SOMEONE ASKED ME A QUESTION DO YOU AGREE WITH MY ANWSER?

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    Oct 29, 2010 2:09 AM GMT
    So I was having lunch with coworkers and one of them asked me,if I was stra8 would I want my kids to be gay,
    I told them NO,I would not want my kids to be gay being gay is so hard and I would not want them to go threw what I or most of us have gone threw.I am proud to be part of the gay community and all but if I knew or if there was way to know that my kids were gonna be gay we would NOT have it.
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    Oct 29, 2010 2:35 AM GMT
    How pitiful and sad being gay and young have become in this date in age! when I was your age my being gay was so much more then an identity driven by sex or a stereotype. Ever since I can remember my sexual identity throughout my many stages in life have never ever being an issue bad enough to affect or doubt my self worth in this world. I owe that self worth mainly to the unconditional love I received and given back from those who have touched my life whether it be in a good or bad way!

    If I was straight I would do exactly what my parents did to me! give a lot of love and a sense of self worth to a child regardless of their sexual orientation.


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    Oct 29, 2010 3:40 AM GMT
    I think you might have made a profound point with them. If they can understand it can be so bad a gay person would wish his children straight they might re-consider bigoted behaviour they see but never confront.

    -Doug
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    Oct 29, 2010 3:44 AM GMT
    I think what they meant is would i want a gay kid..come on no one not one of us wants that for there child.yes i would love him like no other but if i could pick to have a gay or stra8 kid i would pick stra8 because he wouldn't suffer as much that's just my opinion
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    Oct 29, 2010 4:05 AM GMT
    ..and your opinion may have made a difference, I'm hoping.

    -Doug
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    Oct 29, 2010 4:09 AM GMT
    PRINCETONY saidI think what they meant is would i want a gay kid..come on no one not one of us wants that for there child.yes i would love him like no other but if i could pick to have a gay or stra8 kid i would pick stra8 because he wouldn't suffer as much that's just my opinion


    True...but talking from experience a parent's unconditional love can make a huge difference in a gay child's level of confidence and self worth! frankly I don't know where I would be or be today if it wasn't for my mother's emotional support! I know I am only speaking for myself but my most inspirational and positive people in my life have being my mother and my family. And like you just expressed so yourself, a parent's love and emotional support is the greatest thing a gay child can benefit from in order to grow up a well adjusted adult.


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    Oct 29, 2010 4:19 AM GMT
    You know , ALEZANDER, I do think he'd love a child who is gay just as much, don't you? icon_wink.gif

    He's just saying that if there were a way to prevent it, he'd do it for the sake of the child, because of how difficult it is for gays. Things need to change.

    -Doug

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    Oct 29, 2010 4:20 AM GMT
    I'm not ready to trade my life for anyone's, certainly not any of my siblings. With that in mind I would never have answered the question in that way. My answer would have been that we should never wish any healthy child to be anything other than what they are. A good parent will do their their best to help the child reaches his or her full potential.
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    Oct 29, 2010 4:21 AM GMT
    My heart agrees with you, but my head says it doesn't matter.
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    Oct 29, 2010 8:02 AM GMT
    This question is a little wrong... mostly because it is not really up to us. But still - I would want my kid to be happy and being gay might be a little tough and confusing in the beginning, but I wouldn't say it stops you from being happy.

    I am gay and that doesn't affect me in any bad way, so I would be fine if my kid was gay too.
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    Oct 29, 2010 10:25 AM GMT
    I'd prefer my kids be bi, actually.
    I'm not actually sure why, but I feel like they'd get the best of both worlds >_>
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    Oct 29, 2010 10:34 AM GMT
    I want to believe you, but ...
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    Oct 29, 2010 11:09 AM GMT
    I agree with you. It may sound contradictory, but although I like being gay now, I wouldn't wish this on my kids. Maybe in a society where gays were treated with the love and respect we deserve, I would wish for a gay child, but definitely not in the homophobic world we live in.
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    Oct 29, 2010 12:07 PM GMT
    reppaT saidI want to believe you, but ...

    Yea man you are right.

    Did he relly asked you or its like the deer post.
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    Oct 29, 2010 2:54 PM GMT
    You might as well throw in for all your children to be white but not a redhead, 20/20 vision, not disabled, muscular and without a receding hairline too. Being gay doesn't automatically make your life harder to live, it may impact on it but it depends on many other factors. I've hard more problems being of Asian decent than being gay (strangers attacking me for example), actually I've had no problems whatsoever being gay and I grew up in an environment that was a bit harsh.

    I know that there are people younger than me which quite open in voicing their opinions both positive and negative and are comfortable in pushing the boundaries of racism and homophobia. There's so many instances that I've heard kids in public calling their friends fags or nigger moreso than when I was their age. That is what concerns me about rasing any child; the peer environment that they interact in is somewhat careless about what these words mean or the meaning/ use has changed over time.

    It's other people that make you yourself feel bad about who you are (from comparison and judgement) so if you teach your kids to be strong enough to hold their opinions and sense of self closer than of others' then it's irrelevant if they're gay or not.
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    Oct 29, 2010 3:03 PM GMT
    I would want my children to be who they are.
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    Oct 29, 2010 3:08 PM GMT
    Timberoo saidI would want my children to be who they are.
    My answer exactly.
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    Oct 29, 2010 3:34 PM GMT
    I don't think any parent wants their child to be gay. However, how they handle the reality if they should be faced with it can have long lasting repercussions for the kid and their relationship with that kid. I would like to think most parents work through their fear and confusion about it and learn to deal.
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    Oct 29, 2010 3:57 PM GMT
    fulldelight saidThis question is a little wrong... mostly because it is not really up to us.


    THIS.

    And it assumes being Gay is a bad thing like asking:

    If you didn't have Cancer would you want your kids to have it?
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    Oct 29, 2010 4:03 PM GMT
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    fulldelight saidThis question is a little wrong... mostly because it is not really up to us.


    THIS.

    And it assumes being Gay is a bad thing like asking:

    If you didn't have Cancer would you want your kids to have it?


    In 50 or 100 years it might be.

    Sooner rather than later, we'll be able to single out a load of genetic defects like cancer, heart disease, and who knows, maybe also being gay.

    It's gonna open up a whole new can of worms, but it might just be possible.
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    Oct 29, 2010 4:04 PM GMT
    I totally get what PrinceTony is getting at. As a parent wouldn't you want things easier, rather than harder for your child? All other things being equal, it is just easier to be straight. Still, it concerns me that if there ever is a test to determine a fetus will be gay, the number of people that would choose to terminate the pregnancy.
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    Oct 29, 2010 6:07 PM GMT
    ALEZANDAR said
    PRINCETONY saidI think what they meant is would i want a gay kid..come on no one not one of us wants that for there child.yes i would love him like no other but if i could pick to have a gay or stra8 kid i would pick stra8 because he wouldn't suffer as much that's just my opinion


    True...but talking from experience a parent's unconditional love can make a huge difference in a gay child's level of confidence and self worth! frankly I don't know where I would be or be today if it wasn't for my mother's emotional support! I know I am only speaking for myself but my most inspirational and positive people in my life have being my mother and my family. And like you just expressed so yourself, a parent's love and emotional support is the greatest thing a gay child can benefit from in order to grow up a well adjusted adult.


    Leandro ♥


    well maybe it was diff when you were younger but right now i think its diff then how it was,look at all the suicides and gays dying and from my personal experience when i told my family i was gay i got kicked out so it was awesome that your folks supported you but we don't all have that luck
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    Oct 29, 2010 6:09 PM GMT
    pyralis saidI'd prefer my kids be bi, actually.
    I'm not actually sure why, but I feel like they'd get the best of both worlds >_>


    to me bring bi i bullshit,either you like pussy or cock period.

    when someone says there bi i think there still in the closet,there to scared to admit there gay so to them its better saying there bi because being bi is good with society because u like women and men not just men so its easier for someone to say im bi,but again this is just my opinion to get offended
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    Oct 29, 2010 6:23 PM GMT
    As a gay person, why on earth would you not want your child to be gay?

    I think it is a perfectly natural aspiration for a gay person.
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    Oct 29, 2010 6:26 PM GMT
    Mil8 saidAs a gay person, why on earth would you not want your child to be gay?

    I think it is a perfectly natural aspiration for a gay person.


    so like he said if u had cancer would u want your kid to have cancer also?