aiko14 saidwell i wonder what are the changes as a gay man 10 years (or 20, 30, or even 40) ago... i keep on hearing "its a same all shit from yesterday" but what are the changes we had in the history of homosexual? is it getting better or what?
About the same over the 15 years since I've been out. I came down to Florida to be in a gay community where I could feel safe (but that southbeach1500 mocks for it being gay-friendly, something he clearly detests).
Gays are about to see a rise in hate crimes in the US, inspired by national Republican & Teabagger political gains, with nothing we can do to protect ourselves, the will of the Democrats to defend us having been broken. And more anti-gay legislation, our goals of repealing DOMA & DADT now dashed (another thing southbeach can cheer).
My partner does say he's seen some progress, being older than me and out from his teens. He tells me stories about police raids on gay clubs in Boston that were awful in the 1950s, not unlike what triggered the Stonewall riots in NYC. And his having to go with a lesbian "escort" to the gay clubs, so he could pretend to be with a woman when the police burst in.
I fear the US Right-Wing wants to drag us back to that time, and make the mere fact of being gay a crime, and they have political platforms that call for it, on which candidates will be elected tomorrow (Tue). There are dark days ahead.
So to answer you: it had gotten better, but it's about to get worse. I don't know if you'll see much of it where you live, but some of us will. And national gains we thought were close at hand are now lost. It will take decades to recover from tomorrow.