Profiles with Hidden Face Pics, Hidden Profiles, or Completely Blank Profiles.

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    Oct 16, 2010 7:38 PM GMT
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    I've been receiving messages from dead people (Profiles with Hidden Face Pics, Hidden Profiles, or Completely Blank Profiles). I always wonder why these guys are so secretive. I am sure everyone has a different reason. I respect everyone's decision but it would be interesting to know the reasoning.

    For those of you who fall within these categories would you care to share why?

    Also, I am sure some of you make assumptions about the guys with these types of profile. What are your general assumptions about these guys?
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    Oct 16, 2010 7:41 PM GMT
    I believe there are better profiles on RJ that you don't have to resort to interacting with pictureless/blank profiles.
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    Oct 16, 2010 7:52 PM GMT
    Well for their secrecy, 1 they don't want to be found out if someone they know strolls through this website just for kicks (not likely). 2. They lack confidence or visual appeal and therefore would refrain from posting their pictures. They wouldn't want to be rejected on based on how they look, but rather they try to appeal in conversation. For example some would think, hey if they get to know me better through talking, maybe I could upload a picture later and it'll turn out alright... Or they just simply don't like being in pictures. But from a perspective I would understand they might do this in order to have a personal security for themselves... Not to mention, some people don't feel exactly secure when they're exposed..
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    Oct 16, 2010 8:10 PM GMT

    I think there MIGHT be a couple of valid reasons for some guys...but if they send you a message and don't open up and tell you a name, some stats...
    then I would just ignore them.
    Come back when you're outa the closet....or tell me something about yourself.
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    Oct 16, 2010 8:20 PM GMT
    I'm not sure, but maybe they might feel better if they had a boyfriend to go around with rather than being single and saying they're gay alone. Some may be unsure about their sexuality. Or they have a boyfriend/girlfriend but don't want their bf/gf to know that they have a picture on here looking for guys. icon_eek.gif
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    Oct 16, 2010 8:44 PM GMT
    Ugly and/or shy.
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    Oct 16, 2010 8:50 PM GMT
    Or maybe we just like our privacy. If people knew who I was, I wouldn't be able to say what I really think without reservation.

    It's the same reason I don't let random people read my facebook feed, and I don't post my picture on any other forums.
  • jgymnast733

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    Oct 16, 2010 9:07 PM GMT
    I'm not sure what to make of these guys, i mean,,show me a hand,,an arm or a foot.....Something..... but i always respond to messages no matter what.....
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    Oct 16, 2010 9:53 PM GMT
    Perhaps many of these guys with pictureless profiles are not aware that they can set their preference to only signed in members can view. No straight moron out looking for a laugh would willingly register on RealJock because he would be too aware that he might just be discovered by a close pal.
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    Oct 17, 2010 2:49 AM GMT
    As someone without much of a profile and no pictures, I will contribute my answer.

    I have not had much experience with online picture based interaction and the times that I did were not great. I tried an online dating site and another gay focused but non-dating, non hookup kind of social media site and my experiences on both were not great. In fact they were a little odd.

    For the dating site, I went into it with the expectation that my looks would be part of how I interacted with people. Nonetheless I was not prepared for some of the interactions I did have. Some people found me attractive and some did not and a lot of guys from both groups were pretty rude.

    As flattering as it can be to be considered attractive by some people I don't take compliments well. I would rather be appreciated for my personality and brain than how I look.

    On this dating site there were a ton of choices and each day I would wade through email from guys contacting me and profiles offered up by the dating site. It was tough to prioritize the guys and since most profiles were so bland, homogenous and predictable (including mine) I found myself prioritizing guys based on looks.

    Eventually it occurred to me that the best dating relationships I had started with guys who I was attracted to on a personal level not just their looks. I then realized that my method of selecting guys was not compatible with a picture based/looks based world of internet dating.

    For the gay focused social media site, I listed under my interests "making friends" but I got a lot of "hook up" focused email. I was also contacted by pictureless guys who recognized me from out and about and the gym and I found that really odd.

    In the end I deleted both accounts. I believe that I will be more successful in meeting guys for dates and other guys to become friends with in the real world instead of online.

    My approach to RJ is that it is an interesting way to interact with gay guys from all over the US and all over the world on interesting topics. Since I have no expectation of meeting a potential bf or translating on online acquaintance into a real world friend then there is not much reason to post a picture online.

    If some people think less of me or don't interact with me because I have a limited profile and no pics I don't care. RJ is a small part of my life and disappointing strangers on the interent is not something I am going to worry about.

    I remember years ago in the early days of the internet with the usenet groups where you could discuss topics on different subjects like sports or hobbies and no one had a profile with pictures. The lack of pictures was not an obstacle to fun worthwhile interaction.
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    Oct 17, 2010 2:56 AM GMT
    RJNewbie2010 saidAs someone without much of a profile and no pictures, I will contribute my answer....

    There are some nice guys here and friendships and some relationships have resulted. You might consider having pics including face pics but making them private. Then you can selectively unlock them.
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    Oct 17, 2010 3:01 AM GMT

    Some of these silhouettes in which you speak are actually Multiple profile posters. It's so obvious who they are and if you pay close attention you'll be able to figure it out as well. One has already offered his 2 centsicon_rolleyes.gif
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    Oct 17, 2010 7:16 AM GMT
    averagejoe saidOr maybe we just like our privacy. If people knew who I was, I wouldn't be able to say what I really think without reservation.


    Like some kinda public figure?
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    Oct 17, 2010 7:50 AM GMT
    Maybe they are secret agents who can't reveal their identities? Or perhaps they are really famous and don't want anyone to know they're gay. Like Tom Cruise, maybe?
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    Oct 17, 2010 8:16 AM GMT
    I'm sure my story isn't too odd but I'm in the military. Sure there are plenty of guys in the military on this site but I'm a military instructor for the air force. My job is to train hundreds of new recruits in different positions and i can't have anyone questioning me and how i handle my position. I earned my job through merit and self motivation and i don't think my personal feelings should strip me of that job. At the same time I am still discovering myself. I'm sure a lot of my friends and coworkers already know but as long as i don't post anything crazy or make it obvious i will be ok until the new law is passed. If you don't think I'm a real person send me a msg and I'll prove you otherwise. I'm proud of who I am but i'm also aware of where i stand in the big picture.
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    Oct 17, 2010 8:42 AM GMT
    kevin324 saidI'm sure my story isn't too odd but I'm in the military. Sure there are plenty of guys in the military on this site but I'm a military instructor for the air force. My job is to train hundreds of new recruits in different positions and i can't have anyone questioning me and how i handle my position. I earned my job through merit and self motivation and i don't think my personal feelings should strip me of that job. At the same time I am still discovering myself. I'm sure a lot of my friends and coworkers already know but as long as i don't post anything crazy or make it obvious i will be ok until the new law is passed. If you don't think I'm a real person send me a msg and I'll prove you otherwise. I'm proud of who I am but i'm also aware of where i stand in the big picture.


    I'd like to meet u in person, Kevin? Care for some military push ups?
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    Oct 17, 2010 9:36 AM GMT
    there are so many of them on rj! I have like atleast 20 message from faceless profiles since ive made an rj account. I dont know, most of the time they are sex trolls I have to say, sending you messages to get your ass! Also, try having a conversations with them are boring as well.
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    Oct 17, 2010 9:49 AM GMT
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    Oct 17, 2010 9:54 AM GMT
    Well, in my brief time here, I had some weird encounters. So, although initially I had a face pic as my main profile pic, I moved it to the private section after a while. I only share it with people that have something substantial to say. It's sad, but that's how it is...

    ... I guess we all have our comfort level. I put info on this site that I consider relevant here. Some additional info I give easily, and some additional info I only give in case there is some additional trust. And some info I may never give. I guess you do the same, it's just that you attach a different value to your face pics; but - logically - I don't see you putting your address, grandmother's name or employer's phone number in the front of your profile...

    ... Moreover, I try to have good conversations here and get closer to people from thereon. Actually, that's more important to me than a face pic, since even someone with a verified profile can sell the biggest nonsense about himself on this site... and I'm sure people actually do...

    As said, I'm happy to share quite much with other people around here. No secrets on my side. But like anyone I want to be in some control, regarding what to share, how and when...
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    Oct 18, 2010 1:54 AM GMT
    kevin324 saidMy job is to train hundreds of new recruits in different positions and i can't have anyone questioning me and how i handle my position.


    This made me giggle like a high school girl.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Oct 18, 2010 2:18 AM GMT
    Why don't you ask the guys that contact you. I think that would be a good thing. I don't have a view picture in my profile other than the one you see when you check out my profile but I do have a private picture. I show it if asked by someone that I have contacted. I also show it to people I have been talking on here for some time. I don't show my picture because I am not out.
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    Oct 18, 2010 2:25 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidWhy don't you ask the guys that contact you. I think that would be a good thing.


    I do. I found their stories to be interesting therefore I am extending the question to others.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Oct 18, 2010 2:28 AM GMT
    AvadaKedavra said
    tuffguyndc saidWhy don't you ask the guys that contact you. I think that would be a good thing.


    I do. I found their stories to be interesting therefore I am extending the question to others.

    Good forum topic. I am always curious as to why guys seem to want to be nasty to guys like myself or be judgmental. Now that is a good forum topic
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    Oct 18, 2010 2:34 AM GMT
    For those in the U.S. military, I can understand posting no photos. For others though, it seems like the biggest majority of "no photo" profiles are cowardly forum trolls or those just trolling for sex.
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    Oct 18, 2010 2:54 AM GMT
    collegegraddude saidUmm lets get back to reality here men;

    1. I've dated some guys in the military and I just do not get the "my life has to be a secret" thing. Eeverybody wants to be recognized/known/laid even if you have to keep it on the DL to meet a guy. Still post a photo of yourself headless.

    2. The haters... some people on here just create a profile to send out hate crap to members.

    3. The ones who are "discovering themselves". This is not an episode of Oprah if you have issues coming out write to Oprah's studio, Harpo Productions or better yet go on Tyra.

    4. The men who are not really jocks and do not have a jock type body...I think you get the rest of where I am going.


    You can't possibly think you have a "JOCK TYPE BODY" So before you start throwing some testosterone around.... Check yourself.