Good guy v.s. Hot sexual satisfying guy

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    Oct 24, 2010 12:23 PM GMT
    Talking to a girl friend at work & shes dating two guys. One is a good guy, polite, has a career going possibly in pro-sports & has a back up plan in case that doesn't work out that he has a college degree in. This guy has a football players build but as she says is only "average" in bed & doesn't really do it for her.

    The 2nd guy shes dating is a reformed prison inmate thugish type that has his own business refurbishing homes and resells them. She said he drives her wild and takes care of "all" her needs if you know what I mean. She says this brotha drops it like its hot!

    I asked her tonite if she had to choose 1 right now to spend her life with who would she choose?

    Her honest answer was probably the good guy, but she would have to cheat on him to have her sexual needs met.

    I appreciated her honesty as we are close friends but it made me wonder how much of this goes on?

    If you had to choose between a good relationship/average sex & a questionable relationship guy but he made your fucking toes curl.....who would you take your chances with?
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    Oct 24, 2010 12:30 PM GMT
    redbull saidHer honest answer was probably the good guy, but she would have to cheat on him to have her sexual needs met.

    I appreciated her honesty as we are close friends but it made me wonder how much of this goes on?
    Very very very very close to 100% of relationships.

    redbull saidIf you had to choose between a good relationship/average sex & a questionable relationship guy but he made your fucking toes curl.....who would you take your chances with?
    I've already chosen polygamy, so that's not an issue. icon_biggrin.gif
  • Bunjamon

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    Oct 24, 2010 1:06 PM GMT
    If she picks guy number one it doesn't mean that she couldn't teach him how to meet her sexual needs better. If she picks number two she might have good sex but divorce him later because he goes back to prison.

    You never know! If number 1 has a future in pro sports he's probably pretty fit, too! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 24, 2010 1:08 PM GMT
    The first one,we would ease make the sex better.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 24, 2010 1:11 PM GMT
    the first.
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    Oct 24, 2010 1:22 PM GMT
    I assume Guy #2 has a reformed thug look and is not an actual prison thug. Or is he?
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    Oct 24, 2010 1:22 PM GMT
    Sounds like she'd be settling for imperfection in either instance.

    Everyone makes choices for themselves for various reasons. You gotta do what works for you. Personally, I'd keep holding out for the quality guy expert in the hot-dropping.

    (Thank Todd that quality, hot fcuker showed up on my doorstep going on 3 years ago now! Woof.)
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    Oct 24, 2010 1:26 PM GMT
    In my opinion, good sex is all about communication and practice. Just like everything else in life, some people have natural talents where sex is concerned and others have to learn. For a one time hook up, you would obviously want the guy who has the natural talent. When looking for someone to be with long-term, you should look at other aspects of the person that may inform you on how successful the relationship will be long-term.

    In this case, if the guy is a professional football player, has a back up plan for after football and is in pro football shape, then he is probably smart, dedicated, good at taking direction and hard-working. I'd be willing to bet that if she found a way to communicate to him her needs sexually, his competitive nature would take hold and he would work at pleasing her until he is successful at it.

    The second guy has been to prison (not that that completely informs you of his character) and repairs and flips houses for a living. What this tells me is that he cuts corners and is looking for quick results. This says a lot about commitment and his willingness to work on something that is difficult and takes longer to see results from.

    All of this is a long way to say that there is WAY more upside with the football player. She may be able to have her cake and eat it too. If she were to spin performance in the bedroom as something that is a challenge for him, he may surpass the house-flipper in bed and she would have all of the other positives to go along with that.
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    Oct 24, 2010 1:27 PM GMT
    i would go for the good guy, i could teach him a trick or two and he would improve his performance
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    Oct 24, 2010 1:44 PM GMT
    I almost fell on the floor laughing at all y'all who say you can change/train the good guy.
    That's basically saying that the relationship will be doomed from the start.
    People only change when they want to change...not when someone makes them. icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 24, 2010 2:18 PM GMT
    You can teach people to be better in bed. All it takes is their willingness to improve and your knowledge to teach. You don
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    Oct 24, 2010 2:24 PM GMT


    lol, I'd probably choose neither, as each is more or less only 1/2 of the equation. While it could work out well in an open relationship situation, I'm hard-wired for monogamy so it would be a no-go.

    -Doug
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    Oct 24, 2010 2:24 PM GMT
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    redbull saidHer honest answer was probably the good guy, but she would have to cheat on him to have her sexual needs met.

    I appreciated her honesty as we are close friends but it made me wonder how much of this goes on?
    Very very very very close to 100% of relationships.

    redbull saidIf you had to choose between a good relationship/average sex & a questionable relationship guy but he made your fucking toes curl.....who would you take your chances with?
    I've already chosen polygamy, so that's not an issue. icon_biggrin.gif


    Paul are you about to launch a new show? "Brother-Wives" cuz I'd probably watch it.
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    Oct 24, 2010 2:31 PM GMT
    A2rower saidI assume Guy #2 has a reformed thug look and is not an actual prison thug. Or is he?


    I'd go for #2, assuming he's a thug type. Life is not about money and careers. It's about having fun and being satisfied in all areas. And yes that means sexually fulfilling each other.icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif

    After all at the end of life do you want to die with a smile on your face or money in your coffin??
  • hartfan

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    Oct 24, 2010 2:38 PM GMT
    #1. After all, I'm probably bad in bed myself.
  • coolarmydude

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    Oct 24, 2010 2:41 PM GMT
    The answer is neither because she is the one not ready for a relationship.
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    Oct 24, 2010 2:42 PM GMT
    Good guy.
  • dreamer121

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    Oct 24, 2010 2:46 PM GMT
    First Guy...

    Great sex off the bat is good... but sex can get better with just talking about what turns you on and trying it... I'd rather take the guy and train him to my likings. And he should do the same to me.
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    Oct 24, 2010 2:51 PM GMT
    hartfan said#1. After all, I'm probably bad in bed myself.


    lol, in all my single years I never met a Scorpio who was bad in bed. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
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    Oct 24, 2010 2:54 PM GMT
    coolarmydude saidThe answer is neither because she is the one not ready for a relationship.


    Agreed. I feel sorry for either guy that ends up with her.
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    Oct 24, 2010 3:02 PM GMT
    redbull saidTalking to a girl friend at work & shes dating two guys. One is a good guy, polite, has a career going possibly in pro-sports & has a back up plan in case that doesn't work out that he has a college degree in. This guy has a football players build but as she says is only "average" in bed & doesn't really do it for her.

    The 2nd guy shes dating is a reformed prison inmate thugish type that has his own business refurbishing homes and resells them. She said he drives her wild and takes care of "all" her needs if you know what I mean. She says this brotha drops it like its hot!

    I asked her tonite if she had to choose 1 right now to spend her life with who would she choose?

    Her honest answer was probably the good guy, but she would have to cheat on him to have her sexual needs met.

    I appreciated her honesty as we are close friends but it made me wonder how much of this goes on?

    If you had to choose between a good relationship/average sex & a questionable relationship guy but he made your fucking toes curl.....who would you take your chances with?



    It seems that this is a case of "You can't have your cake and eat it too"


    She doesn't realize that while the visual or feeling sensation of both
    flavors could satisfies her appetite now; the real consequences
    comes when too much of a good thing becomes fully digested later
    on, and then she will have to deal with the consequences of gaining
    the weight of too much drama out of what at first seem like a very
    delicious treat!

    I personally will stick to one, and my choice will be the good guy!


    Leandro ♥
  • CleveFriend

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    Oct 24, 2010 3:03 PM GMT
    I'd choose the first guy. Way too much emphasis is placed on sex anyway. I think that's why a lot of gay relationships don't last long. Guys will start dating because they have hot sex - then, once the newness wears off, they realize they have nothing in common LOL. Not saying a great guy makes up for no sexual attraction, but picking someone (for no other reason than being good in bed) is probably not going to last. I guess it just depends on what you want out of your relationship icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 24, 2010 3:04 PM GMT
    Neither, she should be a nun.
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    Oct 24, 2010 3:37 PM GMT
    tallcanuck saidPaul are you about to launch a new show? "Brother-Wives" cuz I'd probably watch it.
    Nah, Jerry Springer already beat me to it.
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    Oct 24, 2010 3:41 PM GMT
    CleveFriend saidGuys will start dating because they have hot sex - then, once the newness wears off, they realize they have nothing in common LOL.
    Women do it too...even more, actually. They're just better about keeping their mouths shut and playing the innocent little angels.