Can you train yourself to be a TOP???

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    Oct 27, 2010 5:13 PM GMT
    sooo my buddies and I were having a discussion last night about whether it is possible to train yourself to become a top or verse if you are a straight up bottom! Luckily I belong to the vers family and flippin roles while sex is HOT!by buddy is a power slut bottom hahaha and he brought up the topic cause he feels he doesn't get enough action being JUST a bottom

    what do you guys think? Can you really train yourself to be a TOP?
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    Oct 27, 2010 5:19 PM GMT
    Tell him to buy a strap-on. icon_razz.gif
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    Oct 27, 2010 6:24 PM GMT
    Yes you can train to be versa.. you may never be amazing at your "other" role, but unless there is a physical problem (anal fissure, erectile disorder) you can. Most of the time the problem is in the mind.
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    Oct 27, 2010 8:08 PM GMT
    I agree I think its all in the mind! I told him to go home and start humping his mattress! LOL
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    Oct 27, 2010 10:40 PM GMT
    crazycool saidI agree I think its all in the mind! I told him to go home and start humping his mattress! LOL




    hahaha you told him good icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 27, 2010 11:00 PM GMT
    i personally don't like when guy tells me "I am just top or bottom" i don't think its good for a relationship,but what do i know i am still a vergin
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    Oct 27, 2010 11:07 PM GMT
    I find something in being a top that truly excites me despite the fact I love to bottom. I love watching the other guy enjoy me being inside of him. Watching him being aroused is enough to get me very excited.
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    Oct 27, 2010 11:20 PM GMT
    CaliBoySwag saidCan you train yourself to eat pussy? Of course you can.....


    You can...but shouldn't icon_neutral.gif
  • andyb91

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    Oct 27, 2010 11:44 PM GMT
    Er well I'll start by staying I'm versa because I love dominanting people of my size but I also love being dominant by someone like double my size But I can't see why sex rolls have to be so black and white I say people should try both!! don't nock it before you try it!
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    Oct 28, 2010 2:34 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI changed roles. I used to be a raging bottom and then after some life changing events I got more in touch with myself and my true(r" identity. Now I love to top.

    And bottoms tell me I am very good at my game. icon_twisted.gif

    If a person is not happy with the role they play in bed then it is worth exploring to figure out what is going on. It could be other people's shame. For example, a lot of guys think bottoming is degrading. So this can create issues. Other people think being on top is equivalent to being in charge or in control or the "stud." I do not agree with this. Creating unions does not automatically mean that one person is dominant, in control or superior while the other one is inferior and/or less of a human being.


    interesting, i agree!
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    Oct 28, 2010 2:34 AM GMT
    Vladimir01 saidi personally don't like when guy tells me "I am just top or bottom" i don't think its good for a relationship,but what do i know i am still a vergin


    you're a virgin??? hahaha love it!
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    Oct 28, 2010 2:43 AM GMT
    crazycool said
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI changed roles. I used to be a raging bottom and then after some life changing events I got more in touch with myself and my true(r" identity. Now I love to top.

    And bottoms tell me I am very good at my game. icon_twisted.gif

    If a person is not happy with the role they play in bed then it is worth exploring to figure out what is going on. It could be other people's shame. For example, a lot of guys think bottoming is degrading. So this can create issues. Other people think being on top is equivalent to being in charge or in control or the "stud." I do not agree with this. Creating unions does not automatically mean that one person is dominant, in control or superior while the other one is inferior and/or less of a human being.


    interesting, i agree!



    well said... not sure why there is soo much focus on who will do what and when.. and what will not be done.. come on yeah we are gay and we have dicks.. i like to use mine as well but yeah i am gay and i know i will get fucked as well.,.. just saying
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    Oct 28, 2010 5:26 AM GMT
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    CaliBoySwag saidCan you train yourself to eat pussy? Of course you can.....


    You can...but shouldn't icon_neutral.gif


    LOL agreed!
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    Oct 28, 2010 5:27 AM GMT
    I think mattress humping or those artificial cunts you can buy at the sex store would be the best training for my buddy! don't you??? LOL
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    Oct 28, 2010 5:31 AM GMT
    Yes. As an extreme example, I met a guy born with tragically small equipment. He became a master with toys. Not sure what he got out of it, but he sure was good at it.
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    Oct 28, 2010 8:06 AM GMT
    I think it must be easier to learn how to top than it is to be a good bottom!

    Also, I do believe you can only be a good top if you know how to bottom - someone who only ever tops and has never bottomed, I would be very suspicious of!
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    Oct 28, 2010 8:27 AM GMT
    MidwesternKid saidI find something in being a top that truly excites me despite the fact I love to bottom. I love watching the other guy enjoy me being inside of him. Watching him being aroused is enough to get me very excited.


    Oh I totally agree with this - i'm vers and the biggest turn on is seeing that i am giving my partner absolute pleasure icon_biggrin.gif
  • g56whiz

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    Oct 28, 2010 10:41 PM GMT
    Isn't there an ol saying that the best tops are ex-bottoms?
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    Oct 29, 2010 12:10 AM GMT
    NickFit saidI think it must be easier to learn how to top than it is to be a good bottom!

    Also, I do believe you can only be a good top if you know how to bottom - someone who only ever tops and has never bottomed, I would be very suspicious of!



    very true man