Are young guys in school just looking for Temp Boyfriends to Sponsor them?

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    Oct 19, 2010 3:44 PM GMT
    Are many young guys busy with school and starting their careers basically looking for temporary Boyfriends to "help" them financially so they can transition into the "Real World"?

    School can be very expensive and being a full-time student while working really cramps the social life...Theoretically, a boyfriend with money can help with that.

    Even the new graduate, he may still be looking for a job, the boyfriend supporting them takes the responsibility of "getting by" off their shoulders...

    Dating and possibly living (rent-free) with an guy they are in a "relationship" with instead of working full time to pay the rent/utilities on an apartment while going to school on their own. Maybe only making him pay for the electric bill, if that...

    Is dating men with established careers (ie: older men) just a means to an end for many young guys? Do these relationships typically end after the guy gets on his feet?
  • mizu5

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    Oct 19, 2010 7:12 PM GMT
    I can only speak for the gayboys I know, but I'm gonna go with no. As a general of course. I'm sure boys do do that.

    Most of the guys I know are a fair bit more shallow though, and dont want to date an older guy, regardless if he's amazing, or wealthy. As well, being in canada, our education is less expensive, so paying it off is less of a problem. Obviously I'm not saying it's easy to pay back 80k dollars.

    I'm in a different scenario though, because my parents are paying for my education.
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    Oct 20, 2010 12:31 AM GMT
    I would never let someone support me, unless, it was absolutely needed but then thats what my Dad is for.
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    Oct 20, 2010 12:35 AM GMT
    well if my temp bf could be my perm bf depending on how long he was willing to pay for my shit
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    Oct 20, 2010 1:23 AM GMT
    Hrm, I wouldn't be with a guy for the simple fact that I could get financial support from him. That's what my parents are for. That said, I don't think couldn't commit to being a gold digger with a guy I wasn't even attracted to and if I were attracted to him, then it wouldn't be called gold digging, would it?

    I'd rather pay my parents back when I'm established then lead a guy on for his cash.
  • pelotudo87

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    Oct 20, 2010 1:31 AM GMT
    I would never do it, but I'm sure it happens. I've heard that there are at least one or two gay bars here in Chicago that are mainly places where young guys go to look for "Sugar Daddies," lol.
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    Oct 20, 2010 1:42 AM GMT
    I'm way too independent for that. I'd be a bum on the street before I'd take money from someone else.
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    Oct 20, 2010 2:03 AM GMT
    I've noticed [at least in cyber space] the young boys' ads/personals are all looking for 'generous' people. Additionally, It has gotten to the point in which a normal conversation with a young person is inexistent; every sentence has to be followed by a dollar bill.

    Also, everyone seems to be an 'escort/masseur,' whoring out every bit of their well being for money because their penis is 8+ [virtual] inches. I do not get it, but all I can say that the 'New-Whore generation' is doomed for a painful and disappointing demise.
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    Oct 20, 2010 2:03 AM GMT
    So this is a thread about gold diggers. I'm sure they exist in the gay world.
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    Oct 20, 2010 2:09 AM GMT
    ehh i would never let someone help me financially without paying them back in return. I think it is trashy if someone was living off someone financially and tacky if they dont want to go get a job and make their own money.
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    Oct 20, 2010 2:19 AM GMT
    That dirty feeling that comes from using people so openly....

    does that ever come clean?
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    Oct 20, 2010 6:29 AM GMT
    I have never ever accepted money from anyone (even from my own family) unless I know I am capable of paying them back within a short period or tops within a year's time.


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    Oct 23, 2010 4:29 AM GMT
    Definatley NOT! My boyfriend is 13 years older than I am. I dont date him because he has money, I date him because he somehow turns me on more than any other man I have ever met.

    What I really look for in a guy, is someone who I can feel safe with, who is more on the dominate side (I dont like to "wear the pants," never have, never will) and I like to be chased. He did all that for me.

    This relationship began after I started school. He doesnt pay for my education. He buys me things, and takes me to dinner alot, but only because he loves me and knows I have a love for designer merchandise. Im still in school and we rarely even talk about it.

    At the moment I cant imagine breaking up with him. He's too cute, smart, and funny. =) He likes to cuddle, he puts me in my place when I need to hear it (im a stubborn fellow), he is playful and is always suprising me. I love him, and would still love him even if he was dirt poor =)

  • lookinsingle

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    Oct 23, 2010 4:43 AM GMT
    Maybe a better question is how many well-off men use their money as a tool to date the young college students they know struggle financially? If that's the case are these boys really gold-diggers and looking for a free ride? Or is a free ride being tossed in their face as leverage for some guy who thinks he can buy a cute face and a happy relationship? Just my 2 cents.
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    Oct 23, 2010 5:08 AM GMT
    lookinsingle saidMaybe a better question is how many well-off men use their money as a tool to date the young college students they know struggle financially? If that's the case are these boys really gold-diggers and looking for a free ride? Or is a free ride being tossed in their face as leverage for some guy who thinks he can buy a cute face and a happy relationship? Just my 2 cents.



    Excellent observations! and yes I agree! and isn't it ironic when you here "I am with him because I love him, and don't mind if he pays for the dinners when we go out, and showers me with very expensive gifts!! I had my share of wealthy bfs, but I have always used the 50/50 rule in all my relationships, I have never taken what I can't give back in return....NEVER!


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    Oct 23, 2010 3:57 PM GMT
    okgo1234 said"My boyfriend is 13 years older than I am."

    "I dont like to 'wear the pants,' never have, never will and I like to be chased. He did all that for me."

    "He buys me things, and takes me to dinner alot, but only because he loves me and knows I have a love for designer merchandise."


    I love him, and would still love him even if he was dirt poor =)



    Am I the only one that sees contradictions here?
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    Oct 23, 2010 3:58 PM GMT
    lookinsingle saidMaybe a better question is how many well-off men use their money as a tool to date the young college students they know struggle financially? If that's the case are these boys really gold-diggers and looking for a free ride? Or is a free ride being tossed in their face as leverage for some guy who thinks he can buy a cute face and a happy relationship? Just my 2 cents.


    Very true and I guess you can't REALLY blame the guys on the receiving end for that...but I wonder if it in some way spoils them where they begin to expect those kind of handouts from future boyfriends?
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    Oct 23, 2010 4:01 PM GMT
    Guy101 saidSo this is a thread about gold diggers. I'm sure they exist in the gay world.


    All Caribbeans and Latinos are.. its ingrained in the culture that the women here look for men who can support them... its a cultural expectation..... i have heard women say "what can I buy with love? How can love put food on my table?"

    So Im sure the gay guys think the same at times
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    Oct 23, 2010 4:27 PM GMT
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    okgo1234 said"My boyfriend is 13 years older than I am."

    "I dont like to 'wear the pants,' never have, never will and I like to be chased. He did all that for me."

    "He buys me things, and takes me to dinner alot, but only because he loves me and knows I have a love for designer merchandise."


    I love him, and would still love him even if he was dirt poor =)



    Am I the only one that sees contradictions here?


    noooooooope!


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    Oct 23, 2010 4:31 PM GMT
    amar_m said
    Guy101 saidSo this is a thread about gold diggers. I'm sure they exist in the gay world.


    All Caribbeans and Latinos are.. its ingrained in the culture that the women here look for men who can support them... its a cultural expectation..... i have heard women say "what can I buy with love? How can love put food on my table?"

    So Im sure the gay guys think the same at times



    Very true Amar, and believe me when I tell you that your generalization is not so far from the truth!


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  • pav1

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    Oct 23, 2010 4:42 PM GMT
    Interesting train of thought on this topic. For so many young guys to feel so jaded in life already is rather sad.
    I'm an older guy, single, and I like it that way. It's the thought processes from young guys such as yourselves that helps remind me why I don't date younger guys. Young guys are into money, looks, and what's in it for them. Many young guys say they wouldn't let someone pay for thier education but you all seem to be "looking for the next best thing".
    I'm sorry, but I find this load of crap typed here pathetic.
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    Oct 23, 2010 5:14 PM GMT
    Indy404 saidAre young guys in school just looking for Temp Boyfriends to Sponsor them?
    No, old guys in school are doing it, too.
    I was 31 in college and wanting a boyfriend to pay for it. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 23, 2010 5:38 PM GMT
    amar_m said
    Guy101 saidSo this is a thread about gold diggers. I'm sure they exist in the gay world.


    All Caribbeans and Latinos are.. its ingrained in the culture that the women here look for men who can support them... its a cultural expectation..... i have heard women say "what can I buy with love? How can love put food on my table?"

    So Im sure the gay guys think the same at times


    Amar, I beg to differ. Perhaps that is the thinking on your island. However, please do not generalize and apply it to all Latinos and Latin Americans. Socioeconomic level influences individual behavior in that region and in many other developing regions around the world.

    Bars in Roppongi are frequented by Japanese women seeking to snatch a foreign husband--either for status, income, or access to a life outside Japan. However, I am sure that a study of socioeconomic level vs. frequency at Roppongi bars would show that those in lower socioeconomic brackets are likely to go there.

    Gold diggers are essentially opportunists. And an opportunist is only seeking opportunities they can't or don't earn through direct means.
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    Oct 23, 2010 5:45 PM GMT
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    Oct 23, 2010 6:58 PM GMT
    GBRelentless saidI've noticed [at least in cyber space] the young boys' ads/personals are all looking for 'generous' people. Additionally, It has gotten to the point in which a normal conversation with a young person is inexistent; every sentence has to be followed by a dollar bill.

    Also, everyone seems to be an 'escort/masseur,' whoring out every bit of their well being for money because their penis is 8+ [virtual] inches. I do not get it, but all I can say that the 'New-Whore generation' is doomed for a painful and disappointing demise.


    So all young "boys'" ads are looking for generous people and everyone seems to be an escort/masseur?

    I think you need to expand your sample size. I would never accept money from a boyfriend, younger or older. While I am in a position where I can't really afford to be generous financially, I never expect it from a boyfriend and I certainly never accept it.