How patient are you with other men?

  • Guy2010

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    Oct 22, 2010 6:40 AM GMT
    Today I thought a lot about patience. I feel like being patient with someone is very difficult as time is a factor that needs to be taken into consideration. (time in essence of life, meaning life is short)

    Some think patience is a virtue, but how can you actually really prevent something from going wrong? you can try, but you can not actually prevent it.

    I think patience stems from hope and is a bunch of BS.


    Patience: good-natured tolerance of delay or incompetence. So when people ask you to be patient with them, they are asking you to tolerate their delay and their incompetence? Why should you have to tolerate that? Why should you sacrifice you're time when you are not asking them to tolerate any behavior of you're own?

    I get the fact that sometimes you have to do it in order to achieve what you want, but cant you just screw that, screw them and move on?

    or, is it best to have that quality to live a "fulfilling" life?

    I think one can live a great life without patience if they make it a rule to screw anything that requires patience.

    thoughts?
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    Oct 22, 2010 10:00 AM GMT
    Guy2010 saidSome think patience is a virtue, but
    I think patience is a pain in the ass.
    Especially in traffic.
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    Oct 22, 2010 10:09 AM GMT
    Patience for things like waiting for a bus... or paience with oneself if you are learning a new skill... thats very important
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    Oct 22, 2010 10:10 AM GMT
    O if you're a teacher you must have patience... but that doesnt mean you should tolerate laziness or unruliness
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    Oct 22, 2010 10:12 AM GMT
    amar_m saidPatience for things like waiting for a bus... or paience with oneself if you are learning a new skill... thats very important
    Oh I'm VERY patient learning a new skill. But then again, learning a new skill usually doesn't involve sitting at red lights and fighting to pass slow fuckers going 10+ MPH under the speed limit. icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 22, 2010 10:38 AM GMT
    Let me know how being impatient with people works out for you.
  • bad_wolf

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    Oct 22, 2010 11:32 AM GMT
    Two sides to it; a) being nice, b) aiming for a goal.

    As a teacher you need to be patient with your students, you need them to take onboard the subject and make sure they do even if they're being unruly.

    If you're working with someone, on a project of some description, and they're clearing being a thick shit, and don't take it. They're clearly slowing the processing down and if they can't keep up and they shouldn't hold you back.

    If you're dealing with a customer you need to be patient, because you'll get your arse fired if tell them to go fuck themselves.

    If you're in traffic, clearly the people in front are trying to piss you off by not driving their cars into a ditch to get the fuck out of your way because you need to get home and pee, and thus should DIE!

    All depends on the circumstance.
  • Hokenshi

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    Oct 22, 2010 12:05 PM GMT
    I'm stupidly patient when it comes to the men in my life.

    I'm very patient and undersatnding wiht my students but recently found myself being more strict with the ones who take the piss every week.

    I have NO paitence when it comes to myself, I expect myself to do it right and do it first time. I guess I use up all my paitence on others.
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    Oct 22, 2010 2:11 PM GMT
    patient enough that i managed to remain single for 3 years
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    Oct 22, 2010 7:06 PM GMT
    Im not patient with rude, stupid people.
    With everything else, yes i'll be patient.
    For a short time.
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    Oct 22, 2010 7:13 PM GMT
    GigoloAssassin saidIm not patient with rude, stupid people.
    With everything else, yes i'll be patient.
    For a short time.


    I agree. I can be patient, and give the "benefit of the doubt." Then there are the blatant assholes: Bill O'Reilly, Ann Coulter...etc...who do nothing but stir up shit for fun. I have no patience or sympathy.

    We all get riled up over things, but I have no patience for impatient people!!!!icon_confused.gif
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    Oct 23, 2010 11:46 AM GMT
    Guy2010 said

    . So when people ask you to be patient with them, they are asking you to tolerate their delay and their incompetence? Why should you have to tolerate that? Why should you sacrifice you're time when you are not asking them to tolerate any behavior of you're own?{emphasis added}



    You mean besides your assholier-than-thou attitude? icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 23, 2010 12:19 PM GMT
    i find myself biting my tongue and/or counting to ten slowly in my head before i respond to something/someone a LOT. And when counting to ten doesn't work, excusing myself to swallow a xanax or step outside for a couple puffs of smoke usually works. So, i guess that makes me mildly patient......i mean i at least pause momentarily and collect/re-organize my thoughts as opposed to reacting fast and breathing fire at people.
  • BeNiHiKoU

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    Oct 23, 2010 12:46 PM GMT
    In my opinion, Patience describes a disposition somewhere between 'Absolute Lack of Care' & 'Truly Taking thing personally'. I prefer using the whole spectrum and adjust my disposition as best as possible according to the circumstances. I find that it prevents me from getting frustrated as much/often as many peers of mine, simply by choosing who/what/when to be patient, ignore or take at heart. I also believe everybody does the same, but it seems harder for those with strong individualistic sense of self - namely from individualistic cultural backgrounds as opposed to those from communitarian ones..... But then again, I could be totally wrong... icon_wink.gif... Please, show forbearance...icon_lol.gif
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    Oct 23, 2010 5:39 PM GMT
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    skotty75 saidi find myself biting my tongue and/or counting to ten slowly in my head before i respond to something/someone a LOT. And when counting to ten doesn't work, excusing myself to swallow a xanax or step outside for a couple puffs of smoke usually works. So, i guess that makes me mildly patient......i mean i at least pause momentarily and collect/re-organize my thoughts as opposed to reacting fast and breathing fire at people.


    what's THAT supposed to mean?


    I means i'm patient enough not to react immediately to every stupid thing someone says/does. Pausing to reflect/collect your thoughts before you react demonstrates some patience.........right?
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    Oct 23, 2010 5:47 PM GMT
    In our culture of instant gratification, patience is becoming inherently undervalued. However, why do we forget that patience is about showing respect, care, and courtesy to the other individual? Sometimes, it seems we (collectively) tend to toss out the idea of human dignity and human worth.

    As long as the person is not taking advantage of you in any way, they should be worthy of your patience and kindness.