another straight guy question..

  • Nayro

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    Oct 18, 2010 8:15 PM GMT
    Hey, here's another straight guy question...

    So here's the situation. There is this guy who lives in the same village where I live he's a little older than I and really hot. He hangs out with the wrong people but whatever. He really seems to be into a friend of mine, but she already has a relationship. I talked about him a few times with my friend and she said once when she had some drinks down that she thinks he's bisexual cause she heared he did something with some guys and stuff. But this might just be gossips too. (I'm still in the closet btw)

    So me and some friends went out in a bar in the village. This guy was also there. He came and hang out with us for a bit, he's nice and stuff. We all talked and laughed some and had some drinks. We were all a little drunk. Then at 4 the bar closed and we went on an afterparty at this guys house.
    He wanted to get out of the bar quickly cause a really ugly girl was hitting on him and being annoying and he wanted to get rid of her. I was the only one on a bike and he jumped on it and said, gogogo! and then we talked some on the bike and we were the first ones at his place.

    He poured in a drink for us and we talked till the others came. we were with 8 or something. he was wrestling and playing around a bit with this friend of mine that he likes and we and the rest of us just talked. Then this other friend of mine started to help her and it was 2 girls against one guy and they were just playing a bit. Nothing sexual though. Then all of the sudden he ran upstairs and went to bed, the girls chased him and I went up too cause I was wondering what was going on and i need to whatch my friends a bit, right? x)

    Anyways they went on on his bed and it was late and they then started laying down next to eachother and then my friend said, come lets all sleep here and i laid down next to her. So it was this guy, 2 girls and then me in one bed. Then the light went out and he put his leg over these girls and started rubbing my leg. So I was like hmm.. ok.. Why does he do this. but ok I dont mind. Hes hot ;P

    So then after a while another friend came up and he said that they were leaving. So it was just the 4 of us. The 3 of them started to play a bit again and I was just sitting on the edge of the bed, being tired and all. Then I said to my friend come, lets go! So then the guy said my name and said, No dont leave! So we stayed a bit more and just did some talking and stuff.
    Then later we were really gonna go and my friend said, Im gonna tug him in, since he was already 90% asleep by then. She took out his clothes and covered him with a blanket and then she laid down on him, so did my other friend and I laid my head on my other friend but also partially on him. He mustve noticed but didnt say anything.

    So with keeping in mind what my friend said about him, I wonder what I should think of it. Probably nothing but I still wonder what wouldve happened if I was just alone with him.. Ah well next week there is another weekend and he will be there for sure. We will see what he will do then right? ;)

    But what do you think?
  • mcwclewis

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    Oct 19, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
    Unfortunately there isn't really enough information for me to make any call on that one. You'll have to keep hanging out with him and just see what happens. The lack of negative response to you having your head on him is a good sign, but it might not mean anything.


    Good luck though, I hope you get him icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 19, 2010 2:09 AM GMT
    It's hard to get a feel because you were all drunk. Anyway, I'm terrible with telling who is gay and who isn't. All I know is that you've got to let them know you are gay or ask them or SOMETHING.

    About a month ago I was positive my cute classmate was gay. We would flirt and laugh and hang out quite a bit. Found out he is completely straight and I am so glad I didn't make a move on him without confronting him first.
  • swimmermatt10...

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    Oct 19, 2010 2:13 AM GMT
    TDollahz saidIt's hard to get a feel because you were all drunk. Anyway, I'm terrible with telling who is gay and who isn't. All I know is that you've got to let them know you are gay or ask them or SOMETHING.

    About a month ago I was positive my cute classmate was gay. We would flirt and laugh and hang out quite a bit. Found out he is completely straight and I am so glad I didn't make a move on him without confronting him first.


    2 things-

    1. Straight guys have this weird thing they think is ok and act "gay" with each other. It makes no sense but if he doesnt know you are gay, you wont know what he's doing.

    2. If you arent out, why would you make a move on this guy? Let's say he is straight and just dicking around...then he knows you are gay and if he's friends with your friends dont you think he's gonna tell someone?

    If he's worth coming out for then i say go for it!! If not, whats the use in putting all this thought and energy into him?
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    Oct 19, 2010 3:58 AM GMT
    De Ja Vu x1000
    Keep being friends with him. Eventually he'll invite you over for a few drinks or something.
    Then, it's on. icon_wink.gif
  • Nayro

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    Oct 19, 2010 9:40 AM GMT
    @swimmermatt

    Cant always think logically if feelings are involved.. Also I was just hoping he maybe wanted a one-night thing and keep it discrete... Can always hope right? icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 19, 2010 11:58 AM GMT
    Daelin said@swimmermatt

    Cant always think logically if feelings are involved.. Also I was just hoping he maybe wanted a one-night thing and keep it discrete... Can always hope right? icon_razz.gif


    My, luv...that was a great story. I was hoping for a better ending, but maybe next time. Keep the girls around...they will make him feel like he's not SOOOO gay...but play with you anyway. Let HIM make the first move... if YOU do it and it fails, you will be the talk of the village for quite a while...
  • Nayro

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    Oct 20, 2010 9:28 PM GMT
    Well we'll see what this weekend brings