You meet a great guy, but he discloses he's celibate. Do you...

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    Oct 12, 2010 8:28 PM GMT
    a) Drop him on the spot because there is no promise of sex.

    b) Consider it a challenge and stick around because you know you can break this so called celibacy barrier.

    c) Continue seeing this guy even though there is no promise of sex.

    d) Other?
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    Oct 12, 2010 8:34 PM GMT
    d) Tell him it's ok, I charge anyway and he probably can't afford it.
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    Oct 12, 2010 9:23 PM GMT

    Somewhere in between B and C.
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    Oct 12, 2010 9:51 PM GMT
    I'd want to know why he was celibate and if it was a permanent decision or one he'd change for the right guy.
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    Oct 12, 2010 10:07 PM GMT
    Timberoo saidI'd want to know why he was celibate and if it was a permanent decision or one he'd change for the right guy.


    Let's say...personal life choice, no promise of change. Though your answer actually falls in between options 'a' and 'b'.
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    Oct 12, 2010 10:23 PM GMT
    Miguel, being a wise and sensitive man, you probably already know the answer is in your heart. You are pulled between the heart and the body, tough decision but no one on earth can give you the right answer - except you. May not be what you wanted to hear, but then again, you'll do what is right......on the other hand, i could track him down and make him disappear for ya...no chargeicon_wink.gif

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    Oct 12, 2010 10:30 PM GMT
    vetteset saidMiguel, being a wise and sensitive man, you probably already know the answer is in your heart. You are pulled between the heart and the body, tough decision but no one on earth can give you the right answer - except you. May not be what you wanted to hear, but then again, you'll do what is right......on the other hand, i could track him down and make him disappear for ya...no chargeicon_wink.gif

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    Wait who said this was about me ;p Also on the topic of celibacy, it's one of the most freeing choices I've ever made. The past is the past, and I'm excited to look forward now.
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    Oct 12, 2010 10:33 PM GMT
    I'd want to know why he's celibate
    and if the reason is valid .... yet I can't think of a good one off the top of my head
    If it's valid ... I'd be ok with that
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    Oct 12, 2010 10:35 PM GMT
    B- of course...
    No/body can turn this down...NOBODYicon_exclaim.gif
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    Oct 12, 2010 10:37 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo said
    vetteset saidMiguel, being a wise and sensitive man, you probably already know the answer is in your heart. You are pulled between the heart and the body, tough decision but no one on earth can give you the right answer - except you. May not be what you wanted to hear, but then again, you'll do what is right......on the other hand, i could track him down and make him disappear for ya...no chargeicon_wink.gif

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    Wait who said this was about me ;p Also on the topic of celibacy, it's one of the most freeing choices I've ever made. The past is the past, and I'm excited to look forward now.


    My apologies.....jumping to self drawn conclusions.....icon_redface.gif

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    Oct 12, 2010 10:40 PM GMT
    GQjock saidI'd want to know why he's celibate
    and if the reason is valid .... yet I can't think of a good one off the top of my head



    What if they don't enjoy sex in any regard, and choose to abstain from it altogether, yet they still enjoy the (non-sexual) company of men.

    I guess what the thread is driving at is would you invest the time into someone if you already know beforehand it won't lead to any sex?
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    Oct 12, 2010 10:42 PM GMT
    I do it all the time, it's called friendship.....Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Oct 12, 2010 11:21 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo said
    Timberoo saidI'd want to know why he was celibate and if it was a permanent decision or one he'd change for the right guy.


    Let's say...personal life choice, no promise of change. Though your answer actually falls in between options 'a' and 'b'.


    I'd say that I would be ok with a relationship with him if he didn't mind me having sex with someone else.
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    Oct 12, 2010 11:31 PM GMT
    Good question. I need to ask one as well.

    Would the man smitten with you, like you are with him?
    If so, then I think you'd have to agree to be celibate, or become very good friends with your hand, or agree to have an open relationship. (oh I hear the bigots running over here now from other topics, lol)

    ...or you'd both have to decide to just remain friends.

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    Oct 12, 2010 11:33 PM GMT
    Timberoo said
    Ciarsolo said
    Timberoo saidI'd want to know why he was celibate and if it was a permanent decision or one he'd change for the right guy.


    Let's say...personal life choice, no promise of change. Though your answer actually falls in between options 'a' and 'b'.


    I'd say that I would be ok with a relationship with him if he didn't mind me having sex with someone else.


    I think that's actually the checkmate of this topic. Much as I didn't want it to be because it's a sucky yet fair compromise icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 12, 2010 11:48 PM GMT
    i don't really want an open relationship, so him being celibate would mean that i must also be celibate. i don't want someone else to make that decision for me and i likely wouldn't choose to be celibate so i don't think it could work out for me.

    i'm A but it's not because there's no promise of sex. it's because it's condemning me to not having sex, as the other person in this.
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    Oct 13, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    a........
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    Oct 13, 2010 12:35 AM GMT
    Get him drunk and fuck the shit out of him.

  • Oct 13, 2010 12:41 AM GMT
    Well whats funny is that the true definition of Celibacy is no sex untill you are married. Being that we can not get married in like 45 states....HUMMMM interesting. Sex is a big part of a relationship.. not the only part, but it does play a role.

    Now if he says I have to wait for 3 months, 6 months, a year or whatever, then if the vibe is right and l feel that I want to be with him long term...it is worth the wait!
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    Oct 13, 2010 12:46 AM GMT
    A
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    Oct 13, 2010 12:53 AM GMT
    depends on how I feel about him I guess.. the way I feel right now, that would be an immediate dealbreaker
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    Oct 13, 2010 1:06 AM GMT
    C.

    The whole purpose of dating someone is not for the promise of sex (at least not with me). I can wait and don't need it to survive. I'd find another reason not to date a person but the lack of sex wouldn't be one of them. That's a personal choice and I can respect that. Besides that who's to say that things won't change and he ends up wanting it as bad as I do over time?
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    Oct 13, 2010 1:09 AM GMT
    C. He may turn around and besides which if he's that great a guy he's worth the effort right? Good guys are hard to find and plus if he's celibate you know he's clean and not cheating on you.
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    Oct 13, 2010 1:11 AM GMT
    if he's celibate why is he even meeting anyone?

    I'd drop him. He may be lying to you. Regardless, it will lead nowhere.
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    Oct 13, 2010 1:15 AM GMT
    CaliBoySwag saidif he's celibate why is he even meeting anyone?

    I'd drop him. He may be lying to you. Regardless, it will lead nowhere.


    He still enjoys meeting people for the sheer joy of companionship.

    And I'm not lying icon_wink.gif