Dating a guy where race plays a part

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    Oct 26, 2010 3:07 PM GMT
    I've been dating this guy for awhile and I really like him, but the thing is he's African American and I'm not obv. and he seems to have a slight image problem with how others might perceive a mixed relationship (he has mentioned it on numerous occasions)... yet he really loves me (and I him). I kind of find this odd, I would think being gay and effeminate would change his mind set, but that doesn't seem to be the case.

    Would you break up with someone over something so trivial or how would you address something like this?
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    Oct 26, 2010 3:15 PM GMT
    I wouldn't break up with him over that. I'd ask him to please grow a set of balls and be ready/willing to tell others to go fuck themselves if they have a problem with his relationship choice.
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    Oct 26, 2010 3:17 PM GMT
    There were topics started on here where the general consensus was that blacks dated whites because they felt inferior. With that horrible example of mean-spirited generalizing in mind, I can understand why he has an image concern.

    -Doug
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    Oct 26, 2010 6:46 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI wouldn't break up with him over that. I'd ask him to please grow a set of balls and be ready/willing to tell others to go fuck themselves if they have a problem with his relationship choice.


    heh, I'll probably do that.


    meninlove - I understand that, but I am mixed and he knows that... but for some reason there are those that think races should stick to their own... but what about us randoms ? icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 26, 2010 7:10 PM GMT
    QuadraticEquation said
    paulflexes saidI wouldn't break up with him over that. I'd ask him to please grow a set of balls and be ready/willing to tell others to go fuck themselves if they have a problem with his relationship choice.


    heh, I'll probably do that.


    meninlove - I understand that, but I am mixed and he knows that... but for some reason there are those that think races should stick to their own... but what about us randoms ? icon_sad.gif


    We get to date everybody!!!
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    Oct 26, 2010 10:14 PM GMT
    QuadraticEquation said
    paulflexes saidI wouldn't break up with him over that. I'd ask him to please grow a set of balls and be ready/willing to tell others to go fuck themselves if they have a problem with his relationship choice.


    heh, I'll probably do that.


    meninlove - I understand that, but I am mixed and he knows that... but for some reason there are those that think races should stick to their own... but what about us randoms ? icon_sad.gif


    I don't think the issue is whether you're mixed or not. It's the shallow judgments of others he's probably thinking about. If so, he should give them an invisible middle finger and wait for some stupid comment, then sweetly tell whoever is crass enough to say something that he's not dating a white guy, lol!

    -Doug
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    Oct 26, 2010 10:16 PM GMT
    I remember being taken to task long ago on here on a topic about dating and race. The comment was that Bill and I were white so what did we know about it. Bill stated that he didn't marry a white guy (I'm very mixed race). icon_wink.gif

    -Doug