Dating at The Gym?

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    Oct 22, 2010 1:44 AM GMT
    We're all looking for a guy who shares our interst in physical fitness. And The Gym is a great place to meet such guys.

    But have you dated a guy at your own gym? How has that worked out for you?
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    Oct 22, 2010 1:45 AM GMT
    Too many to choose from.
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    Oct 22, 2010 5:12 AM GMT
    Tempting but never done it before. Afraid of a "shit where you eat" kinda situation.
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    Oct 22, 2010 5:17 AM GMT
    I've never even met a guy at the gym ha... that's just not the place for that in my life I guess. I usually notice other hot guys, but I never feel like trying to meet them. I would be pissed if some guy came and interrupted my workout to hit on me.
  • dfrourke

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    Oct 22, 2010 5:19 AM GMT
    I'll admit, I have rarely used the gym as my dating pool...but the last guy I asked out at the gym...has remained by boyfriend for the last 1.5 years...

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    Oct 22, 2010 5:42 AM GMT
    I've never dated someone from my gym and I don't think it would be a big issue really. It's not different then say dating someone who goes to your favorite coffee shop or diner.

    My only rule is that I don't wanna date someone where I work at. Anything else is fair game.
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    Oct 22, 2010 5:49 AM GMT
    Progress saidI've never even met a guy at the gym ha... that's just not the place for that in my life I guess. I usually notice other hot guys, but I never feel like trying to meet them. I would be pissed if some guy came and interrupted my workout to hit on me.


    I would be so fucking flattered if a cute guy at the gym came over and hit on me. They're all hot there, and I've been wanting to talk to more than one, but never have and probably never will. I would be scared of creating an awkward environment if it doesn't work out, especially since we're both there all the time. It's better to have the gym as a peaceful place where you can workout and relax.
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    Oct 22, 2010 5:55 AM GMT
    A trainer at my gym approached me and told me I never make eye contact with anyone. He's right! icon_biggrin.gif My gym time is my alone time. As far as I'm concerned I'm the only person there.
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    Oct 22, 2010 6:10 AM GMT
    Don’t shit where you eat*
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    Oct 22, 2010 6:28 AM GMT
    I've met several guys who happen to go to my gym...and we work out together sometimes...but don't use the gym as a place to meet new guys.
    I do look though.
  • Guy2010

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    Oct 22, 2010 6:29 AM GMT
    I would love it if someone approached me or if i had the gutts to aproach someone. But i think the statement said is right "Dont shit where you eat" unless you can eat your own shit.
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    Oct 22, 2010 6:33 AM GMT
    I'm straight/asexual in the gym.

    After a hard workout, sif you'd muster enough energy to even start a conversation.
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    Oct 22, 2010 7:09 AM GMT
    Yeah sure, i've "dated" a few guys in the gym. icon_lol.gif
  • Hokenshi

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    Oct 22, 2010 7:48 AM GMT
    I've had a crush on one of my trainers for over a year now, we've casualy chatted about personal things a little bit and I recently found out he wants to learn more English.
    If it looks set to turn into something more, then I would say f**k the not eating where you shit rule, cos this guy is HOT!
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    Oct 22, 2010 8:02 AM GMT
    Oh people, you and your rules are killing me. Half of you are probably lamenting that you are single and can't meet your masc dude bro, so my opinion, you gotta go with the flow. You can always switch gyms if something is going to get that drastic. I go to a fairly straightish YMCA, lots of working class italans and Portuguese and brazilians et al. Pretty macho. I see members stopping for a chat w each other aplenty, I say hi to some people also. I do notice that the "gays" tend to have this haunted look on their faces. Maybe what I'm reading here explains it....
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    Oct 22, 2010 8:55 AM GMT
    carabin saidOh people, you and your rules are killing me. Half of you are probably lamenting that you are single and can't meet your masc dude bro, so my opinion, you gotta go with the flow. You can always switch gyms if something is going to get that drastic. I go to a fairly straightish YMCA, lots of working class italans and Portuguese and brazilians et al. Pretty macho. I see members stopping for a chat w each other aplenty, I say hi to some people also. I do notice that the "gays" tend to have this haunted look on their faces. Maybe what I'm reading here explains it....


    I agree with some of what carabin and others have said. I think the rule some guys have quoted is better applied to places like work or your apartment building since the cost of switching, in case things did not work out, is too high.

    Furthermore, I think it would have to be a pretty terrible situation that requires you to switch gyms if things don't work out......and even then you could have a mature conversation with your ex on how to handle things so you can both enjoy the gym.

    Realistically speaking people do work out at gyms where they have dated other guys or hooked up with other guys and everything works out fine.

    If there was a true rule where every gay dude in San Francisco could only work out at a gym where he did not work out with an ex-bf, or a guy he briefly dated or a guy he hooked up with, San Francisco would need an extra 50,000 gyms or a complicated reservation system so you could work out at a smaller number of gyms without ever running into your ex-bf, or a guy you dated or hooked up with.

    Since neither of those things is going to happen, guys in SF figure out a way to make it work.

    I would also like to comment on something else that carabin said. I have worked out at a few gyms in the Bay area as a regular member and in some of them I found that the straight guys were way more friendly than the gay guys.

    In particular I recall that at Sports Club LA and the Bay Club in San Francisco, the gay guys were pretty reserved... bordering on aloof or as carabin said the haunted look. I don't think the gay guys were necessarily closeted but there was something else going on with their attitude towards people they did not know.

    The straight guys were way more likely to be friendly, say hello and strike up a light friendship.

    Other gyms in San Francisco were more relaxed and the gay guys were friendlier.

    So like carabin said, with so many guys lamenting the fact they can't meet anyone it is strange they pass up an opportunity like the gym. Even if the guy is not someone you might date, he might introduce you to new group of people that could contain a guy you might want to date so why not be more open to meeting people at the gym.
  • fs4321

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    Oct 25, 2010 7:42 PM GMT
    i'd love to date a boy there to keep me fit, but never got a chance
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    Oct 25, 2010 7:51 PM GMT
    I just met a guy at the gym. He wants me to email him so we can get together. First, he is too tall. No sexual attraction whatsoever. I'd blow him cuz, hey, it's a dick, ya suck it. But that will never happen cuz of his behavior. In the course of our conversation in the locker room..(he's hung)...he cut me off mid sentence 2 or 3 times to blurt out what had just come into his head. He is no more interested in the other guy (in this case, me) than the man in the moon.
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    Oct 25, 2010 7:59 PM GMT
    I don’t think you’re allowed to buy the clothes of the manikins in the window.
  • MrPapo317

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    Oct 25, 2010 8:04 PM GMT
    I would like to but i work out at the guy in my work so that would fall into dating someone i work with. bad idea. Few good looking guys at my job tho. icon_cool.gif
  • jgymnast733

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    Oct 25, 2010 8:51 PM GMT
    I'v hooked up with a few guys from the gym and its going okay, but i must admitt,, I'm starting to fall for the trainer i took home, he's new at the gym and a fuckin fine sicilian.....Trust me, he's ALL THAT.icon_exclaim.gif
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    Oct 25, 2010 9:13 PM GMT
    I think carabin is a wise man. I don't quite grasp all the unwritten rules so many men follow. It all sounds so very Victorian. Live a little!
  • neosyllogy

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    Oct 25, 2010 9:53 PM GMT
    Never met anyone I'd think of dating at the gym. Can only think of once or twice where I even noticed anyone was physically attractive.
    Definitely not really enough interaction/conversation with anyone there to become interested in them. In that sense seems like one of the worst places to look for a date.
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    Oct 25, 2010 9:55 PM GMT
    Fortunately, or unfortunately, all the guys at my gym are very straight...