apparently broke my future roommates heart...

  • lonley71

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    Oct 15, 2010 9:42 PM GMT
    So after my previous break up i started talking with my neighbor about it (who happens to be gay) and he made me cheer up and help get over him. Ever since we have kinda been inseparable and have become like best friends.

    Now... the problem is he has developed feelings for me and he tells me he loved me. We are scheduled to move in together at the end of this month and he asked me to date him. I honestly dont have those type of feelings for him and just love him being my friend and i told him how i felt. Now he says i have broken his heart and is kinda mean towards me now.

    So what do you guys think? Is it still a good idea to move in with him? i mean what happens if i bring somebody home one night? is he going to flip? Im really confused.

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    Oct 16, 2010 7:58 AM GMT
    Of course he will flip out. This will probably be a problem.

    Tell him to act his age. I hate when guys freak out like that. It shows insecurity.
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    Oct 16, 2010 8:03 AM GMT
    he'll have to get over it babe, we all do sometimes icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 16, 2010 8:04 AM GMT
    Sounds like he was only interested in you for dating, hooking-up or a relationship and not really as a roommate. It's your call to move in together as roommates, but if the way he's acting is any indication of how he's going treat you in the near future, you should reconsider rooming together...it could be emotionally detrimental...
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    Oct 16, 2010 8:27 AM GMT
    I too would advise against rooming with him now. It could only complicate things further in both your friendship, especially if you do find that someone.

    You can still be friends and you can show him that. Just cause he developed feelings and you don't reciprocate them back doesn't mean he should push you away and make you into a martyr. Not all things work the way we would like them to and he should avoid burning bridges.

    If he refuses to see reason then go your seperate ways. The drama and stress is not worth it.
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    Oct 16, 2010 9:03 AM GMT
    Nope I wouldn't room together.
    Sounds like it's just asking for trouble.
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    Oct 16, 2010 11:10 AM GMT
    Ooooh..........this has trouble written all over it. I think your own observation that he's being kind of mean toward you now, should give you some hint of how he's going to handle situations in the future and what's to come if you do move in together. Do you really want to deal with all of the drama involved in living with someone who has feelings for you and feels rejected?
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    Oct 16, 2010 2:28 PM GMT
    I agree that it'll seem like trouble =/ I'd advise against moving in with him; however, you still have your own decision. Without a doubt problems will arise and how far he would or may go [on a rampage].
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    Oct 16, 2010 2:45 PM GMT
    Probably moving in won't be the best thing to do in this situation. He might take that as a sign that someday you will feel the same about him and that is not going to help your situation either.