Oct 24, 2010 12:57 PM GMT
The Racial & Ethnic Divide In The LGBT Community
FierceEyes saidIt's something that I never really thought about until I dated a black guy who was an african-american studies major. It's a complicated issue ... for all sides. I was brought up to never see people for the color of their skin, but as a white male, I understand that I have that privilege due to perceived social hierarchy.
I also have the benefit of living in the SF bay area, which has an IMMENSELY diverse population, so after awhile all the racial boundaries kind of fall away. I went home a few Christmases ago, and my brother and I were at a mall in Appleton, WI. I started having this really unsettling feeling, and I couldn't put my finger on it. After 30 minutes of feeling uncomfortable, I realized that I was in a place with thousands of people who were all white and all speaking English ... and I hated it. It seemed creepy and assimilationist.
Unfortunately, that's their norm. So, when they're confronted with people of different races, I'm sure they're just as uncomfortable as I was (if not more). Fear is usually based in the unknown.
I've learned to stop trying and know people for who they are, not what they are. My ex-boyfriend is now one of my best friends, so we spend pride together in SF and we went to black gay pride in Oakland.
I don't think people should ignore any racial boundaries that might exist within our community or our country, but I think we should do our best to ignore any reactions we may have when it comes to judging someone based on their race.