Sex on the First Date?

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    Oct 14, 2010 5:05 PM GMT
    Having developed my dating habits and skills in a sexually charged culture and environment, I have observed that having sex on the first date is almost an expectation.

    Is having sex on the first date a bad thing?
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    Oct 14, 2010 5:06 PM GMT
    If you're Sandra Dee it might be otherwise not
  • mondo_trasho

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    Oct 15, 2010 8:50 AM GMT
    Yes please! Does that make me a slut? Haha! Who gives a shit. If God hates fags, might as well be a slut.
  • mondo_trasho

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    Oct 15, 2010 8:52 AM GMT
    But, seriously. It should be with someone you see as long term realtionship potential, or else you are selling yourself short. And keep it safe boys! (Pardon the improper grammar).
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    Oct 15, 2010 8:57 AM GMT
    Agreeing fully with Mondo Trasho here
  • alphatop

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    Oct 15, 2010 9:00 AM GMT
    Whaaa? Sex on the first date? Are you that much of a slut???

    The answer is WHY NOTicon_smile.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 15, 2010 9:01 AM GMT
    I guess it depends on what your looking for and each persons expectations. If you like the person and your exploring the possibility of a relationship, I would personally hold off a little to see if the guy has a genuine interest in me.

    If you meet someone off a gay dating/hookup site then its fair to expect the other person is probably looking for some action. You probably are as well, so have fun icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 19, 2010 6:26 PM GMT
    mondo_trasho saidBut, seriously. It should be with someone you see as long term realtionship potential, or else you are selling yourself short. And keep it safe boys! (Pardon the improper grammar).


    1) Why is there a correlation with LTR potential and selling oneself short?
    2) Yes, always keep it safe.
  • rnch

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    Oct 19, 2010 6:29 PM GMT
    why would it be a bad thing?

    gay men are not looking for a "till death do us part" virgin...we want someone who will satisfy ALL our needs.

    my current bf and I did everything up to insertion sex on our first and several dates...over 2 1/2 years together and we are still rocking each other's world! icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 19, 2010 6:35 PM GMT
    I may get blasted for this but sex on the first date is never an option for me. It's not even discussed. The most I may do on a first date is a kiss on the lips and/or cheek, a hug, holding hands, walking arm in arm, or resting my or his head on the shoulders.

    Call me old-fashioned or a prude or a spinster but this is just my personal. Telling guys this upfront really weeds out the good from the bad. I'd rather know someone in a non-sexual way.
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    Oct 19, 2010 6:35 PM GMT
    Not a bad thing in my opinion.... But I have stopped sex on the first date lately....
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    Oct 19, 2010 6:44 PM GMT
    cmhoh1985 saidI may get blasted for this but sex on the first date is never an option for me. It's not even discussed. The most I may do on a first date is a kiss on the lips and/or cheek, a hug, holding hands, walking arm in arm, or resting my or his head on the shoulders.

    Call me old-fashioned or a prude or a spinster but this is just my personal preference. Besides, I like to be called names at times! icon_razz.gif


    Wow, very interesting.
    For me "holding hands, walking arm in arm, or resting my or his head on the shoulders" is a sign of more serious attachment which I don't think I would be able to do unless I really liked the guy - probably not possible on the first dates. That stuff is much more serious (IMO) than safe sex on the first date.
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    Oct 19, 2010 6:49 PM GMT
    BuddyinNYC said
    cmhoh1985 saidI may get blasted for this but sex on the first date is never an option for me. It's not even discussed. The most I may do on a first date is a kiss on the lips and/or cheek, a hug, holding hands, walking arm in arm, or resting my or his head on the shoulders.

    Call me old-fashioned or a prude or a spinster but this is just my personal preference. Besides, I like to be called names at times! icon_razz.gif


    Wow, very interesting.
    For me "holding hands, walking arm in arm, or resting my or his head on the shoulders" is a sign of more serious attachment which I don't think I would be able to do unless I really liked the guy - probably not possible on the first dates. That stuff is much more serious (IMO) than safe sex on the first date.


    I know; I'm a bit of an oddity. I would definitely walk arm in arm with a guy on the first date if it progressed along well enough. But, I would almost always give a guy a good-bye hug and if it went well, a kiss on the cheek.
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    Oct 19, 2010 6:50 PM GMT
    How the hell do you know if you want to date him a second time if you don't have sex on the first date?
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    Oct 19, 2010 6:51 PM GMT
    Sex on the first date is a sign of low self-worth, not to mention disgusting.
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    Oct 19, 2010 6:52 PM GMT
    JoeB1986 saidSex on the first date is a sign of low self-worth, not to mention disgusting.


    fuck you
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    Oct 19, 2010 6:54 PM GMT
    TheProduct said
    JoeB1986 saidSex on the first date is a sign of low self-worth, not to mention disgusting.


    fuck you


    Bwahaha. Sorry. I'm laying in bed sick and feeling judgemental.
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    Oct 19, 2010 6:54 PM GMT
    JoeB1986 saidSex on the first date is a sign of low self-worth, not to mention disgusting.



    +Judge+Not+Unless+You+Can+Walk+On+Water+
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    Oct 19, 2010 6:55 PM GMT
    JoeB1986 said
    TheProduct said
    JoeB1986 saidSex on the first date is a sign of low self-worth, not to mention disgusting.


    fuck you


    Bwahaha. Sorry. I'm laying in bed sick and feeling judgemental.


    see, being uptight and sexually repressed caused you to get sick. i have sex on the first date and i never get sick, so there.
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    Oct 19, 2010 6:58 PM GMT
    Why is it so important to have sex on the first date?

    Would any of you continue to see a guy if he didn't want to have sex on the first date or thereafter?
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    Oct 19, 2010 7:03 PM GMT
    In this day and age, does it really matter? Gay people tend to be the victims of sexual hang-ups. Let's not be a slave to them. I'm not really into sex on the first date, but I'm not going to judge those who are. Fill your boots!
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    Oct 19, 2010 7:03 PM GMT
    TheProduct said
    JoeB1986 saidSex on the first date is a sign of low self-worth, not to mention disgusting.


    fuck you


    (Different response but same sentiment.)
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    Oct 19, 2010 7:04 PM GMT
    TheProduct said
    JoeB1986 saidSex on the first date is a sign of low self-worth, not to mention disgusting.


    Whatever you say Sandra
  • Timbales

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    Oct 19, 2010 7:06 PM GMT
    I'm not really a 'sex on the first date' type person. Generally, I enjoy sex a lot more with someone I've gotten to know and feel comfortable with.

    If not putting out on the first date is a deal-breaker, I guess I'd be a lonely guy.
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    Oct 19, 2010 7:06 PM GMT
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    JoeB1986 said
    TheProduct said
    JoeB1986 saidSex on the first date is a sign of low self-worth, not to mention disgusting.


    fuck you


    Bwahaha. Sorry. I'm laying in bed sick and feeling judgemental.


    see, being uptight and sexually repressed caused you to get sick. i have sex on the first date and i never get sick, so there.


    lol - I'm not uptight. And being sick probably comes from being stuck 6 days a week at a university full of other sick fools during cold/flu season! Take care man, no hard feelings!