Great guy, loose skin.

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    Nov 02, 2010 4:24 PM GMT
    Hey yall,

    Hope all is well. I need an answer to a question.. I used to weigh around 400 pounds, now weight 200, look great with clothes on, but, wow with clothes off I could join the circus. I wanna have a good relationship with someone young like me, but, is this impossible? I need to know if I need to keep trying, or if the venture is futile.. I'm tired of never being called back. To top it all off, and I dunno if this matters, I have a *huge* dick and it never gets any action because of this. I need a solution, as surgery leaves nasty scars and I could never afford it anyway. Am I doomed?

    Do I need to find a really ugly overweight guy to go out with? Is that really what it will take to find someone? Should I list this on dating profiles? Yeah..thats sexy "mmm loose skin" ... I have no idea what to do.

    Thanks,

    -Jonathan
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    Nov 02, 2010 4:43 PM GMT
    The forum regs here who know me will attest that this is a rarity but......I'm Genuinely Speechless. icon_eek.gif
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    Nov 02, 2010 4:46 PM GMT
    LOL, I dunno how to take that. icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 02, 2010 4:49 PM GMT
    congrats on the weight loss. I'm afraid I only know of the surgery. Good luck! I wouldn't be surprised if someone found the extra skin attractive, btw.
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    Nov 02, 2010 4:50 PM GMT
    I think surgery is the only option if you have a lot of loose excess skin, I know that's not what you want to hear but well done on loosing all the weight, I hope you can save up for the surgery and then you can put that huge dick to use!
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    Nov 02, 2010 5:25 PM GMT
    So far the verdict is, without surgery nothing is going to get better? Should I become a monk? Hahaha.. no seriously, I never have the hope of saving that kind of money in today's economy.. I wanna be screwed, but in a good way.. this blows.

    Can't win?
  • Timbales

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    Nov 02, 2010 5:38 PM GMT
    You can help it somewhat by making sure you drink lots of water and moisturize your skin with lotions with vitamin E in them. You might also want to see a few surgeons to find out how much it would cost and what financing options they might have available.
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    Nov 02, 2010 6:09 PM GMT
    Jonathan, I, too have been in the same boat, still have some of that too...More than I want- Here's what I found-your body will(from experience) tighten a bit on it's own with lots of water(lots)...i mean lots... AND...Here's the thing-If your thin enough-gain some- I mean add some muscle through xtra calories, weight lifting and proper nutrition. This sh** happens when you lose alot of weight. But, my friend be PROUD that you lost this weight! This is your first item. The skin can tighten-all is not lost. It probably won't be tight as you want it to be, but I see no reason why you can't get it to a point where it's manageable. Give it time, weight training with adding good calories and PROTEIN, water and patience. (Get a trainer or get help) Here's one more thing friend, YOUR ABILITY TO SHOW YOUR PRIDE IN YOURSELF AND WHAT YOU HAVE ACCOMPLISHED IS WAY MORE ATTRACTIVE TO OTHERS THAN ABS YOU CAN FLIP A COIN OFF OF! Be proud of what you've done, my friend. Good luck and keep me posted. Tonyicon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 02, 2010 6:10 PM GMT
    Btw, I WAS 420 LBS...
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    Nov 02, 2010 6:26 PM GMT
    Thanks Tony, you got my eyes a little red ... but from happiness, or the possibility of.. icon_smile.gif I'm a really awesome dude, and hate to be passed up because of all the hard work I did, gay guys can be assholes. icon_razz.gif I can bag anyone on paper, but ya know.. in actual life.. they see that and think "oh shit".. I hate to consider it a deformity, but in the gay world, it is.. lol. I'm gonna give it 3-5 more years of seriously hard work and muscle building, after that I'll know if I want to continue or not.

    Thanks for the hope,

    Jonathan
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    Nov 02, 2010 6:35 PM GMT
    Ok... I had to reply one more time, cuz I'm older and been around a bit more, so here it goes... Your view of the gay world is like many others. BUT, it might have something to do with in which circles you hang out. Gay dudes that think you need to be 125lbs and can fit into a woman's size 4 are not the norm. There are plenty of us who are proud of our masculinity and know the limits of the human body and are not so judgemental. In fact, lots of us like the normalcy of being less than perfect. So, in short, find groups that are a bit different than ur used to- believe me, they are out there. Take care, Tony
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    Nov 02, 2010 7:38 PM GMT
    cursedlucky saidHey yall,

    Hope all is well. I need an answer to a question.. I used to weigh around 400 pounds, now weight 200, look great with clothes on, but, wow with clothes off I could join the circus. I wanna have a good relationship with someone young like me, but, is this impossible? I need to know if I need to keep trying, or if the venture is futile.. I'm tired of never being called back. To top it all off, and I dunno if this matters, I have a *huge* dick and it never gets any action because of this. I need a solution, as surgery leaves nasty scars and I could never afford it anyway. Am I doomed?

    Do I need to find a really ugly overweight guy to go out with? Is that really what it will take to find someone? Should I list this on dating profiles? Yeah..thats sexy "mmm loose skin" ... I have no idea what to do.

    Thanks,

    -Jonathan


    If I were you I would find the way to save for surgery, beg/steal/borrow..Lol I kid, but do what you have to in order to get to where you will feel comfortable in your body....The scars ? Maybe cover in tasteful, faint tattoos? To enahnce your features as opposed to distract from?

    Good Luck
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    Nov 02, 2010 7:48 PM GMT
    Did you just recently lose all the extra weight? I remembered reading about this subject on RJ several years ago; and I seemed to recall somebody saying the skin would eventually shrink back a lot, especially if you were young (and you are.)

    Give it some more time and then see if you really need surgery. Congratulations on the weight loss too -- I am just beginning on that journey myself.
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    Nov 27, 2010 3:52 AM GMT
    Before you start thinking too much about how your body looks on the outside, you should think about how it's working on the inside. Your heart now has to work so much less hard. You probably got yourself an extra ten years work out of it, with all the hard work you did.

    Awesome work! Hold your head up high.

    Oh and if you're worried about how your skin looks, stand up really straight too. It'll make it appear more taunt! icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 27, 2010 6:22 AM GMT
    Jonathan,

    look up mesotherapy and try it. I've lost 75#s over the years and at my age, the elasticity of the skin is nil. Meso therapy is a number of painless injections with a mixture of natural ingredients that has been around since 1952 and was invented by a french doctor. I go to a sports medicine physician. they are not cheap, about $1000 for four series of injections and you can get them to break up fat deposits and also to shrink stretched skin.

    Find a reputable doctor to do it and talk to him about it......all the best ..Keithicon_cool.gif
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    Nov 27, 2010 6:30 AM GMT
    I had the surgery 20 months ago. Yes, there is scarring, however; the dr did a great job. And you can almost not tell that I had it done in some areas. The other areas that are scarred, it is just scar tissue under the skin. I will have a simple procedure to cut that out and you will not even see it!

    If you are going to get the surgery, get a very reputable dr. I had mine done here in San Diego/La Jolla.

    And Congrats on your weight loss. I did mine by cutting out junk food, soda, all that nasty stuff. Hired a trainer for 18 months. Now I have to keep what I paid for!

    Good Luck!
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    Nov 27, 2010 6:47 AM GMT
    I had a teacher that was 360 lb and now is 165 lb. His skin
    Slowly got to a point that is is almost normal looking. So learn patience. You are a work it progress and heal a bit everyday.
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    Nov 27, 2010 5:10 PM GMT
    I had no idea you were on RJ Jonathan.

    We're gonna get ya out and about and around more folks who will appreciate you, and I'm sure there will be something for the more uh prurient side as well icon_biggrin.gif

    And you'd better call me when you're back in town lol
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    Nov 27, 2010 5:15 PM GMT
    One person I know had the same problem and had a lot of loose skin removed after losing several hundred pounds, but his aftercare was comparable to being treated like a burn victim! Speak with your doctor about all the details!
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    Nov 27, 2010 5:19 PM GMT
    cursedlucky saidHey yall,

    Hope all is well. I need an answer to a question.. I used to weigh around 400 pounds, now weight 200, look great with clothes on, but, wow with clothes off I could join the circus. I wanna have a good relationship with someone young like me, but, is this impossible? I need to know if I need to keep trying, or if the venture is futile.. I'm tired of never being called back. To top it all off, and I dunno if this matters, I have a *huge* dick and it never gets any action because of this. I need a solution, as surgery leaves nasty scars and I could never afford it anyway. Am I doomed?

    Do I need to find a really ugly overweight guy to go out with? Is that really what it will take to find someone? Should I list this on dating profiles? Yeah..thats sexy "mmm loose skin" ... I have no idea what to do.

    Thanks,

    -Jonathan


    I think that maybe that the skin isn't really this issue, because NOBODY has a perfect body.

    Whoever you are with for the long run should love you for you, not for your body. Yes physical attraction is part of the relationship, but you should not base your self worth around your body. Which I can tell you do because you are depressed about some loose skin but tout your *HUGE DICK*. Couples don't stay together over dick size, they stay for substance.

    I have a feeling you are looking in all the wrong places. Young guys tend to be VERY superficial and hookup oriented. You need to look elsewhere, find someone who likes to do what you do. Not a boy you just want to sex up.
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    Nov 27, 2010 5:31 PM GMT
    Jonathan,

    Awesome job, it's so refreshing to hear stories like yoursicon_biggrin.gif

    After loosing 70 pounds I found my self with a some excess belly skin. What's working is tons of water, running/cycling and PATIENCE. It will happen. Never give up! You're a handsome man.

    Like Tonync1969 said "There are plenty of us who are proud of our masculinity and know the limits of the human body and are not so judgmental. In fact, lots of us like the normalcy of being less than perfect." It's what your inner man is that defines you.

    Mark
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    Nov 27, 2010 5:36 PM GMT
    Yeah Man I agree with some of the other posts on here... there are several non surgical measures to tighten looser sking... and with a cute face like yours and big cock as you said you have I'm sure you'll find a good guy icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 27, 2010 5:39 PM GMT
    Jonathan,

    Back when I lived in San Diego there was a guy I knew who lost a ridiculous amount of weight like yourself with no surgery. The local news mags got a hold of his story and paid for him to get the tightening of the skin thing taken care of. So that might be one option.

    I also used to date a guy who lost 80 pounds rapidly and because of it he had some loose skin. I won't lie and say it was the most attractive thing ever, but I was able to get past it because he was cute and he took care of himself. I know yours is an extreme case, but my point is there are people out there who will look past that if you are a good person. I also know a lot of sluts who will get with ya just for the huge dick. They don't care that you have any other appendages.

    So you should be fine man. Do what the people above who have been in your situation suggest. We all have our issues that make finding relationships and sex difficult, but you have to believe there are people out there who can look past it.
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    Nov 27, 2010 5:42 PM GMT
    Timeframe? How recently did you lose the weight and over how much time? The more recent and the faster the weight loss the less time your body has had to recover....

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    Nov 27, 2010 5:47 PM GMT
    cursedlucky said
    Do I need to find a really ugly overweight guy to go out with? Is that really what it will take to find someone? Should I list this on dating profiles? Yeah..thats sexy "mmm loose skin" ... I have no idea what to do.


    I found your whole statement disturbing. The fact that you classify some guys as ''ugly overweight guys'' and then expect other people to treat you not on the basis of your looks is confusing. Are you doomed? No. Will you survive? Probably not with this state of mind.