Is my roommate crazy?

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 25, 2010 9:28 PM GMT
    So up until recently my roomate couldn't really care less about how the apartment looked. I was the only one sweeping and moping the common areas, I was the only person cleaning the bathroom and I'm the only person using the kitchen (no seriously) so I was the only person cleaning the stove and sink. Whatever, I didn't really care and never made a stink about it, because if I ever asked him "hey think you could clean the bathroom" his answer would be "its not dirty"...yes...that's what I'm dealing with.

    Anyway I'm no saint and I am in no way a neat freak, I just don't like things getting disgusting.

    Now my roommate has recently started talking to a guy who will be visiting him soon and he has turned into an annoying bitch, he is finally serious about cleaning, and he is blowing my only real fault out of proportion.

    What is it? Dishes...more specifically a single pot. lets say I make food at..11 AM on a day that I'm off I might not wash a pot until about 4 or 5 PM because thats when I'll use it again. Now most the time I just wash it later in the day and I may never use it again that day, whatever. Now lets say I make food at 1 AM (bear with me I'm a very late eater due to my schedule) I might leave it in the sink over night (mostly because its 1 AM and I'm not subtle about cleaning). My roomate has taken it upon himself to launch a war against me not washing dishes AS SOON as I'm done.

    Does anyone else find this ridiculous?
  • masculumpedes

    Posts: 5549

    Oct 26, 2010 1:10 AM GMT
    Um.....C-A-Y-G icon_wink.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 26, 2010 1:21 AM GMT
    hmm..fuck him.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 26, 2010 1:24 AM GMT
    just hide the pot in the oven, that's what I do.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 26, 2010 1:29 AM GMT
    Oh hell no. You need to check your roomie and let him know what the real deal is. Call him out and call them like you see them.

    This dude was never worried about cleaning to begin with so he clearly didn't respect you or the apartment from the get-go. Now all of sudden because he has man in his life he wants to get all crazy anal OCD on you and bitch about a dish in the sink just to impress some dude he may or may not even hook up with? Your roomie has issues and his priorities are ass backwards.

    FUCK HIM and the horse he rode in on. Your roomie is trying flip a script and in the worst way possible. If he's gonna come at you half-baked with that kind of attitude then he better damn well keep up the act and he better be cleaning his little ass off too when his supposed man is and isn't around.

    Put up or shut up. Go big big or go home. Dude's talkin' the talk but can he walk the walk?
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 26, 2010 1:32 AM GMT
    Look, just give him a pass if this is the first time this person will be visiting him. He wants to make a good first impression. Then crack the whip
  • tuffguyndc

    Posts: 4437

    Oct 26, 2010 1:39 AM GMT
    I would tell him to kiss my black ass. I will clean them when I get damn ready. I would also that his punk ass never kept the place clean until now. I will get to my dishes when I get to them. If you have a problem with it then you can clean it for me. Now fuck off.

    By the way, you are welcome do use my statement verbatim. If you still have a problem invite me over and I will settle it for you. ha ha ha ha
  • DCEric

    Posts: 3713

    Oct 26, 2010 2:01 AM GMT
    Talk to him and find common ground. Let's face it, you want to be comfortable when at home, and that means living like you want to and having a good relationship with the people you live with.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 26, 2010 2:37 AM GMT
    From the look of it, he's all about himself only. Get rid of him and get a roommate that has some respect. Next time, make it part of the roommate agreement before letting someone move in.

    The other option is, charge a lot more and do the cleaning yourself or hire a service.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 26, 2010 4:39 PM GMT
    I love you people.

    Thanks for the Advice everyone, I'm going to mesh it all together and get a "middle of the road" type deal going.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 26, 2010 4:52 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidI would tell him to kiss my black ass.


    LMAO

    BTW, Im sure alot of people on here would, if you wanted them to ;)
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 26, 2010 5:46 PM GMT
    Just tell him
    CartmanAuthoritah.jpg
  • neosyllogy

    Posts: 1714

    Oct 26, 2010 6:28 PM GMT
    I say ride that puppy to victory.
    If the dude's finally caring, then go with it, that's great. All you gotta do is wash your pot after you use it. No big.
    Worrying about past, and sins accrued won't get you anywhere. icon_wink.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 27, 2010 3:26 PM GMT
    neosyllogy saidI say ride that puppy to victory.
    If the dude's finally caring, then go with it, that's great. All you gotta do is wash your pot after you use it. No big.
    Worrying about past, and sins accrued won't get you anywhere. icon_wink.gif


    Thats not what's pissing me off. Whats pissing me off is that hes making demands that if aren't met will result in consequences in the form of "losing my stuff".

    That pushed me over the edge and at this point if he really thinks that's acceptable behavior (and follows through) he will have to deal with the state. I lost kidney function when I was 19, and because of that I'm considered "disabled" and if I really want to I can take him down for creating an incredibly hostile living environment.

    I don't want to be that kind of person but if you are going to attempt to bully and push me around I am simply going to get a bigger bully.

    Fight smarter, not harder icon_wink.gif
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 27, 2010 3:36 PM GMT
    Tell him the number of times you cleaned the bathroom, which should be worth..oh, about 2,000 unwashed pots.

    Personally, I think it's time for a new roommate or a move into a different situation.

    -Doug
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 27, 2010 3:37 PM GMT
    OK in hindsight that came off as bitchy so I am going to explain.

    I'm a really nice guy and quite passive, not because I'm a push over but because I don't sweat small things. What seriously gets under my skin is when people think its ok to push me around and make demands as if they are above me, you aren't so come off it.

    Also, I feel like a jerk for using a health issue as a wedge like that, but sometimes you have to show that you aren't joking around.
  • bad_wolf

    Posts: 1002

    Oct 27, 2010 3:38 PM GMT
    Grab the pot and smack the bitch across the face.
  • mizu5

    Posts: 2599

    Oct 27, 2010 3:39 PM GMT
    DoomsDayAlpaca saidOK in hindsight that came off as bitchy so I am going to explain.

    I'm a really nice guy and quite passive, not because I'm a push over but because I don't sweat small things. What seriously gets under my skin is when people think its ok to push me around and make demands as if they are above me, you aren't so come off it.

    Also, I feel like a jerk for using a health issue as a wedge like that, but sometimes you have to show that you aren't joking around.
    Not to be insensitive, but what does kidney failure cause>? Like... I mean other than it lacking it's function how does it disable you in a relevant way>?

    Not saying it doesn't! I simply don't get how it';s relevant ebcause I know little about it!
  • LJay

    Posts: 11612

    Oct 27, 2010 3:40 PM GMT
    Give a little. Get a little.

    In fact he is leaning much more in the direction you want than he was before. Why not just say that you will clean up after eating and try to keep at it. But tell him that you at least want to finish eating before washing things up.

    If Ihad a roommate that was at all inclined to clean up, I would be dancing, even if he was a bit strange about it.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 27, 2010 3:40 PM GMT
    meninlove said Tell him the number of times you cleaned the bathroom, which should be worth..oh, about 2,000 unwashed pots.

    Personally, I think it's time for a new roommate or a move into a different situation.

    -Doug


    Meh I REALLY like this apartment, its less than five minutes away on foot to everything I need to be close too. Its super cheap for the area, and its in a pretty safe neighborhood.

    Sadly, we are both on the lease -.-. I'm pretty sure I can tick him off to the point he would want to move though...the problem would be finding another roommate...
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 27, 2010 3:43 PM GMT
    Then take him on with number of bathroom cleanings vs number of dirty pots.

  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 27, 2010 3:45 PM GMT
    mizu5 said
    DoomsDayAlpaca saidOK in hindsight that came off as bitchy so I am going to explain.

    I'm a really nice guy and quite passive, not because I'm a push over but because I don't sweat small things. What seriously gets under my skin is when people think its ok to push me around and make demands as if they are above me, you aren't so come off it.

    Also, I feel like a jerk for using a health issue as a wedge like that, but sometimes you have to show that you aren't joking around.
    Not to be insensitive, but what does kidney failure cause>? Like... I mean other than it lacking it's function how does it disable you in a relevant way>?

    Not saying it doesn't! I simply don't get how it';s relevant ebcause I know little about it!


    No its cool I understand. If you have like below 10% kidney function (in both) you are then considered stage four at which point you have to go to dialysis (for most people its 3 days a week 4 hours each day). Theres a whole bunch of foods you can't eat, meds you have to take, and almost every day after a treatment the only thing you can really do is lay in bed exhausted. It's considered a disability on the grounds that impairs your day to day life and ability to find employment (which is so incredibly true in this economy)

    I don't really like the label though, I still work and even volunteer.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 27, 2010 3:47 PM GMT
    meninlove said Then take him on with number of bathroom cleanings vs number of dirty pots.



    You know whats sad? I did that and his response was "well you should have made a bigger deal about it".

    So yes, the issue was I'm not a douche bag and I don't complain when I don't get my way so its my fault. It has nothing to do with the fact that we both live here and he couldn't chip in to help.

    Typical type A personality bullshit.
  • Posted by a hidden member.
    Log in to view his profile

    Oct 27, 2010 3:52 PM GMT
    lol, confrontational and self-justifying roomie. Ugh. I think you've learned some rather unappetizing things about this fellow. I've been in similar situations, and my instincts say change is coming.
  • me35mtl

    Posts: 306

    Oct 27, 2010 3:54 PM GMT
    i think hes afraid that the guy whos gonna see him will view him as filthy..so now he is getting paranoid. They must have talked about something that got him thinking about being super clean. The guy could have said something that clicked in his brain that he hadnt paid attention to before..
    I had a friend in that same situation. What they did was they just made a schedule and posted it on the fridge..everything from doing the bathroom to who takes out the garbage.
    As for the dishes you need to remind him that you do your dishes and remind him you are not the type to have a sink full of crap.
    Problem with roommates is you always have to communicate right away and have normal conversations about the things that bother you. The longer you keep it inside the longer it starts to fester..and then it grows till you strat resenting living with that person