them has just kept getting better, especially with my father, that now tells me that he misses me, and that he loves me. When I get home, he hold me in his arms and call me "his son"... So yeah, that gives you an idea ;)

    So I wanted to come out to them sunday, actually, but I couldn't find a moment where I'd be alone with my mother. Just before going out with some friends, I was waiting in the basement, hoping that the occasion would show, but it didn't. I went to the car and hesitated. I didn't want to go without telling her. Then I started the car, got on the street, did a u-turn 2 minutes later and got back in front of the house, then went again. I was really torn...

    I was kinda upsed and dissapointed. I WANTED to tell her, it had to come out. When I came back home, I connected on the RJ Forums and learned that today was the National Coming Out Day. How. Fucking. Ironic.

    I called it synchronicity, and by then, I couldn't do anything but tell her today.

    So at one point, we were the two of us outside, just taking some good time under the sun. I knew it was the moment, and I was thinking about it, but the words wouldn't come out. It was SO FUCKING HARD.

    My friend called to say she'd pick me in about 20 minutes. It was now or never. So I told her, very fast. First, she said "Oh yes, are you sure ?" and I confirmed. She obviously was trying to find a "hope" that I could still be straight or bi... It's a classic, and I forgive her. I thought she had doubts about it, but told me "I asked you back in high school and you said no, so I stopped doubting".

    After that, I had to convince her that I could still have babies. And I told her that it wouldn't change who I am, and my personality. She agreed, and told me I would always be her son and she'd always love me, anyways.

    She then hold me in her arms and started crying a bit. She then told me "I'm shedding a little tear, but it's not because your gay, it's because I love you".

    So in the end it was great. I'll never forget this moment, nor this day. It's a whole new life, now...

    Thanks for your support, everyone ! Keep rocking my (virtual) world icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 12, 2010 12:31 PM GMT
    Congrats handsome!
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    Oct 12, 2010 12:40 PM GMT
    *sheds tear*
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    Oct 12, 2010 1:25 PM GMT
    congratulations!!!!!!!!!!! what a wonderful experience! :-)
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    Oct 12, 2010 1:38 PM GMT
    Congrats and what a great story.

    Welcome to the world of Out.
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    Oct 12, 2010 1:47 PM GMT
    congrats! good luck with your dad!
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    Oct 12, 2010 2:04 PM GMT
    Congrats! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 12, 2010 2:05 PM GMT
    Happy Day
    I find it interesting that she had asked you earlier and you said no.
    My mom had asked me years before I was ready too.
    I’ve always wondered why she asked and/or knew before I knew myself.
  • jmanorlando

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    Oct 12, 2010 2:11 PM GMT
    Congrats, when I told my parents it was on the phone and I had been waiting weeks for just the right moment but when it arrived it was right. And still is great - congrats and good luck with your Dad.
  • Karnage

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    Oct 12, 2010 2:14 PM GMT
    Congrats! It's always a great feeling to have that off you shoulders, no matter how the conversation goes. Good luck with your dad!
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    Oct 12, 2010 6:34 PM GMT
    The way you describe your conversation w your mom, gives me a vibe that your dad will take it just as well ;D good luck.

    let's know if your dad gets all emotional too lol.
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Oct 12, 2010 6:45 PM GMT
    YAY I'm so happy for you, and thanks for making cry ass hole ;D
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    Oct 12, 2010 7:24 PM GMT
    I'm extremely happy that telling your mother went well for you and I hope your dad takes it just as well icon_biggrin.gif .
  • awayfromtheci...

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    Oct 12, 2010 11:01 PM GMT
    So proud of you! Best wishes....
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    Oct 12, 2010 11:12 PM GMT
    extremely happy for you and mom.....keithicon_cool.gif
  • RSportsguy

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    Oct 12, 2010 11:27 PM GMT
    Congrats! Your family sounds awesome!! icon_biggrin.gif
  • Geoedward

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    Oct 13, 2010 12:01 AM GMT
    diasasterpiece,
    What a beautiful story and congratulations. Your mom sounds like a very special lady. I am so happy for you. Your dad sounds like a good man as well. Good luck when you talk to him. George
  • cg220

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    Oct 13, 2010 12:05 AM GMT
    What a great story, congrats. My eyes welled up a bit reading iticon_smile.gif
  • disasterpiece

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    Oct 13, 2010 4:55 AM GMT
    Thanks again for your support, guys !

    My parents are, in fact, amazing. I didn't realize it until I moved from home, but now, I can feel it everytime I'm seeing them.

    My father works for the city and he's partnered with a transexual (girl that became a man) and he accepts her and even protect her against work bullies (he actually told "Shut the fuck up" to a guy that called him/her "the bearded women"). I also had a light argument with him about that ice skater that was dressed like a queen at the Vancouver Olympics, and he was actually taking the gay's defense icon_smile.gif

    He also had 2 gay brothers and overall, if he still have classic prejudice against some gay people, he's really accepting... Though, I guess it's a whole other story when it comes to your own son.

    Anyways ! It's the next and final step to being really free. I'll let you know, for sure, how it went. And then I might write something about my whole coming out process, something that you could probably relate too, and something that I've been thinking about for a while now...

    ... Only thing that sucks is that my english expression is quite limited, and I can't always picture the moment as good as I'd do it in french icon_rolleyes.gif

    Anyways ! Again, and again, love you guys ! Thanks for the support !

    P.S. : For those who haven't came out yet and are reading this, I hope my story somehow inspired you. Coming out cannot be easy. I thought it would be, and it wasn't. The words are not coming out, you get out of breath, you're trying to convince yourself that you should wait again, but do it, for your own sake, do it. In the end, no matter what happened, it'll be one of your greatest accomplishment in life : being who you are in front of whom gave you life, a shelter, and hopefully, an infinite load of love.
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    Oct 13, 2010 5:02 AM GMT
    Way to go! Congrats!
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    Oct 13, 2010 5:08 AM GMT
    Can I get a whoop whoop!

    CONGRATS!!!!!
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    Oct 13, 2010 5:11 AM GMT
    Inspirational.

    Wish my parents would act the same way icon_sad.gif
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Oct 13, 2010 5:16 AM GMT
    great jobicon_biggrin.gificon_wink.gif. it isnt easy but U R THE MAN.
  • bolero_of_fir...

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    Oct 13, 2010 5:20 AM GMT
    dustin_K_tx saidHappy Day
    I find it interesting that she had asked you earlier and you said no.
    My mom had asked me years before I was ready too.
    I’ve always wondered why she asked and/or knew before I knew myself.

    It's because moms always know.
  • Crucializer

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    Oct 13, 2010 5:21 AM GMT
    Awesome and congrats! I hope things go just as well with Dad! icon_biggrin.gif