Having increased Bisexual urges and the anxiety is killing me.

  • Tmuta22

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    Oct 30, 2010 12:44 AM GMT
    There is no doubt about it, i am attracted to men. Not in the same way i am attracted to women, or even as much, but the urges to experiment with men are there.

    I am just looking for support or words of wisdom to ease myself into a new jump in my life.
  • voyager1977

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    Oct 30, 2010 2:52 AM GMT
    Those are stressful times. I think the only thing I could say is try not to get too caught up in the idea of sex with a guy. Just let it happen...be casual about it and have some fun - especially since you are only experimenting. You might find afterwards your attraction to men is less than you thought...or maybe even more than you thought. Unfortunately the only way to know is to play around. The worse thing you can do is repress your feelings...so I think you're on the right path considering a new life. When you're ready you'll take that step and you'll know in your gut what you really want.

    Good Luck!
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    Oct 30, 2010 3:03 AM GMT
    Give it a try.
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    Oct 30, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidGive it a try.


    and don't forget: "Post pics or not true."
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    Oct 30, 2010 3:22 AM GMT
    The biggest piece of advice I can give it to not judge yourself. What ever feelings you have are perfectly normal. Just give yourself a break AND permission to figure out who you are. It's stressful but it can also be one of the biggest opportunities for personal growth in your life

    Wishing you the best.
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    Oct 30, 2010 3:41 AM GMT
    Yeah dude.. there are all kinds of different gays out there. Even other bi dudes in the same sort of place that you're in. Find somebody you're interested in and comfortable with to give it a try. A hookup might just be awkward and turn you off to the whole thing... that'd be gay.

    I mean.. well you know what I mean.
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    Oct 30, 2010 3:58 AM GMT
    Oh, and play safe until you can make any other informed risk determination.
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    Oct 30, 2010 4:02 AM GMT
    Take a holiday to another country. Make friends. Look for the magic. Do what you do not normally do at home. What's done on holidays stays on holidays. icon_smile.gif

    Just be safe!!!
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    Oct 30, 2010 6:08 AM GMT
    RudeMech saidThe biggest piece of advice I can give it to not judge yourself. What ever feelings you have are perfectly normal. Just give yourself a break AND permission to figure out who you are. It's stressful but it can also be one of the biggest opportunities for personal growth in your life

    Wishing you the best.


    I agree with this guy, give yourself a break. It is hard, but your heart and instinct will tell you. good luck!
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    Oct 30, 2010 7:09 AM GMT
    Just means you get to enjoy the perks on both sides of the fence. But be weary of those who will want to label you gay, and that from the gays and not the straights.
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    Oct 30, 2010 7:11 AM GMT
    go with the flow, be yourself, and dont think about it too much
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    Oct 30, 2010 8:41 AM GMT
    KentuckyTuss saidYeah dude.. there are all kinds of different gays out there. Even other bi dudes in the same sort of place that you're in. Find somebody you're interested in and comfortable with to give it a try. A hookup might just be awkward and turn you off to the whole thing... that'd be gay.

    I mean.. well you know what I mean.


    Just go for it, you might be bi-sexual and need that occasionally female or you'll know you're a gay man...icon_twisted.gif
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    Oct 30, 2010 8:58 AM GMT
    Tmuta22 saidThere is no doubt about it, i am attracted to men. Not in the same way i am attracted to women, or even as much, but the urges to experiment with men are there.

    I am just looking for support or words of wisdom to ease myself into a new jump in my life.


    Dude...I totally understand. Almost 3 years ago years ago I was in your boat.

    Women are awesome! Sexy...just...OMG...hot!...But I always found myself staring at attractive fit men as well! I assumed it was just an admiration thing or a "damn I need to make sure I keep myself tight and looking right b/c that dude...damn (speechless and staring)...he'll take all the ladies."

    Things just happened at my school gym (Penn). One of my fellow Penn gymaholics had serious balls to approach me out of the blue... And the rest is history...still going strong...and loving it!
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    Oct 30, 2010 9:28 AM GMT
    Tmuta22 saidThere is no doubt about it, i am attracted to men. Not in the same way i am attracted to women, or even as much, but the urges to experiment with men are there.

    I am just looking for support or words of wisdom to ease myself into a new jump in my life.



    Same here my friend i know how you feel play it safe and slow icon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 30, 2010 1:25 PM GMT
    Realize that sexuality can be fluid and most people aren't 100% straight or gay. Don't beat yourself up over being attracted to or curious about wanting to experiment with guys. No need to rush into anything either. Do what feels comfortable for you at your own pace. You might be mostly straight and just a little curious or you might be truly bi. Either way, it is fine.