Having sex with your neighbor?

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    Oct 13, 2010 6:33 AM GMT
    Would you guys do it? Any interesting complications?


    So, my upstairs neighbor whom is another PhD student asked me out for drinks later this week. We've kind of been meaning to catch each other at our not so busy times, but this is the second time he's asked me.

    He's all tatooed up and a total nerd like me. He's really hot in such a good way. I've kinda fantasized about this for months. This is my dilemma.

  • owen19832006

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    Oct 13, 2010 6:55 AM GMT
    neighbours and sex = problems
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    Oct 13, 2010 7:19 AM GMT
    Sounds like a bad idea to me. Whatever you do...don't get into a relationship with him.
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    Oct 13, 2010 7:24 AM GMT
    hauptstimme saidWould you guys do it? Any interesting complications?


    So, my upstairs neighbor whom is another PhD student asked me out for drinks later this week. We've kind of been meaning to catch each other at our not so busy times, but this is the second time he's asked me.

    He's all tatooed up and a total nerd like me. He's really hot in such a good way. I've kinda fantasized about this for months. This is my dilemma.



    How is this a problem?
    You fancy him, hes interested, thats a green light.
    GO!
    Have fun! icon_biggrin.gif
  • swimbikerun

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    Oct 13, 2010 7:42 AM GMT
    Regrets about life are often heaviest for the things we never did. Go out with him! And take pictures. Lots.
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    Oct 13, 2010 8:05 AM GMT
    You are neighbours in an apartment building, I'm assuming? And probably renting there? So eventually, you will move out? Probably not much of a problem. Not like you have a mortgage or realtors to deal with if things go awkward. So, you date a little. Maybe fool around. And if it doesn't work out and you have awkward moments in the elevator or mail room, so what. Life goes that way.

    None of my neighbours are worth looking at.
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    Oct 13, 2010 8:08 AM GMT
    Been, done, t-shirt(s).
    And I'd do it again. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 13, 2010 8:46 AM GMT
    Truly I just really need to fuck.

    I think I'm going for it.
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    Oct 13, 2010 8:47 AM GMT
    Too close to home for me icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 13, 2010 8:53 AM GMT
    hauptstimme saidTruly I just really need to fuck.

    I think I'm going for it.
    It all depends on how you handle it. If he seems like he's going to be clingy, don't do it, unless the clingy feeling is mutual. The last thing you want is him getting attached, then jealous when you have someone else over and he sees it. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 13, 2010 9:09 AM GMT
    I dated my neighbor too when I lived on my own, it was fun! i guess its a case by case thing.
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    Oct 13, 2010 9:51 AM GMT
    hauptstimme saidTruly I just really need to fuck.

    I think I'm going for it.


    This is not going to end well.

    Are you prepared to lose your security deposit? Remember, most landlords don't like it when renters terminate their contracts.
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    Oct 13, 2010 9:58 AM GMT
    hauptstimme saidTruly I just really need to fuck.

    I think I'm going for it.


    Go for it......

    My neighbor, who lives a couple houses down, was in the same family situation a few years ago. One night after a few beers found ourselves fucking each other dearly. It’s never turned romantic; just two single dads that turned into good fuck buddies and support.
  • GQjock

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    Oct 13, 2010 10:03 AM GMT
    In a good way when you're done for the night icon_cool.gif
    you don't have far to travel

    .... but then if and when the love goes south it could make for some awkward moments in the elevator
  • turbid2wenty

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    Oct 13, 2010 11:28 AM GMT
    hauptstimme said He's really hot in such a good way. I've kinda fantasized about this for months.


    This isn't necessarily going to play out in person the way it has in your head. You won't know until you go out. Don't go into it with any expectations.
  • Latenight30

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    Oct 13, 2010 12:21 PM GMT
    maybe the neighbor is having the same conflict. Think about it, it's just sex. It's at least convenient
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    Oct 13, 2010 12:24 PM GMT
    Whay do you instantly think is sex he wants maybe that guy just likes to talk to you.
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    Oct 13, 2010 12:27 PM GMT
    Hmmm...

    I met this guy online and we were in the same neighborhood. When we decided to meet up, he was just literally across my building and the same building complex.

    It was pretty convenient. We dated for a few. But when it was over, it was pretty weird still seeing him here and there in the front entrance of the building. So uhmm... its good and bad, depending on how you guys met.

    If you met just for sex, yay, otherwise, uhmm.. not really.

    But do not assume that he's after sex right away. If you are lusting after him, well, drop some hints and let him make some moves first, you don't want to be embarrassed if he only wants to be friends and you potentially losing a possible good gay-friend-neighbor that you can hang and who knows, be really good friends with.
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    Oct 13, 2010 12:57 PM GMT
    Dude, go for the drink, relax, and see what happens. And if you get yourself some then All the better!
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    Oct 13, 2010 1:19 PM GMT
    My neighbors all seem to be hot
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 13, 2010 1:24 PM GMT
    It would be interesting if I had a hot gay couple or gay single guy as a neighbor.
    Nothing would happen, but it would be fun to see what (if anything) would be acknowledged if I had a hot guy down the "cul de sac"... LOL

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    Oct 13, 2010 1:32 PM GMT
    Why not?

    Just not thy neighbor's wife. Or husband. But both at the same time is OK.



  • LJay

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    Oct 13, 2010 2:12 PM GMT
    Had a neighbor drop some heavy hints once. Didn't go for it. Still regret it.
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    Oct 13, 2010 2:14 PM GMT
    hauptstimme saidTruly I just really need to fuck.

    I think I'm going for it.


    Wel yeah of course, truly why not????
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    Oct 13, 2010 2:16 PM GMT
    Until you plan on borrowing a whole lot of sugar and milk in future, go ahead and fulfill your fantasy, maybe it will turn out to be more than a fantasy thing.