IS IT BAD TO REVEAL YOUR FREAKY SIDE TO A GUY TOO SOON?

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    Oct 15, 2010 6:43 PM GMT
    This is does NOT apply to "hookups"...

    IF YOU ARE TALKING TO A GUY OR DATING AND YOU START MESSING AROUND FOR THE FIRST TIME, SHOULD YOU REVEAL OUR FREAKY SIDE SLOWLY OR BRING IT OUT NOW AND SHOW HIM WHAT YOU LIKE?

    Say you were talking to someone that you liked...then after hanging out a little while you both finally start messing around for the FIRST TIME...Can one of you be freaky and try things besides the basics (JO, BLOWJOB and MISSIONARY INTERCOURSE) at this point? If not, what would COMPLETELY be rushing things, inappropriate or a turn off to you for this FIRST TIME (besides the obvious one, raw sex)?
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    Oct 15, 2010 7:04 PM GMT
    As a kinky freak I have some experience with this.

    It really depends on what your situation is. If you generally like vanilla sex and occasionally like to get spanked, your situation is vastly different from the guy who can only get off by eating shit.

    If you only like a little kink and not all the time, don't worry about the big reveal. I find that people are game for more things than they think. If kink is a huge part of your life or you have a fetish that is a high bar to cross (scat) you should be looking for partners on kink websites or in kink community groups.

    On the assumption that you are among the former, sexuality is like Chanukah: you open up a new present over time. One day they find out you eat ass like a champ. Next day they find out what all that rope in your closet is for.
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    Oct 15, 2010 7:13 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidOne day they find out you eat ass like a champ. Next day they find out what all that rope in your closet is for.


    LMAO...

    I found out that I'm not as big of a freak as i thought I was when I told a friend about a guy I was seeing. We had FINALLY gotten to some bedroom action and I had done something freaky with him. My friend asked for details so I reluctantly told him that I'd eaten the guy's ass...His reply after silence was "THAT'S ALL?!"....He then went on to tell me some of his more freakier encounters putting me to shame.

    I guess it's all perspective though because some guys are more comfortable with gay sex than others...
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    Oct 15, 2010 8:56 PM GMT
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    Oct 17, 2010 8:10 AM GMT
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    Oct 17, 2010 3:35 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidAs a kinky freak I have some experience with this.

    It really depends on what your situation is. If you generally like vanilla sex and occasionally like to get spanked, your situation is vastly different from the guy who can only get off by eating shit.

    If you only like a little kink and not all the time, don't worry about the big reveal. I find that people are game for more things than they think. If kink is a huge part of your life or you have a fetish that is a high bar to cross (scat) you should be looking for partners on kink websites or in kink community groups.

    On the assumption that you are among the former, sexuality is like Chanukah: you open up a new present over time. One day they find out you eat ass like a champ. Next day they find out what all that rope in your closet is for.


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    Oct 17, 2010 3:38 PM GMT
    Indy404 said, "I guess it's all perspective though because some guys are more comfortable with gay sex than others..."


    Actually there's only a few things (and 'eating ass' isn't one of them) that are predominantly gay. icon_wink.gif


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    Oct 17, 2010 3:43 PM GMT
    You thought eating ass was freaky????

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    Pardon my shock there but yeah, I over here, that's just a basic really
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    Oct 17, 2010 5:10 PM GMT
    I am at a point in my life where nothing...NOTHING shocks me anymore! that said if I am dating or getting to know someone I much prefer if we just concentrate on being ourselves, and if something freaky comes out of our personality, it is better to know early on so as to avoid surprises later.


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    Oct 17, 2010 5:21 PM GMT
    meninlove said Indy404 said, "I guess it's all perspective though because some guys are more comfortable with gay sex than others..."


    Actually there's only a few things (and 'eating ass' isn't one of them) that are predominantly gay. icon_wink.gif




    True, I guess I meant guys comfortable doing those sex acts with another man...icon_cool.gif
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    Oct 17, 2010 5:23 PM GMT
    amar_m saidYou thought eating ass was freaky????

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    Pardon my shock there but yeah, I over here, that's just a basic really


    LOL yeah some of use are prudes I guess, LOL...The idea of sticking a tongue into an anus (albeit clean) is still kinda risque for some people...
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    Oct 17, 2010 5:27 PM GMT
    Like munchingzombie said, as long as you're not into total 100% fetish sex, then I wouldn't worry about it. Though, I would say, don't wait too long to show who you really are in bed, because you want to make sure you're sexually compatible right off the bat.
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    Oct 17, 2010 5:31 PM GMT
    For a lot of people, it may depend on how much trust is required by the kink. If you're asking for a lot of power-surrender on the first date, you may not get it.

    Personally, I've ended it with a couple of guys who seemed a little too Dahmer-esqe. Dunno, maybe it's just me. (Still getting IMs after more than a year.)
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    Oct 17, 2010 5:32 PM GMT
    If you have a box of arm-length latex gloves, it's probably best not to mention that on the first date. icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 17, 2010 6:58 PM GMT
    mindgarden saidPersonally, I've ended it with a couple of guys who seemed a little too Dahmer-esqe.


    man I can't even imagine what kind of stuff they were into...