rhincodon_typus saidWell, I am the third serbian in this thread (half spanish half serbian actually), so I will also post something:
The Balkans are (in general) quite homophobic. Greece has made some advances on that field because of the "money loaded" tourists that have been coming for decades and whom the greek wouldn't dare to judge (naturism, different way of life, openly gay behaviour, and so on...), same reason why the spanish society became more open (and now it is way ahead in recognizing LGBT issues), but in general the society throughout the balkans is very homophobic.
On the other hand, Serbia is a country that has been bombed and sanctioned and even had a part of the country taken away (Kosovo), and they could do very little to defend themselves. A bombed country is like a raped woman. You are being destroyed and you can't defend yourself. Some people in Serbia have developed the "wifebeater complex" so to speak, meaning that someone that is being abused by higher powers, takes on the next weak being available -> a man that is being mishandled at job, laughed at by his "friends" and so on will take on the defenceless being available, namely his wife, and beat or abuse her. Given the fact that Serbia has been so heavily damaged, some groups of ultranationalists are having outbursts of violence where they can afford them, like in soccer matches (it has become very violent indeed, maybe some of you have seen what happened in Genova) and of course, against LGBT people.
I am, however, optimistic. For one, the government is making some progress towards LGBT recognition and rights, even if it is just to save the face in front of the European Union. Also, the society is changing very rapidly. The values of the people are changing also, because what yesterday was blue, today is red and tomorrow will be green. I also think that this makes people living in this region very interesting and plastic indeed. Spain had one of the most represive regimes not so long ago, under Franco. My aunt tells us how she wasn't even able to hold her boyfriend's hand in a public place (let alone kiss him), and today gay people can be married. There is a sexual revolution going on right now in China, and the new generations are so open towards sexuality in comparison with the older ones, that now the not-understanding between them is quite common place there. Therefore, I suspect that not too long from now, Serbia may well become a haven in the balkans for LGBT people... but I may be wrong...
Thanks for you perspective, I agree. Only I have to add something- I used to live in Serbia and ex-Yu countries for 3 decades ( born in Belgrade , Serbian and ex-Yu capital ), and I lived under Milosevic regime, and I KNOW how it is to be beaten,tortured and humiliated only because I think differently ( in a political way ). If u know what happened only 10-15 years ago, than u know that Resistance ( OTPOR ) was formed by the ordinary people, not politicians, mostly students, but later many people joined so that we can get rid of that asshole Milosevic ( I am not glad that he died before he was sentenced in Hague, I'd rather seen him in prison for very long time ). And yes, on October 5th 2000 WE WON after long and fucked up period of time. I am not saying that only Milosevic is quilty for what happened, but also ex-Croatian president Tudjman, ex-Bosnian president Izetbegovic ( all dead meat now ),as well as EU, USA and NATO.
After that glorious day for Serbians and other citizen of Serbia ( Croats, Muslims, Hungarians, Gypsies, Romanians, Montenegrians, Macedonians...) first DEMOCRATIC government was elected after WW II. Zoran Djindjic became PM, and he was the leader of all the protests during 90's and leader of DEMOCRATIC PARTY ( not to be confused with Democratic Party of Serbia,lead by Kostunica, who became president instead of Milosevic,who went to Hague ). Only 3 years later, Djindjic was assasinated by criminals and war dogs who were trying to revive Milosevic regime, cause that worked for them. They were affraid of free Serbia, free Europe with no borders. Those bastards are sending bad picture of Serbia in the world by doing such things as in Genova or on that anti-gay whatever in Belgrade.
So, to make a point- when somebody like Vladimir1, who is 21 years old, btw, tells me that I am ignorant asshole, I can only say grow up dude, u were born when all this shit started ( early 90s ), so wtf do u know? I was in OTPOR, and I shared my part with Serbian citizens who were beaten and imprisoned, and I also shared my part for making Serbia democratic country. But, obviously, things there change very fucking slowly, and I don't have life span like elephant or turtle. That is why I left Serbia in 2006 and went to China, and now I am enjoying my life, politics free. I don't even vote any more nor do I care about news from Serbia. I did my part, now its up to Vladimir1 and younger ganerations to do their part of job. PERIOD.