I feel so dumb for having a crush on this guy!

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    Oct 16, 2010 4:03 AM GMT
    This is kind of a rant, but I have no other place to share this with since I'm no one in my life want to hear about gay dating.

    I met this guy online and we been talking for about a month now. We been talking like friends and not as people who are interest in each other. Still I ended up developing a crush on him. I kept thinking about him everyday. So today I find out he doesn't even know who I am pretty much. Apparently he doesn't even know how I look like. He thought I was chinese or something. I unlocked my private pics for him and i'm sure he saw my pics. But he didn't even remember me. We been talking and I been thinking about him all the time. I feel SO dumb for actually having a crush on him. He doesn't even know who I am. Can I be any dumber?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 16, 2010 4:10 AM GMT
    Don't beat up yourself in the least... seriously. There are a number of reasons we find others attractive, nor do we logically pick those we should be attracted to. For whatever reason (and its justified), you found this guy interesting and your emotions took over. Congrats, its happened to all of us.

    Take it as a learning experience. You realize the other guy probably doesn't see you as you have come to "see" him.....try and pull back the emotions (and don't feel dumb). You have just learned an important point for your future. Make sure you are on the same page with another before getting too attached.
    Continue your friendship (or not) based on your interests, etc.

    But time to move on and develop emotions on a guy who you know returns them.
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:21 AM GMT
    Wait, so you guys have been talking then you show him your pictures and he starts to forget who you are? That is cold but understandable. Ah well, move on, you'll live.
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:27 AM GMT
    I don't remember many of the people who chat with me. I tend to remember people's names and associate them with their SN Name. Though, you can't blame the guy. You have a crush on him, not the other way around.

    Don't feel dumb though, things happen for many reasons.
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:35 AM GMT
    I know its stupid. But I was so shocked when he didn't even know who I was. I kept saying I'm ugly and he kept saying no i'm not. I assumed he was talking about my private pics on this site. Than today we were talking and he said how he saw my pics on facebook and I don't have any pics on facebook. Than he was like, oh i guess i was thinking about somebody else. Than he told me he thought I was chinese.

    When you talk to someone for a while, you bother to find out how they look like, especially if they unlocked their private face pics for you. Or maybe i'm just being stupid. I feel like such an idiot.

    This is like having a crush on someone and they don't even know you exist. It hurts like shit.
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:46 AM GMT
    Aren't internet crushes supposed to end badly?
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    Oct 16, 2010 5:05 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidAren't internet crushes supposed to end badly?


    i thought this might have a happy ending. i guess that's just wishful thinking.
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    Oct 16, 2010 5:09 AM GMT
    Go for a massage if you want a happy ending. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 16, 2010 5:18 AM GMT
    gta129 said
    unfounded7 saidAren't internet crushes supposed to end badly?


    i thought this might have a happy ending. i guess that's just wishful thinking.


    Yup..There's rarely any good redeeming prospects that would ever come out of the circumstance you inevitably found yourself in, sad to say, lots of people set the bar a bit too high in banking upon any relationships in cyber land, be it intimate or platonic. I'm sure you'll pull through..icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 16, 2010 5:43 AM GMT
    Salutay21 said
    gta129 said
    unfounded7 saidAren't internet crushes supposed to end badly?


    i thought this might have a happy ending. i guess that's just wishful thinking.


    Yup..There's rarely any good redeeming prospects that would ever come out of the circumstance you inevitably found yourself in, sad to say, lots of people set the bar a bit too high in banking upon any relationships in cyber land, be it intimate or platonic. I'm sure you'll pull through..icon_smile.gif


    Its true, shouldn't expect much from ppl i meet online.
    But its very typical of me to get a crush on someone and then spent the nights crying in bed. I had a crush on this one guy since I was 12. I just got over that few months ago. That crush lasted about 8 years. This crush lasted one month.
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    Oct 16, 2010 6:29 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidAren't internet crushes supposed to end badly?
    One of the guys I'm currently seeing...met him 7 years ago online. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 16, 2010 2:26 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    unfounded7 saidAren't internet crushes supposed to end badly?
    One of the guys I'm currently seeing...met him 7 years ago online. icon_lol.gif

    one of the guys?

    and to the guy who posted this threat, hey, one cannot control emotions sometimes. they just come and go, or so i believe.
  • owen19832006

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    Oct 16, 2010 2:32 PM GMT
    for your own mental health forget about this chap darling!
  • blake1001

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    Oct 16, 2010 3:38 PM GMT
    gta129 said
    Salutay21 said
    gta129 said
    unfounded7 saidAren't internet crushes supposed to end badly?


    i thought this might have a happy ending. i guess that's just wishful thinking.


    Yup..There's rarely any good redeeming prospects that would ever come out of the circumstance you inevitably found yourself in, sad to say, lots of people set the bar a bit too high in banking upon any relationships in cyber land, be it intimate or platonic. I'm sure you'll pull through..icon_smile.gif


    Its true, shouldn't expect much from ppl i meet online.
    But its very typical of me to get a crush on someone and then spent the nights crying in bed. I had a crush on this one guy since I was 12. I just got over that few months ago. That crush lasted about 8 years. This crush lasted one month.


    Hhahahah be like me, i usually wait till after the first date to fall soo hard
    i end up getting crushed.it'll be ok dude, he sounds like a player anyway.
    we still love ya
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:07 PM GMT
    carly_boy said
    paulflexes said
    unfounded7 saidAren't internet crushes supposed to end badly?
    One of the guys I'm currently seeing...met him 7 years ago online. icon_lol.gif

    one of the guys?
    Openly Polygamous...
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:21 PM GMT
    Kansan is right... we've all been there.
    Forgive yourself and get back on the horse.
    You can't play if you can't lose.

    My only suggestion? Stop telling guys you're ugly.... "ugly" is subjective, and and the most attractive thing a man can have is confidence.
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    Oct 16, 2010 4:33 PM GMT
    thanks for all the support guys.