Not sure if he wants to use me to satisfy his curiosity or pulling my strings? Is he a good friend or does he want more? Any advice or experience

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    Oct 28, 2010 8:02 PM GMT
    I'm in my early twenties who has always kept my sexual orientation secret. I have a crush on a dude at my job who supposed to be striaght but at times he does things to make me question.

    He text me calling me boo or he misses me when drunk or hungover
    Say I should get his face or name tattoo on my chest
    Try's to hug me or come up from behind and puts his arm around me grabbing my chest or rubs my biceps I've been working out lol
    Jokingly says he wants to do me(is this normal)
    Jokingly says I should lick his lollipop
    When he go out to drink he always want me to come along and he won't stopping begging me til I come
    Called me drunk saying he wanted to talk to me
    Sing songs to me
    Two times already he have ask my location on the radio at work and then ask me to join him and the rest of the employee when I'm not around

    He is very masculine plays all the sports and have a girlfriend who he has dated for a long time. At times he seem perfectly straight but then other times I don't know. What is he trying to do to me? He doesn't do this with other male employees. Is he just playing with me like other straight dudes sometime do? Is this just wishful thinking on my part?
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    Nov 01, 2010 8:00 PM GMT
    This guy has issues with his own sexuality... Notice how his affection towards you appears while he is drunk or when you two are alone... If he is interested in you he should be direct with you and not lead you on this way. You hav a lot of wishful thinking... But don't let him string you along.. Next time he makes a comment call him on it and see if he will follow through... Like when he says lick my lollipop, say back name a time and place...

    But you should go by this rule, don't date coworkers.
  • aiko14

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    Nov 01, 2010 8:51 PM GMT
    yep... dont date co-workers.... icon_razz.gif

    some of my straight buddies act that way...


    straight, gay, bi or whatever... the thing is he has a girlfriend... don't let him get into you or affect you in some weird way
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    Nov 02, 2010 2:28 AM GMT
    mene saidNot sure if he wants to use me to satisfy his curiosity or pulling my strings?
    Maybe he wants to satisfy his curiosity by pulling your string.
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    Nov 02, 2010 2:31 AM GMT
    Even IF he was gay or Bi, workplace trysts can get ugly if they don't work out. How about going for a nice gay guy you don't work with, and consign this to the category of 'happy fantasy' and leave it at that?

    -Doug

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    Nov 02, 2010 2:37 AM GMT
    mene saidI'm in my early twenties who has always kept my sexual orientation secret. I have a crush on a dude at my job who supposed to be striaght but at times he does things to make me question.

    He text me calling me boo or he misses me when drunk or hungover
    Say I should get his face or name tattoo on my chest
    Try's to hug me or come up from behind and puts his arm around me grabbing my chest or rubs my biceps I've been working out lol
    Jokingly says he wants to do me(is this normal)
    Jokingly says I should lick his lollipop
    When he go out to drink he always want me to come along and he won't stopping begging me til I come
    Called me drunk saying he wanted to talk to me
    Sing songs to me
    Two times already he have ask my location on the radio at work and then ask me to join him and the rest of the employee when I'm not around

    He is very masculine plays all the sports and have a girlfriend who he has dated for a long time. At times he seem perfectly straight but then other times I don't know. What is he trying to do to me? He doesn't do this with other male employees. Is he just playing with me like other straight dudes sometime do? Is this just wishful thinking on my part?


    This is the what.. 3rd time you have asked this... icon_evil.gif
  • mcwclewis

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    Nov 02, 2010 2:41 AM GMT
    mnboy said
    This is the what.. 3rd time you have asked this... icon_evil.gif




    I was going to point out the same thing.


    Probably not going to get any better responses posting it multiple times.
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    Nov 02, 2010 2:50 AM GMT
    1- Your sexual orientation is NOT a secret. Your family and your close friends already know. They are just pretending not to know until you officially come out of the closet. Your coworker knows that you are gay and that is why he feels comfortable hitting on you.

    2- Gay men can be masculine and play sports (talk to 99% of the guys on this site) and gay men who are still in the closet can have girlfriends, wives and children (talk to the dozens of men on this site who have been in that situation).

    3- Your coworker is not straight. Straight men do not call other men "boo", rub other men's bodies, or ask other men to lick their "lollipop". Your coworker is gay and in the closet just like you are. He may be in denial but he knows that you are gay and that is why he is hitting on you.

    4- You could easily get this guy to suck your dick if you got him alone and gave him a bunch of alcohol. But DON'T DO IT. If you do it you are just asking for all kinds of problems. Avoid this guy LIKE THE PLAGUE.

  • LJay

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    Nov 02, 2010 3:01 AM GMT
    There is also a good chance that this guy, in his insecurity about his own sexuality, is not very bright and thinks it is clever to keep stringing you along and making moves. Someone who seriously wants to have a liason will not be so obvious and juvenile. Just avoid the guy.
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    Nov 02, 2010 5:24 AM GMT
    TheProduct said1- Your sexual orientation is NOT a secret. Your family and your close friends already know. They are just pretending not to know until you officially come out of the closet. Your coworker knows that you are gay and that is why he feels comfortable hitting on you.

    2- Gay men can be masculine and play sports (talk to 99% of the guys on this site) and gay men who are still in the closet can have girlfriends, wives and children (talk to the dozens of men on this site who have been in that situation).

    3- Your coworker is not straight. Straight men do not call other men "boo", rub other men's bodies, or ask other men to lick their "lollipop". Your coworker is gay and in the closet just like you are. He may be in denial but he knows that you are gay and that is why he is hitting on you.

    4- You could easily get this guy to suck your dick if you got him alone and gave him a bunch of alcohol. But DON'T DO IT. If you do it you are just asking for all kinds of problems. Avoid this guy LIKE THE PLAGUE.




    hahahahhah so true and direct and funny!!