Jacking off help

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    Oct 17, 2010 8:09 AM GMT
    I am in a wonderful realationship with myboyfriend. Six months we're an item now. I do have a problem tho. Well first of all my bf doesn't like it when I jack off. I can deal with him on that cause. I only do it when he's away...
    The real problemI have is i do it on cam with other guys. I really love my bf but it's like a little addiction icon_sad.gif
  • brycetippe

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    Oct 17, 2010 1:30 PM GMT
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  • Bunjamon

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    Oct 17, 2010 1:41 PM GMT
    Do you have to be on cam to get off or is it just that you don't enjoy it as much if someone isn't watching you?
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    Oct 17, 2010 1:54 PM GMT
    What's the problem? I don't see why this is a problem. Cam sex is not cheating.

    Your b/f needs to grow a pair and be a little more secure.
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    Oct 17, 2010 2:10 PM GMT
    lol
  • turbid2wenty

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    Oct 17, 2010 2:13 PM GMT
    Does he know that you do it on cam with other guys?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Oct 17, 2010 2:14 PM GMT
    I have a bf and I jack off all the time. Of course he lives 100 miles away so what do I do when he isn't around during the week? Pretend?

    I jack the hell off and enjoy it... and he knows it.
  • rnch

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    Oct 17, 2010 2:18 PM GMT
    i don't see a problem here.

    your bf sounds like an immature control freak.
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    Oct 17, 2010 2:34 PM GMT
    I really don't get your BF not wanting you to JO, as long as it isn't interfering with the time you and he are together and as long as you aren't doing it to the point you don't want sex with him.

    As for the cam part of it. Some guys don't see it as any different than looking at porn and some see it as cheating. I see it as relatively harmless - no risk of STDs and the like. But it can definitely cause problems if your BF thinks otherwise.

    Bottom line, the fact that your BF doesn't like you to JO, just on the face of it, makes me wonder if he has some control issues.
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    Oct 17, 2010 2:35 PM GMT
    when this guy asked me to cam with him while i was with my b/f i told him i couldn't because it felt like it was cheating
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    Oct 17, 2010 2:54 PM GMT
    My boyfriend used to cam a lot before we got together, and among the first 'rules' talks we had it was brought up.

    I told him I wouldn't be happy if he did, but that it's different than cheating. He doesn't do it because he knows I'd rather not.

    On the other hand (hehe), he's not too happy if i jack off every day. I now only do that when we're not going to see each other that day, or if it's going to be too late when we do.

    You two have to decide what constitutes cheating in your own relationship, and where the lines are.
  • hockeydude12

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    Oct 17, 2010 3:08 PM GMT
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  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Oct 17, 2010 3:14 PM GMT
    Jacking off on your own is one thing, jacking off on cam with other guys is quite another. Bringing the camming into the scenario doesn't make it technically cheating, but I can understand the boyfriend not being comfortable with it. I think it crosses a line that can lead to trouble. How do you think a straight guy would feel if his girlfriend were masterbating on cam to other guys? Being gay doesn't make it okay. Just my 2 cents.
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    Oct 17, 2010 3:32 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidJacking off on your own is one thing, jacking off on cam with other guys is quite another. Bringing the camming into the scenario doesn't make it technically cheating, but I can understand the boyfriend not being comfortable with it. I think it crosses a line that can lead to trouble. Just my 2 cents.


    Agreed. Getting naked and jerking it while in a relationship can be a strain. However, if you were contacted by a reputable photographer who is known to shoot nudes and asked you to do some work with him, I think for me it would be much less of an issue than camming.

    Good luck dude icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 17, 2010 3:42 PM GMT
    ^
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    Wut?
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    Oct 17, 2010 3:43 PM GMT
    reppaT said^
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    Wut?


    Ha ha. Seriously, when did this thread stop making sense?
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    Oct 17, 2010 4:07 PM GMT
    For us jacking on cam is cheating (we're monogamous) as it is live sexual interaction with another.

    And before people start swinging at each other, this is our rule for US and the reason why.

    Your bf probably feels the same way, Haloo1212.

    -Doug
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    Oct 17, 2010 4:16 PM GMT
    I guess it's different for different people. For me it would be a deal breaker.
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    Oct 17, 2010 4:16 PM GMT
    Well if you can't jerk off on cam infront of him then you know something ain't right. I like jerking off infront of the cam too but my ex bf always made me feel dirty for doing so. Which only proves that if you can't be yourself your in the wrong relationship. Ditch the dud!

    To me camming is more about male bonding than sex. Guys exposing their hardons in a place that's not so judgemental. Well except those guys that talk about petty gay shit in the adult chat rooms. If you not gonna get naked then why the hell your in there?

    Besides your penis is huge it needs to be on display ;-)
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    Oct 17, 2010 4:19 PM GMT
    Are we still talking about jacking off? WTF? How serious is this conversation?
  • HankFit247

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    Oct 17, 2010 4:23 PM GMT
    GwgTrunks saidYou two have to decide what constitutes cheating in your own relationship, and where the lines are.


    Exactly!
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    Oct 17, 2010 4:32 PM GMT
    I would definitely not be jacking off on cam to the public if I were in a relationship. It just isn't right to me... maybe not literally cheating, but it comes pretty damn close, especially if you have decided to be monogamous. You clearly need to find someone who is OK with that, or quit it all together if you really like this guy. It's up to you.
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    Oct 17, 2010 4:44 PM GMT
    Total Deal Breaker. Just start watching porn and STOP Camming if you truly love this boy you can do it with out any problem!

    Camming while still in the first 6 months of a relationship can turn into trouble, especially if one partner does not agree with it. The simple fact is, it is all about your mind set and when you are camming you are thinking about that other man, having lustful thoughts. If you were to ever marry this man (if it were legal) would you stop camming then? While having these lustful thoughts about the guy you are camming with, it creates doubt/fear excitement and questions in your mind weather you know it or not, it does! Many of those questions lead to you thinking there might be something BETTER out there! icon_twisted.gif

    Best of luck to you! And just get off it, if he doesnt like you camming then dont do it!
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    Oct 17, 2010 4:45 PM GMT
    Achillesblade said
    CuriousJockAZ saidJacking off on your own is one thing, jacking off on cam with other guys is quite another. Bringing the camming into the scenario doesn't make it technically cheating, but I can understand the boyfriend not being comfortable with it. I think it crosses a line that can lead to trouble. Just my 2 cents.


    Agreed. Getting naked and jerking it while in a relationship can be a strain. However, if you were contacted by a reputable photographer who is known to shoot nudes and asked you to do some work with him, I think for me it would be much less of an issue than camming.

    Good luck dude icon_smile.gif


    The OP must be glad you came in here and solved the moral dilemma concerning his boyfriend. If you get paid for it, then it makes it all okay. That must be why you hardly ever see truck drivers pulled over for speeding.
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    Oct 17, 2010 4:58 PM GMT
    Haloo1212 saidI am in a wonderful realationship with myboyfriend. Six months we're an item now. I do have a problem tho. Well first of all my bf doesn't like it when I jack off. I can deal with him on that cause. I only do it when he's away...
    The real problemI have is i do it on cam with other guys. I really love my bf but it's like a little addiction icon_sad.gif





    You need to stop that some guys dont like that so i understand your BF 100%