What makes people ignore my messages?

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    Oct 15, 2010 1:53 AM GMT
    Is it something about my profile that says i'm a bot? I'm verified, I actually bothered to write an about me, and I don't greet people with a "Woof". I'm not even flirting with them, just making friendly conversation icon_redface.gificon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 15, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
    Lots of people are assholes. I guess some aren't, but a lot of them are. Get used to it and don't take it harshly, it's pretty much just how it is.
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    Oct 15, 2010 2:17 AM GMT
    I know the two guys below you would never ignore you,,,drop a line if you need to chat......Keithicon_cool.gif
  • jgymnast733

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    Oct 15, 2010 2:27 AM GMT
    If they dont have the basic kindness to respond then FUCK UM..... Obviously their upbringing lacks something, those mother fuckers think its a marriage proposal,,,Its only a message people...icon_idea.gif
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    Oct 15, 2010 2:33 AM GMT
    Dude, most messages are ignored. If a guy doesnt really want to start a convo with you, he prolly wont respond at all. Cuz if he does, then you reply to his reply and eventually he has to say that he's not interested. So why even start.

    Also, you are still kinda young. Stick to guys in your own age bracket. They are more likely to share interests and be in the same stage of life.
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    Oct 15, 2010 3:00 AM GMT
    Sometimes beauty is only meant to be seen and not heard. Count your blessings as it's a testament to their character. Everyone here at some point was a newbie, navigating thru profiles selecting random fellows to befriend and sometimes ppl forget what it's like to be the new kid on the block. A gesture of kind wrds and welcome don't require much thought but then again some can't get past a bench press when communicatingicon_rolleyes.gif Don't let another members lack of communication take a toll on you. Your presence here is long over due!
  • mizu5

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    Oct 15, 2010 3:02 AM GMT
    LasVegasFernando saidIs it something about my profile that says i'm a bot? I'm verified, I actually bothered to write an about me, and I don't greet people with a "Woof". I'm not even flirting with them, just making friendly conversation icon_redface.gificon_rolleyes.gif


    because you are 18 and short and not muscle bound.

    I am 19 and short and not muscle bound.

    Trust me, I know how it feels.

    And to be honest I don't give a shit so it doesn't feel bad.

    ONly the one time did I put a lot of thought into what i was going to say. He said fuck off twink. My heart broke, then i realized, wtf, it's the internet, i used to know that rule lol./
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    Oct 15, 2010 3:08 AM GMT
    LasVegasFernando saidIs it something about my profile that says i'm a bot? I'm verified, I actually bothered to write an about me, and I don't greet people with a "Woof". I'm not even flirting with them, just making friendly conversation icon_redface.gificon_rolleyes.gif


    Maybe it's the fat chick in your photo?icon_lol.gif

    FYI people ignore my messages all the time. I just made a thread and am witnessing it drop to the bottom of the 1st page right now.
  • mizu5

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    Oct 15, 2010 3:10 AM GMT
    JAKEBENSON said
    LasVegasFernando saidIs it something about my profile that says i'm a bot? I'm verified, I actually bothered to write an about me, and I don't greet people with a "Woof". I'm not even flirting with them, just making friendly conversation icon_redface.gificon_rolleyes.gif


    Maybe it's the fat chick in your photo?icon_lol.gif

    FYI people ignore my messages all the time. I just made a thread and am witnessing it drop to the bottom of the 1st page right now.
    Only ebcause I dont want to be the first to write a letter and have you mock me for not making it political or offensive enough. ;__; i cry at the thought.
  • Webster666

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    Oct 15, 2010 3:28 AM GMT
    Change your main profile pic.
    Guys think the messages are from that LARGE woman.
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    Oct 15, 2010 4:27 AM GMT
    LasVegasFernando said... I don't greet people with a "Woof". I'm not even flirting with them, just making friendly conversation icon_redface.gificon_rolleyes.gif
    That's the problem. Nobody gives a fuck about conversation when they're horny. And sometimes "woof" can be hot. icon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 15, 2010 4:42 AM GMT
    She's not big, she's just volumptious icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 16, 2010 3:46 PM GMT
    LasVegasFernando saidShe's not big, she's just volumptious icon_lol.gif


    She's very pretty. Don't take a lack of reply so personally. icon_wink.gif

    lol, you can email us and we'll reply. Promise.

    -Doug of meninlove
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:03 PM GMT
    LasVegasFernando saidShe's not big, she's just volumptious icon_lol.gif


    Do you think that's what gets gay men on this site interested in initiating or chatting with you?
  • ohioguy12

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    Oct 16, 2010 4:23 PM GMT
    yea people are weird about e-mailing back, but I always respond, I think for most people, if they find you attractive, they will respond, if not, they won't
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:31 PM GMT
    LasVegasFernando saidIs it something about my profile that says i'm a bot? I'm verified, I actually bothered to write an about me, and I don't greet people with a "Woof". I'm not even flirting with them, just making friendly conversation icon_redface.gificon_rolleyes.gif


    it depends, people ignore people for all sorts of reason. like when you ignored my message a while back. lol.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Oct 16, 2010 4:32 PM GMT
    I think if someone doesn't respond to a random unsolicited email, it's not rude -- they just aren't interested in communicating. However, if someone takes the time to hotlist you, or maybe leave a nice photo comment about one of your pictures, I think it's rude if you don't at least take a second to say thank you to someone who took the time to pay you a compliment. It only takes a second to be polite.
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:34 PM GMT
    LasVegasFernando saidIs it something about my profile that says i'm a bot? I'm verified, I actually bothered to write an about me, and I don't greet people with a "Woof". I'm not even flirting with them, just making friendly conversation icon_redface.gificon_rolleyes.gif




    I know how do you feel it's happening to me here too and i just want to have a friendly conversation icon_cry.gif
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:34 PM GMT
    OP: "Im just making friendly conversation".

    I'm curious about that statement, because Im having a hard time believing that this all oh so random.

    How many 50 year olds with 'average builds' have you tried conversing with on this site?

    You probably emailed somebody based on attraction (and there is NOTHING wrong with that) whethere you admit it or not, so you cant be pissed if they dont respond to your 'friendly conversation'.

    Life sucks a little like that.
  • chapguy123

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    Oct 16, 2010 4:39 PM GMT
    I don't believe anyone is under any etiquette or social obligation to respond to people they don't know or aren't interested in.

    For online dating, I think it's better that way. Personally, I'd rather not open an email with anticipation and then get a response of "Sorry, I'm not interested."

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    Oct 16, 2010 4:43 PM GMT
    Caslon16000 saidDude, most messages are ignored. If a guy doesnt really want to start a convo with you, he prolly wont respond at all. Cuz if he does, then you reply to his reply and eventually he has to say that he's not interested. So why even start.

    Also, you are still kinda young. Stick to guys in your own age bracket. They are more likely to share interests and be in the same stage of life.


    I dont agree , guess I am old school. I go with the Golden Rule. You can at least say back...Thanks but not interested. It is like someone ignoring you when you say hello to them. Just not right.
    Also , the guy may like older guys and have more in common with "us." so dont be discouraged. There are plenty nice mature guys out there.
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:43 PM GMT
    There's probably no general rule that will shed light on why people aren't responding to your messages. However, are any of the below true:

    1. Your messages are out of the blue...never bantered with this person in a forum...and the message isn't directly addressing something you've learned about this person in a forum or in their profile.
    2. Your messages are poorly spelled, with poor grammar, or otherwise short-hand textspeak ("sup","u r hot").
    3. You request connection to them through Yahoo, MSN, some other outside chat vehicle, or you mention your personal e-mail address to which they can send photos.
    4. You lack a clear profile photo (I can see yours is clear--just making a point), or your one and only picture is of your amazing muscular torso with no head, your profile isn't Verified ®, and you've had a profile for one day.

    Not saying any of these things will stop me from hooking up my web cam and masturbating for you while you look on anonymously, but it could be a factor for others.
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:46 PM GMT
    mizu5 said
    because you are 18 and short and not muscle bound.

    I am 19 and short and not muscle bound.

    Trust me, I know how it feels.

    And to be honest I don't give a shit so it doesn't feel bad.

    ONly the one time did I put a lot of thought into what i was going to say. He said fuck off twink. My heart broke, then i realized, wtf, it's the internet, i used to know that rule lol./


    I don't think it's because he's short and not muscle bound. It may be an age thing. A lot of guys may be leery of answering an 18 year old thinking he may be younger and perhaps lied about his age. How do you show proof of age on here? Anyway, the OP has a buddy list so I don't see what the problem is.
  • LJay

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    Oct 16, 2010 4:47 PM GMT
    To be quite honest, my first impression was that you were the girl in the picture. As they say, first impressions last.

    You might try using one of your other pics for an avatar.

    Give it time. Keep up your interests in a variety of things and then you will be ready to talk back and forth when a good chance comes.
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:47 PM GMT
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    "mountain out of a molehill"