I lost a friend today.

  • MidwesternKid

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    Oct 16, 2010 12:58 AM GMT
    I know people lose people all the time, but when it happens to you it can really hurt. I just wanted to reach out to my community. A dear friend of mine I made a year ago passed away this afternoon. He returned from the Gay Games with an infection that would down the road spawn into a very advanced and deadly case of pneumonia. I saw him the day before he was admitted to the hospital and for two months was in a coma. I miss him.

    Like I said I am aware we all lose people as time passes. My heart goes out to you as well. Enjoy the life that you are given and most importantly cherish that time you have with the people who love you.

    Miss you Rupert.
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    Oct 16, 2010 1:00 AM GMT
    Sorry to hear that. *hugs* icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 16, 2010 1:00 AM GMT
    I'm so sorry....horrible way to die.....
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    Oct 16, 2010 2:14 AM GMT
    sending my spirit to you brother....Keithicon_cool.gif
  • mybud

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    Oct 16, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    First... I'm sorry about your loss.....I'm sure he was the kind of friend that would want you to go on....be happy...for you to remember the good times you experienced together...Be strong and happy for him man...That's what he would have wanted....All my love and sincere respect...BUD....Steven
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    Oct 16, 2010 3:09 AM GMT
    Yes, be strong for him. He would not want you to suffer on his behalf.
    I am very sorry for your loss.
  • Vaughn

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    Oct 16, 2010 3:14 AM GMT
    I hope you feel better.
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    Oct 16, 2010 3:36 AM GMT
    Hey man sorry to here that. I know what its like to lose a close friend. I had two friends die when I was in high school. It is very hard
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    Oct 16, 2010 5:36 AM GMT
    Poor Rupert!
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    Oct 16, 2010 5:37 AM GMT
    I'm so sorry to hear that.
    Hope you feel better.
  • EricLA

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    Oct 16, 2010 5:41 AM GMT
    You don't need to make apologies. And I'm not sure I'd say "people lose people all the time." It's okay to take it personal.

    So very sorry for your loss.
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    Oct 16, 2010 5:57 AM GMT
    Sorry to hear about your loss. I lost a friend last week, so I know all too well how one feels at times like this. You'll eventually feel better, but just know that it does take time. Remember the good and happy times that you had with him.
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    Oct 16, 2010 5:59 AM GMT
    Sorry about your buddy. Life is so cruel. icon_sad.gif
  • slimnmuscly

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    Oct 16, 2010 7:08 AM GMT
    Thank you, Rupert, for representing for all of us.
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    Oct 16, 2010 7:38 AM GMT
    We've all lost people we cared about and it hurts all the more when it's unexpected and/or because of an illness that most of us would assume could be readily treatable.

    I lost a mate between Christmas and New Year just passed. He and his older brother were killed in a tragic bosting accident. He was on his way home to Australia from a stint living in the UK. His older brother had surprised him and his twin with a week long adventure holiday in the Carribean. His twin brother was the sole survivor.

    I was in NYC at the time I got the email from his father. He had a great relationship with his Dad and his Dad had gone through his email/website memberships to track down the contact details of people he'd mentioned when he'd visited his folks in the November just prior. His Dad said that he felt the need to contact me because he thought highly of me so he wanted to make sure I knew what had happened and that I wasn't left just wondering why I could never contact him again.

    I was shocked to hear the news, I felt physically ill, I immediately teared all up, but in the days after that I was so proud that he'd been a part of my life and that I'd touched his life enough that he'd mentioned me to his Dad.

    I guess what I'm trying to say is it's totally normal to grieve your personal loss because it is your loss but in the end remember that you got that time with him and no-one can ever take that away.

    Take the time to work through this in your own mind, most importantly, take care buddy and look after yourself in the coming weeks.
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Oct 16, 2010 8:23 AM GMT
    i am so sorry for your loss i feel for u. remember him for all the good talks and times and he will stay with u for life in your heart
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    Oct 16, 2010 10:11 AM GMT
    I am truly sorry friend a big hug for you.
  • idkagudname

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    Oct 16, 2010 10:24 AM GMT
    Sorry,
    My thoughts are with you and your friend
  • alphatop

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    Oct 16, 2010 10:26 AM GMT
    Very sorry for your loss, I know how that feels....But, life goes on and u already know that TIME heals EVERYTHING. It was his destiny, and there is nothing u can do about it, except to accept it.
  • RSportsguy

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    Oct 16, 2010 10:49 AM GMT
    I am so sorry for your loss!!
  • blake1001

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    Oct 16, 2010 4:18 PM GMT
    MidwesternKid saidI know people lose people all the time, but when it happens to you it can really hurt. I just wanted to reach out to my community. A dear friend of mine I made a year ago passed away this afternoon. He returned from the Gay Games with an infection that would down the road spawn into a very advanced and deadly case of pneumonia. I saw him the day before he was admitted to the hospital and for two months was in a coma. I miss him.

    Like I said I am aware we all lose people as time passes. My heart goes out to you as well. Enjoy the life that you are given and most importantly cherish that time you have with the people who love you.

    Miss you Rupert.



    Sorry Man
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:23 PM GMT
    {{{reassuring hug}}}

    You're going to be okay. Good memories lie on the other side of the hurting.
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:26 PM GMT
    Sincere condolences. Although you never really get over the loss of someone close, you can still find happiness in the future. Hugs and comforts to you and all those who have lost someone.
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:37 PM GMT
    my condolences as well. take some time for yourself, and if sharing it on this forum has helped you process things, then that's what you needed to do. so sorry for your loss.