Giving a guy your number.

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    Nov 01, 2010 9:31 PM GMT
    Have you ever given a guy your number, whose sexual orientation was unknown? If so, what kind of responses did you get?
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    Nov 01, 2010 11:09 PM GMT
    To be more specific, I want to ask a guy out, but I don't know what to expect when I don't know if he's gay. Hoping to get some tips.
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    Nov 02, 2010 12:01 AM GMT
    You could say, "I hope this isn't too forward, but here's my number. Give me a call if you'd want to go have dinner with me sometime." Have your number and "call me!" written down on a piece of paper, and hand it to him. It will be very obvious that you're gay and wanting a date with him. He'll either tell you he's not gay, or he'll throw the piece of paper away and wonder what about himself puts out the gay vibe.
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    Nov 02, 2010 12:15 AM GMT
    Yes I have many, many times. In almost all cases the guys turned out to be straight and often became friends. Here is the trick. You don't just give them the number because you find them hot. You can do that if a guy is gay but not if he is straight. Straight men are looking for friends with whom they have something in common. Find something that will give you a reason to need to contact him. These days for me it is usually sports. In the past though it might be a party I might want to invite them to. I use to meet a lot of straight men at gyms and if I wanted company for a drink or a bite to eat I wouldn't hesitate to ask if they were free to join me.

    One time a straight guy gave me his number. When I didn't call he, looked me up in the company directory, called me, and asked me out for a drink. He was quite handsome but I didn't kid myself. I knew his motivation. He had met my sister the same night. He is now my brother in law!
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    Nov 02, 2010 9:24 PM GMT
    Thanks for the help. I agree, since he is in a class with me, it would probably be best to somehow ask if he needs to study with someone -which would most likely lead to the friend zone.. I doubt he's gay.
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    Nov 02, 2010 9:34 PM GMT
    friendormate saidYes I have many, many times. In almost all cases the guys turned out to be straight and often became friends. Here is the trick. You don't just give them the number because you find them hot. You can do that if a guy is gay but not if he is straight. Straight men are looking for friends with whom they have something in common. Find something that will give you a reason to need to contact him. These days for me it is usually sports. In the past though it might be a party I might want to invite them to. I use to meet a lot of straight men at gyms and if I wanted company for a drink or a bite to eat I wouldn't hesitate to ask if they were free to join me.

    One time a straight guy gave me his number. When I didn't call he, looked me up in the company directory, called me, and asked me out for a drink. He was quite handsome but I didn't kid myself. I knew his motivation. He had met my sister the same night. He is now my brother in law!


    Haha. Nice story.
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    Nov 02, 2010 9:56 PM GMT
    Find something in common. For a hypothetical example say: basketball. Ask said Guy if he likes basketball (obviously think of something you're pretty sure this Guy likes) and when he says yes, be like "I'm looking for someone to shoot hoops wit, I don't have a lot of friends that play etc...whatever you can think of and then get his number instead of being a pussy and giving him yours and then being sad When he doesn't do anything. Be bold and just find a way no matter the outcome.
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    Nov 02, 2010 9:57 PM GMT
    running11 saidFind something in common. For a hypothetical example say: basketball. Ask said Guy if he likes basketball (obviously think of something you're pretty sure this Guy likes) and when he says yes, be like "I'm looking for someone to shoot hoops wit, I don't have a lot of friends that play etc...whatever you can think of and then get his number instead of being a pussy and giving him yours and then being sad When he doesn't do anything. Be bold and just find a way no matter the outcome.


    Wanna shoot some hoops?
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    Nov 03, 2010 1:32 AM GMT
    I thought the point was to let him know you're gay, and to ask him out, rather than deliberately attempting to get stuck in "friend zone" and still have no clue if he's gay?
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    Nov 03, 2010 1:42 AM GMT
    Pyrotech saidI thought the point was to let him know you're gay, and to ask him out, rather than deliberately attempting to get stuck in "friend zone" and still have no clue if he's gay?


    Well it's been working for me and I love hot ballers so... +1 for me. ;)

    But just get his number and see how he responds. No sweat go with it
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    Nov 03, 2010 1:43 AM GMT
    Mil8 said
    running11 saidFind something in common. For a hypothetical example say: basketball. Ask said Guy if he likes basketball (obviously think of something you're pretty sure this Guy likes) and when he says yes, be like "I'm looking for someone to shoot hoops wit, I don't have a lot of friends that play etc...whatever you can think of and then get his number instead of being a pussy and giving him yours and then being sad When he doesn't do anything. Be bold and just find a way no matter the outcome.


    Wanna shoot some hoops?


    I never turn down competition.
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    Nov 03, 2010 1:44 AM GMT
    Ask him on a date?
    Im not good with roundabout things. Being sneaky confuses me. icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 03, 2010 1:53 AM GMT
    I wouldnt put him in the embarassing position of rejecting your number.

    Just ask him if he would like to ____. You fill in the blank.

    Let him accept or reject the invitation. After his acceptance then you can discuss the arrangements for getting together.
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    Nov 03, 2010 1:56 AM GMT
    I dunno, but when I was 22 I was always looking for new friends. If a handsome guy in one of my classes came up to me and introduced himself to me I would have been thrilled! If he was gay too it would have been like winning the lottery! Time doesn't change that, I would still be thrilled.

    Sit next to him, strike up a conversation and go from there. If you guys are taking the same class you already have something to talk about. Good Luck!

    Dorothy Zbornak from the Golden Girls once said this, and it stuck with me...

    "Sometimes in life Good things happen, sometimes Bad things happen, but if you don't take a chance, NOTHING happens."