Love stinks!!!

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    Oct 22, 2010 1:38 PM GMT
    I just need to go on a little rant...

    I have this roommate, we turned into friends, but my heart got the better of me and it went further with me than I really wanted to. He is not interested in such a relationship and now it seems like everything is going to blow up. How do you kill romantic feelings for someone? He's the best friend ever (we've been through hell and high water together) and I don't want to fuck up the friendship. He is somewhat financially dependent on me at this point, too, so at this point he can't move out, in order to get some distance between us.
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    Oct 22, 2010 1:45 PM GMT
    Force yourself to meet other men. That's the only way you will kill your feelings for him, and save your friendship!
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    Oct 22, 2010 1:51 PM GMT
    Thanks, working on that already! :-) It's tought to kick him off that special place in my heart, though, now that it made up its mind that that's where he's supposed to be. I have met other guys, and it just does not seem right... Maybe I'll just cut it out... or wait for the illusive Mr. Right. LOL
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    Oct 22, 2010 2:19 PM GMT
    I think Nick is right. Spend less time together and focus your attention on other dates. Don't compare your dates to Mr. Roommate. Just go out and enjoy the time with whomever you are with.
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    Oct 23, 2010 5:48 PM GMT
    Alright, I think it's already working... I went on a geological exxcursion today (that's what I study), and there was this really sweet guy in the group who sat next to me on the bus and stuck with me virtually the entire time. We split responsibilities for our report and are going to to it together... now, if my (underdeveloped) gaydar is not fooling me, I think he plays for our team... Just certain clues I picked up along the way. But I was not about to ask him (on a full bus) if he was gay... Either way, I'm crushing a little... only one drawback: I'm the senior citizen at 37 in our group, he belongs to the early twenties group... we'll see what happens... other than that, I have been making initial contacts on a local gay website (gayromeo for the Europeans here...) Let's see what happens...
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    Oct 27, 2010 9:04 PM GMT
    Ugh... I think my buddy and I just need to part. Just reflecting back on what has taken place so far, I don't think I can trust him any more. But then realizing that really means that the trust was lost a long time ago. He has a certain cash intensive medical need, and I've been helping him where I can, even advancing him cash with the promise of it being paid back. Well, it is not happening. I'm currently paying the entire rent on our apartment, including utilities, as well as for his food, and then even the gas in MY car when he needs it to go somewhere. I paid for his flight here (and that of his cat), but it just seems to all go unnoticed. I think I will just have to close the faucet, but then I have to deal with his moods when he does not have his medication. I wish I had the heart (or lack thereof) to just kick him out... While he's sucking me dry financially, he wants to hang out with all these other guys. Which is fine, but perhaps next time he should ask himself where they are when the shit hits the fan with his condition, or who's been making the weekly 200 mile trip with him to get his medical needs taken care of? Who made all this possible for him... I just feel hurt, and it's not going to go away, I'm afraid. I guess the lines have been drawn. I wish it had not come to this...
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    Oct 28, 2010 12:30 AM GMT
    Things always get murky when money becomes involved. I've been there more times than I care to remember. You definitely went beyond the call of duty to help him out, though a lot of it I'm suspecting was clouded by your attraction to him. That makes us all do crazy things. Hang in there!..icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 02, 2010 4:47 PM GMT
    I asked a psychology teacher what the best way to get over someone was, and she replied "Get attached to something else."

    In your case I would say someone else.
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    Nov 05, 2010 8:30 PM GMT
    That's what I've been doing... working on it, still... however, I have become somewhat indifferent towards Mr. Roommate... it's kinda nice to feel "numb", but it sucks, too, because I do care about him as a friend. It seems like with everything I do in life, it's rather binary. Either full throttle, or nothing at all...
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    Nov 05, 2010 8:36 PM GMT
    Andreas73 saidLove stinks!



    YEAH YEAAAH