Bf manhunt account

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    Oct 28, 2010 12:25 PM GMT
    I've been keeping tabs on my bfs man hunt account just to see what was on it etc and it was ok because it had "just looking for friends" so I was like okay that's fine.

    But tonight I noticed he had a new 'private image'.

    This is bad but when he was out of the room I logged in as him and saw that he uploaded a naked picture of himself, but it has to be unlocked for people for them to see it.

    I feel pretty sick.
    How do I bring the situation up?
    Obviously he wouldn't know that I logged into his account but it's really disturbing me.
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    Oct 28, 2010 3:13 PM GMT
    If you love him you probably should trust him. The pic can not state anything. And i think you should give him more personal space and not sneaking around, thats will cause disaster to you guys later if you keep doing it. Probably just let it go this time. If you feel any changes on him, ask him whats going on, but pls dont let him know what you did to his manhunt account.
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    Oct 28, 2010 3:18 PM GMT
    What's more disturbing is your blatent disregard of your boyfriend's personal space and distrust. If you feel the need to log on to his Manhunt account behind his back to spy on him, the relationship probably isn't worth it to begin with. But then on the other hand..... someone looking for "just friends" on manhunt? icon_confused.gif Sigh.... lmao
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    Oct 28, 2010 3:24 PM GMT
    Well if I didn't see the picture I wouldn't have to log on.
    Why would he be uploading nude pictures on there to begin with.
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    Oct 28, 2010 3:27 PM GMT
    rough_diamond saidWell if I didn't see the picture I wouldn't have to log on.
    Why would he be uploading nude pictures on there to begin with.


    Why is he even on Manhunt? The clue is kind of in the name there, it's not a site for making friends.
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    Oct 28, 2010 3:30 PM GMT
    Obviously Im going to ask him this, but how do I bring it up.
    I probably shouldn't tell him I logged into his account.

    Should I just click on the recent websites tab when im on his comp one day and he is with me and be like "what's this..can you log in".
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    Oct 28, 2010 3:30 PM GMT
    Two possible reasons.

    1. Maybe he has self esteem issues and wants validation to make sure he is still sexually appealing to other guys.

    2. He is cheating on you or is planning on it.

    But uh, the I'm just "looking for friends" charade is lolworthy. Such BS
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    Oct 28, 2010 3:51 PM GMT
    Just add a few nude pics of your own here. Give him a taste of his own medicine. See how easy that is!
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    Oct 28, 2010 4:23 PM GMT
    Sounds like you're looking for an excuse to break up with him. Just do it.

    My last boyfriend logged into my account here on RealJock and started digging through emails, seeing if I was cheating on him. He also went through my email the same night. The next morning when I found out, I dumped him. You deserve the same for digging through your boyfriend's shit.
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    Oct 31, 2010 12:17 AM GMT
    Shit, one day, I was using my brother's girlfriend's computer (i was staying at their house). When I went to yahoo, she didn't log off of her yahoo mail, and I saw that it said: you have a message from e-harmony. I was so tempted to open it up, and see it, but I didn't. I logged her off, and even though it bothered me, I knew I had no business looking through her stuff. I never told my brother either, and that same night I caught her talking to someone, and I soon as she saw me, she hung up the phone without saying a goodbye or anything. My brother soon found out she was worthless in his own, and I was glad I didn't have anything to do with their break up...He was no child.

    Okay, if you can't trust your boyfriend, maybe you shouldn't be together, and respect his privacy.
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    Oct 31, 2010 12:22 AM GMT
    1. Take your laptop to a coffee shop.
    2. Create a fake account with fake pics.
    3. Get him to unlock his private pics.
    4. Make a sex date with him.
    5. Agree to meet him at a public place.
    6. When he arrives, give him flowers and dump him in the same breath.

    I'm sorry, but if he wants friends, then he should join a bowling team. What the fuck is wrong with people?
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    Oct 31, 2010 12:24 AM GMT
    KardioKing said

    1. Maybe he has self esteem issues and wants validation to make sure he is still sexually appealing to other guys.


    This is so common its not funny.
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    Oct 31, 2010 12:30 AM GMT
    danisnotstr8 said1. Take your laptop to a coffee shop.
    2. Create a fake account with fake pics.
    3. Get him to unlock his private pics.
    4. Make a sex date with him.
    5. Agree to meet him at a public place.
    6. When he arrives, give him flowers and dump him in the same breath.

    I'm sorry, but if he wants friends, then he should join a bowling team. What the fuck is wrong with people?


    This is the stupidest thing to do. Any relationship is built on honesty, trust, and communication. Talk to your boyfriend, let him know how it makes you feel about his account, and try to work it out.

    Dont be sneaky/slimy to figure it out.

    Also, if you knew about this, does that mean you all ready talked to him about it? Its pretty naive to think that people on Manhunt are looking for friends only.
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    Oct 31, 2010 12:33 AM GMT
    I say shoot him.
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    Oct 31, 2010 12:34 AM GMT
    danisnotstr8 said1. Take your laptop to a coffee shop.
    2. Create a fake account with fake pics.
    3. Get him to unlock his private pics.
    4. Make a sex date with him.
    5. Agree to meet him at a public place.
    6. When he arrives, give him flowers and dump him in the same breath.

    I'm sorry, but if he wants friends, then he should join a bowling team. What the fuck is wrong with people?


    Entrapment??? =D so f-ing devious lol....But, at least there is a good reason to carry out this type of espionage- a relationship with good reason for doubt...But wow, If he doesn't bite the bait, that is one really messed up thing for the OP to have done.... Something not easily forgiven, if at all.
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    Oct 31, 2010 12:36 AM GMT
    Pyrotech saidSounds like you're looking for an excuse to break up with him. Just do it.

    My last boyfriend logged into my account here on RealJock and started digging through emails, seeing if I was cheating on him. He also went through my email the same night. The next morning when I found out, I dumped him. You deserve the same for digging through your boyfriend's shit.



    whoa that's severe, I would be somewhat relieved to see that, maybe in a twisted way even so. It would give me peace of mind knowing that he cares that we are loyal to each other and wants to make sure that I am too. For the first 2-3 years of dating, you don't have any real indicators of faithfulness besides words, so yeah there's nothing wrong with checking sources. You'd be stupid not to be actively aware.
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    Oct 31, 2010 12:40 AM GMT
    Andre_pdx said
    Pyrotech saidSounds like you're looking for an excuse to break up with him. Just do it.

    My last boyfriend logged into my account here on RealJock and started digging through emails, seeing if I was cheating on him. He also went through my email the same night. The next morning when I found out, I dumped him. You deserve the same for digging through your boyfriend's shit.



    whoa that's severe, I would be somewhat relieved to see that, maybe in a twisted way even so. It would give me peace of mind knowing that he cares that we are loyal to each other and wants to make sure that I am too. For the first 2-3 years of dating, you don't have any real indicators of faithfulness besides words, so yeah there's nothing wrong with checking sources. You'd be stupid not to be actively aware.


    I dont understand why people would think this is OK? Yea, people cant really be trusted anymore, at the same time how is he supposed to trust you if you dont extend the same trust to him?

    Its a continuous cycle of loneliness and suspicion. You have to have leaps of faith sometimes.
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    Oct 31, 2010 12:44 AM GMT
    Be honest with him, but begin the conversation with an apology for intruding on his privacy. Also, ask him what the point was of uploading a naked image of himself if the point of being on the site is for him to make friends. That doesn't make any sense. For the record, Manhunt is a cruising site for SEX, not "friends." Hence the motto; "If he's out there, he's on here."

    I'd dump him indefinitely if I were in this position.
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    Oct 31, 2010 12:51 AM GMT
    Have the two of you made clear to each other that you are, in fact, boyfriends? Have BOTH of you committed to monogamy?

    If so, then you've both screwed up.
    He should not have an active manhunt account, and you should not be spying on him.

    Don't play games. Have an honest discussion with him. Acknowledge that you screwed up too. Once both of you are completely honest with each other, then you can have an adult conversation about what you want to do about this and about your relationship.

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    Oct 31, 2010 1:00 AM GMT
    Fess up, honesty is the best policy. Be prepared for the consequences. Don't trick him into meeting someone believing he's cheating, that's stupid. Tell him what you did, why and why his private pic bothers you. Maybe he's willing to browse Manhunt.net without it? Does the account bother you? I think that's really it. I think you're monitoring the account because you aren't comfortable with his having it. Be true to your feelings but respect him in the process. It isn't easy and I have not done it perfectly - I hope some of this advice helps. Hope the best for you both.
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    Oct 31, 2010 1:01 AM GMT
    I think what you did was a really bad idea, simply because its breaking trust. I don't know if I would do any of this information because of that. If you did, I'd be very delicate about that because you did break a lot of trust.
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    Oct 31, 2010 1:04 AM GMT
    Chainers said
    danisnotstr8 said1. Take your laptop to a coffee shop.
    2. Create a fake account with fake pics.
    3. Get him to unlock his private pics.
    4. Make a sex date with him.
    5. Agree to meet him at a public place.
    6. When he arrives, give him flowers and dump him in the same breath.

    I'm sorry, but if he wants friends, then he should join a bowling team. What the fuck is wrong with people?


    This is the stupidest thing to do. Any relationship is built on honesty, trust, and communication. Talk to your boyfriend, let him know how it makes you feel about his account, and try to work it out.

    Dont be sneaky/slimy to figure it out.

    Also, if you knew about this, does that mean you all ready talked to him about it? Its pretty naive to think that people on Manhunt are looking for friends only.


    If a relationship is built on honesty trust and communication, shouldnt his ass be dumped just as easily for sneaking around and not respecting his bf's privacy? Honestly, if i ever found out my bf was doing shit like that his ass would be on the street in no time. That is the biggest invasion of privacy ever.
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    Oct 31, 2010 1:04 AM GMT
    Stop snooping and keeping tabs. Be honest about what your limits are and if he is interested in going outside the relationship then have a conversation about it. Communication. I was on the other side of this situation and it turned into a big mess. I wish I had the ability to really have an open conversation about it at the time.
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    Oct 31, 2010 1:08 AM GMT
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    rough_diamond saidWell if I didn't see the picture I wouldn't have to log on.
    Why would he be uploading nude pictures on there to begin with.


    Why is he even on Manhunt? The clue is kind of in the name there, it's not a site for making friends.


    Exactly!

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    Oct 31, 2010 1:15 AM GMT
    "Looking for friends" in of ALL places Manhunt is clearly a rouse for something else. I agree with another poster that either he's seeking validation if he's still attractive to others OR he's planning on cheating on you. Either way, attempting to seek friends on the sluttiest, most whoring hook-up website is ideally not the purpose of Manhunt.

    If he wants friends, he'll make an effort to seek them out through his regular buddies, your friends, or join some community activity group, but seeking them through Manhunt, Gay.com, etc., is only asking for hooking-up.