Straight guys flirting with gay guys

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    Oct 14, 2010 3:34 AM GMT
    Especially if they know that you are a musculine gay BUT it doesn't mean anything. It doesn't mean that he wants to sleep with you or want a blowjob from you. I guess it's fun for them seeing how a gay guy gets flustered by their amazing flirtiness. Oh please....I know the game, biatch. It's the game of who will show their true colors first. They want to know whether you are interested in them just because they flirt with you. They want to know whether you'll suck their dick when they are bored. I'm not going to fall for that trap, please. Sure, if you are a horny gay who cares nothing about your self-esteem than a dick, go ahead, suck him off and dump him. But you are better off than that. Guys like pursuing things that are difficult to figure out. So they will try harder and harder and once you show your interest in them, it's game over for them. They won. The question is whether you want to play their game and lose or play their game and win- which is the point when they will want you so bad but you saying no to them. Checkmate! You won! because he is the one who confess that he wants you and you rejected him. icon_twisted.gif

    It is what's happening to me right now. So, yeah, I can see his flirting coming along and he's so full of himself. I want to see who has the last laugh.

    I will keep you guys posted on the events. This will be my first post of many series. lol
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    Oct 14, 2010 4:02 AM GMT
    Some straight guys just love the attention and it's not necessarily a game of winning or losing.
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    Oct 14, 2010 4:06 PM GMT
    Lots of straight guys flirt with the gay guys they feel comfortable around.
    Only the closeted guys will eventually ask for more.
    A truly straight guy will keep at the level of platonic flirting.
    Only the wise gay guys can tell the difference. icon_wink.gif
  • SoDakGuy

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    Oct 14, 2010 4:12 PM GMT
    Actually, paulflexes is right. I've flirted back w/ straight guys and part of me would LOVE to go further, but I let the straight guys lead to that. icon_lol.gif


    paulflexes saidLots of straight guys flirt with the gay guys they feel comfortable around.
    Only the closeted guys will eventually ask for more.
    A truly straight guy will keep at the level of platonic flirting.
    Only the wise gay guys can tell the difference. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 14, 2010 4:14 PM GMT
    The area between black and white is increasing exponentially daily…soon we will need straight-dar.
  • gumbosolo

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    Oct 14, 2010 4:15 PM GMT
    Flirting is something many confident people do almost instinctively. It's not always intended to be manipulative.

    But when it is, by all means retaliate. icon_smile.gif
  • LifeByTheHorn

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    Oct 14, 2010 4:28 PM GMT
    This happens to me very frequently. Sometimes they plan the staring game and turn their head when I look back. When they feel like they're caught in the act, they blush! Some get closer and closer and pretend like they do this naturally without any effect . LOL. And then.... try to chat me up! Some even tried " coincidental" rubbing!!!!! icon_smile.gif

    They should embrace the bisexuality within all the men, like the olden days in Egyptian, Greek, Roman, Byzantine, Ottoman times. Social conditioning is so severe in many so called "straight" guys, they can not let themselves loose. Poor, poor maaaaaaaan!
  • CapricornKC

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    Oct 14, 2010 4:32 PM GMT
    frenchatheart saidEspecially if they know that you are a musculine gay BUT it doesn't mean anything. It doesn't mean that he wants to sleep with you or want a blowjob from you. I guess it's fun for them seeing how a gay guy gets flustered by their amazing flirtiness. Oh please....I know the game, biatch. It's the game of who will show their true colors first. They want to know whether you are interested in them just because they flirt with you. They want to know whether you'll suck their dick when they are bored. I'm not going to fall for that trap, please. Sure, if you are a horny gay who cares nothing about your self-esteem than a dick, go ahead, suck him off and dump him. But you are better off than that. Guys like pursuing things that are difficult to figure out. So they will try harder and harder and once you show your interest in them, it's game over for them. They won. The question is whether you want to play their game and lose or play their game and win- which is the point when they will want you so bad but you saying no to them. Checkmate! You won! because he is the one who confess that he wants you and you rejected him. icon_twisted.gif

    It is what's happening to me right now. So, yeah, I can see his flirting coming along and he's so full of himself. I want to see who has the last laugh.

    I will keep you guys posted on the events. This will be my first post of many series. lol


    HA!!!

    You rock hot stuff!
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    Oct 14, 2010 4:51 PM GMT
    There was a really interesting article in OUT magazine about this, when straight guys flirt with gay guys.

    Many of the men responded that they "practice" those flirting skills with other men prior to using them on women.

    So gay men are a good test bed (testing ground) prior to putting them into action in a heterosexual setting.

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    Oct 14, 2010 4:55 PM GMT
    frenchatheart saidEspecially if they know that you are a musculine gay BUT it doesn't mean anything. It doesn't mean that he wants to sleep with you or want a blowjob from you. I guess it's fun for them seeing how a gay guy gets flustered by their amazing flirtiness. Oh please....I know the game, biatch. It's the game of who will show their true colors first. They want to know whether you are interested in them just because they flirt with you. They want to know whether you'll suck their dick when they are bored. I'm not going to fall for that trap, please. Sure, if you are a horny gay who cares nothing about your self-esteem than a dick, go ahead, suck him off and dump him. But you are better off than that. Guys like pursuing things that are difficult to figure out. So they will try harder and harder and once you show your interest in them, it's game over for them. They won. The question is whether you want to play their game and lose or play their game and win- which is the point when they will want you so bad but you saying no to them. Checkmate! You won! because he is the one who confess that he wants you and you rejected him. icon_twisted.gif

    It is what's happening to me right now. So, yeah, I can see his flirting coming along and he's so full of himself. I want to see who has the last laugh.

    I will keep you guys posted on the events. This will be my first post of many series. lol


    I have a straight classmate with whom I've flirted for about a year. He's handsome. But he says he's straight, and I have no interest in "converting" him, especially since he's my friend. We flirt with each other constantly, but it's all in fun. Our classmates find it funny too. I would never hook up with him--even if he initiated something. At the end of the day, I know why I flirt with him: He's a cute, easy-going guy and I'm fond of him. There's nothing more to it.
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    Oct 14, 2010 5:07 PM GMT
    gumbosolo saidFlirting is something many confident people do almost instinctively. It's not always intended to be manipulative.

    But when it is, by all means retaliate. icon_smile.gif


    I'll have to keep this in mind, currently there is a guy in my math classes who i believe must be straight, but from the first day we met has kinda gone out of his way to talk to me. I think he's a nice guy and all, but it is kinda awkward when he turns pink every time there is extended eye contact between the two of usicon_redface.gif. Maybe I am reading it completely wrong. I don't know. I just don't feel like playing the game.
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    Oct 14, 2010 5:31 PM GMT
    Where are these "straight flirting with gay" guys??? I need a couple of them, actually just one will do.
  • tongun18

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    Oct 14, 2010 5:41 PM GMT
    I was glad to see this post and all of your guys' views on this, I've just started to deal with something like this, at least I think so. A "straight" trainer at my gym has always been a bit on the friendly side with me. I didn't think much of it until a few of us from the gym (including the trainer) got together to hang out one night. Well the size of my feet came up compared to my height (size 12, 5'8") and most of the guys were making fun of my clown-sized shoes but the trainer says under his breath, "that's explains your big dick". He didn't say it loud enough for anyone else to hear and I was caught off guard so I acted as though I hadn't heard it either. Thing is, this guy has never even seen me with my shirt off, so where was that coming from? He made a similar comment a few days later, this time at the gym and loud enough for several people to hear. What do you guys think, platonic flirting or something more? Gotta admit he did catch my eye when I first saw him, he's good looking and ripped! But I wrote him off when I found out he was straight, should he go back on the list?
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    Oct 14, 2010 5:53 PM GMT
    Define "straight."
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    Oct 14, 2010 6:01 PM GMT
    your straight friend may do is to flirt with gay guys. Yes, flirt. These straights do not love you, or feel for you, they are just natural gay flirts. You see these boys everywhere, enough to make you crazy wondering if they are hitting on you or what. These straight guys would want your attention, and would even go as far as bugging you just to get it. They talk to you, slap your butt, but they are more of players, I’d tell you that. Why do they do it? Simple. They are egomaniacs, these straight men are. They love the attention that they get from you, much more, they feed on the idea that they can make you squirm and scream inside with just a single smile from them. Show offs.
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    Oct 14, 2010 6:04 PM GMT
    Does this make me the equivalent of the giggly, ugly fat girl in the friendship?
  • neosyllogy

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    Oct 14, 2010 6:05 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidLots of straight guys flirt with the gay guys they feel comfortable around.
    Only the closeted guys will eventually ask for more.
    A truly straight guy will keep at the level of platonic flirting.
    Only the wise gay guys can tell the difference. icon_wink.gif


    Yeah, let's not confuse "closeted flirting" with being playful.
    Straight guys comfortable with their sexuality will often flirt, even grope eachother and straight guys (I have a friend in the restaurant industry, and I swear they all rape eachother with clothes on! Straight & gay. icon_smile.gif ). Not everyone feels the need to take such things seriously.

    Maybe that's not what you're talking about, but then I really have no idea what you're talking about.
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    Oct 14, 2010 6:12 PM GMT
    mickeytopogigio saidDoes this make me the equivalent of the giggly, ugly fat girl in the friendship?


    YES
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    Oct 14, 2010 6:36 PM GMT
    There's no such thing as "straight" guys. Give a straight guy enough beer and he will gladly suck your dick.
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    Oct 14, 2010 6:36 PM GMT
    Maybe it's just me but when a guy is flirting with me the first thing that comes to mind is not "he must be 100% straight." If he's "joking" with you or mocking you than he has more of a problem with himself rather than a problem with you.

    Sexuality can be complicated but straight guys don't flirt with gay guys. Curious, bisexual or gay guys flirt with other curious, bisexual or gay guys.
  • BlackBeltGuy

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    Oct 14, 2010 6:38 PM GMT
    unfounded7 saidSome straight guys just love the attention and it's not necessarily a game of winning or losing.


    correct. I meet a lot of them in the karate circles and they know im a homo.
    some have higher rank than I some dont.. they still flirt
  • tongun18

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    Oct 14, 2010 6:39 PM GMT
    You seem more than a little angry about the whole situation frenchatheart. I think maybe you place too much importance on the act of flirting. To me, the fact that you're investing this much time and energy into the matter means the straight, flirting guy really did get to you--he wins, even if he isn't aware of it. If you really want to win, ignore it and move on.
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    Oct 14, 2010 6:45 PM GMT
    Aint nuthin wrong with a lil flirtin. icon_wink.gif
    The problem starts when one of them goes beyond the playing.
    Dont go there.
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    Oct 14, 2010 7:42 PM GMT
    Straight guys flirt with each other even. If you've ever been involved with the fraternity rushing process it's sometimes indistinguishable from the dating and courtship behaviors.
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    Oct 14, 2010 7:45 PM GMT
    I don't think it's a big deal. Heck, I'll even flirt with a good-looking woman. It doesn't mean I want to sleep with her. It's an ego boost at times.