It Is Never Too Late

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    Oct 22, 2010 4:27 PM GMT
    Last night my Dad, who is 84 called to see how everything was going. What the hell, I had been debating as to whether or not at his age, he needed to know the ins and outs of a magpie's ass, but the time and the opportunity were right so I told him that my wife and i were separating and the two reasons were: we needed to go different directions in our lives, first and foremost; and that I was gay.

    I told him about my lifelong struggle, by thoughts of suicide, my crying at nights as a kid to be normal, and that, accepting or not, this is who I am and that after 58 years, i was going to allow all of me to live life.

    He just said, I will always love you Keith, you are my son....

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    Oct 22, 2010 4:39 PM GMT
    Fucking sweet! Major congrats, man! *hugs* icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
  • disasterpiece

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    Oct 22, 2010 6:23 PM GMT
    I have no words, Keith, I'm so happy for you.

    It does really get better, apparently, no mather when. icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 22, 2010 7:09 PM GMT
    Wonderful story, Keith.

    I remember when I came out to my parents my Mom later told me, after they hung up the phone, that my dad said, "He's still Dave."
  • roadbike

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    Oct 23, 2010 3:13 PM GMT
    Wow! Good for you Keith. My mom once ridiculed me for being affectionate with one of my male friends before I knew that I was gay. Consequently, I never told either of my parents before they died. It takes guts to be that honest with ones parents. Kudos to you for having the balls to tell it like it is.
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    Oct 23, 2010 3:14 PM GMT
    Post of the week, Keith. Live long and enjoy life!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 23, 2010 3:16 PM GMT
    *touched*
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    Oct 23, 2010 3:17 PM GMT
    This is so cool! ...and so are you! icon_wink.gif
  • gary954

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    Oct 23, 2010 3:17 PM GMT
    sounds like you have a good dad there... that made my day...
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    Oct 23, 2010 3:18 PM GMT
    vetteset saidLast night my Dad, who is 84 called to see how everything was going. What the hell, I had been debating as to whether or not at his age, he needed to know the ins and outs of a magpie's ass, but the time and the opportunity were right so I told him that my wife and i were separating and the two reasons were: we needed to go different directions in our lives, first and foremost; and that I was gay.

    I told him about my lifelong struggle, by thoughts of suicide, my crying at nights as a kid to be normal, and that, accepting or not, this is who I am and that after 58 years, i was going to allow all of me to live life.

    He just said, I will always love you Keith, you are my son....

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    That's awesome, Keith. I never actually came out to my dad before he died, and I am sure he knew already and was very hurt that I didn't trust him enough to confide in him. It's not that I didn't trust him, I just couldn't bring myself to have that conversation with him. I'm sure he would have reacted the same way your father did, but I never gave him the chance to prove that to me. I will always regret that.
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    Oct 23, 2010 3:24 PM GMT
    How happy I am for you, Keith... what a wonderful man your dad must be!!

    I'll never forget when I sat my mom down for our "big talk"..and I started by saying: "Mom, there's something that I need to tell you"
    Her quick reply was: "What...that you're gay"
    And then, she proceeded to tell me that mother's always know...and even though I dated lots of girls, she knew it was something I did to appease my family.
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    Oct 23, 2010 4:32 PM GMT
    thank you, guys for the sweet replies. David, I never got to tell my mom before she passed in 2003, but like you said...Mothers always know. I just hope in some way that what i have said encourages some of you to talk with your folks and realize that MOST, not all, are loving and accept you as their son -gay or straight....Curious Jock regrets not haviing trusted his parent with this, but don't regret; we understand, speaking as a dad myself...some things are just hard to share with the folks..................Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Oct 23, 2010 4:37 PM GMT
    Congratulations. What a step, and what a freeing experience. Best wishes through the rest of the journey
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    Oct 23, 2010 4:37 PM GMT
    Happy for you man.
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    Oct 23, 2010 5:05 PM GMT
    Thats wonderful!
    The truth set you and your dad free.
    Congratulations.
  • Karnage

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    Oct 23, 2010 5:08 PM GMT
    Congratulations Keith!