Oct 23, 2010 9:10 PM GMT
dirlLast week, my boyfriend of three years laid a ton of bricks on me; he stated that he has been practisiing Christianity for the last three weeks and believes our relationship is a sin before proceeding to tell me that he is sorry but he cannot be with me anymore.
The thing about this I do not get is that throughout these three years, he tells me that he still loves me and still finds me attractive however he does not feel our relationship is right anymore because of his rekindled faith (he was Christian for the rest of his life until a year before I met him). Whenever I try to approach him on this topic or try to secure my feelings about him, he always states that he cannot help me and usually replies with "my faith is absolute, I shall not walk the path of sin". If I question him in comparison to other religious christians who have accepted their sexual nature, he talks about corrupted paths of religion and how accepting his sexuality would pervert him.
I really have no idea how to handle this situation, but he has been like this for a full week now and it is becoming quite scary, to see such a personality change from him who is usually very open abou this sexuality.
Has anyone else had any simular experiences or any good suggestions of what I should do or some useful information I should read?
My apologises if this thread upsets anyone who is religious however this is very important to me and I want to be as open about it as possible.
[quote="Dirl"]Cheers for your opinions guys.
Karl: Well within the second year of our relationship, I broke up with him due to him not trying to get a job or education for two years while I was in University. Two months later, on Christmas day he phoned me and asked me to take him back; after we got talking again he told me he had been diagnoised with cancer.
Obviously, this shocked me but I was determined to stay with him. Last week, when he broke up with me due to religion he told me that he was lying to me about cancer was so I would take him back but he also stated that he felt horriable for doing so and found consultation in the bible which made him feel better. Yet he also got into the mindset of believing that he has been corrupt since he stopped believing in god for the last four years and this was evidenced by his deception.
Since, he has been reading the bible commonly and joining religious groups, fortifying his faith further; when I talked to him today and asked him why he doesn't let us have a chance to rebuild our relationship, he stated that he will ask his Pastor tommorow for advice on my behalf for how I can get over him. Needless to say, that was not amusing.[/quote]