Umm... I really need some help here!!!

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    Nov 03, 2010 1:47 AM GMT
    Alright so I have this really good girlfriend. She is awesome and baller in more then one way. And she is now dating this guy. Yeah I met him once and he was fun so we became buds... Yeah I was 99.9% sure that he was straight cause I mean he is dating a girl so I would hope he is. Yeah... no... It turns out he is bi and he has been hitting on me. yeah my friend doesn't know about any of this. I think she might know that he is bi but that is it. Yeah I don't want to like kill her cause they broke up earlier this year and she was devastated and i don't want to cause her to be like that again. Please help me! How do I get around this??? Should I tell my friend or not tell her???
  • LJay

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    Nov 03, 2010 1:56 AM GMT
    Look straight into the mirror and say out loud: I am not in high school any more.

    To your female friend, you say nothing.

    To the enterprising bi guy, you say: Maybe another time, but while you are dating my female friend I do not think that it would be fair to her to play around.

    That is it. No more. ESPECIALLY drop the melodrama.
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    Nov 03, 2010 1:59 AM GMT
    I would say it depends on how long you expect it to last with him, whether you expect her to find out. You could always ask her beforehand, then she might feel respected at least. BTW, he doesnt sound too bi to me. Just a closet gay.
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    Nov 03, 2010 4:03 AM GMT
    I'll just say it cause if I don't somebody else will:

    Threesome!

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    Nov 03, 2010 4:14 AM GMT
    I would say if you value her friendship and her feelings, do not get involved with him sexually. If u do it while they're dating, and she finds out, she's gonna be hurt. If they break up and u do it, she may resent you, or she may not. Just avoid the drama, lots of other fish.
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    Nov 03, 2010 4:20 AM GMT
    How she feels about him is her fault.

    If you so wish to say something that does not really concern you then say "hey, he was prolly bi anyway..."

    What you don't do is turn it into something with improper grammar.
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    Nov 03, 2010 4:28 AM GMT
    If you are going to hit it and quit it: walk away.
    Two years from now whose name will you remember?
    If you are picking out china patterns: tell her how you feel about him.
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    Nov 03, 2010 4:58 AM GMT
    What LJay said.
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    Nov 03, 2010 6:46 AM GMT
    I'm confused.
    Did they break up and get back together? Or is this some other guy?
  • Jacob_dane

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    Nov 03, 2010 8:49 AM GMT
    umm.. friends dont date their best friend's exes... it just leads to a lot of problems...
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    Nov 03, 2010 11:59 AM GMT
    I smell a threesome.

    Live life and get it over with; just don't get your girlfriend pregnant.

  • neosyllogy

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    Nov 03, 2010 12:28 PM GMT
    So, the straight/bistuff is irrelevant.
    It's just a question of whether you date/sleep with a friend's ex.
    That's between you and your friend (and depends in part on the nature of the past relationship).
    No general answer. If your friend is cool with it, then go for it. If not, then don't unless there's something really special between you and the guy.
    Simple.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Nov 03, 2010 12:38 PM GMT
    ok, i am confused are they still together or have they broke up? if they have broke up why would you tell her. there is no reason to tell her especially if she is already devastated. if you tell her now then clearly you are not a good friend
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    Nov 03, 2010 1:26 PM GMT
    bober14 saidI would say if you value her friendship and her feelings, do not get involved with him sexually. If u do it while they're dating, and she finds out, she's gonna be hurt. If they break up and u do it, she may resent you, or she may not. Just avoid the drama, lots of other fish.


    â–²This. Just because you can, doesn't mean you have to.
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    Nov 07, 2010 9:56 PM GMT
    Thanks guys. Over the summer they broke up for some reason that I don't know about and then they got back together and are still going out. Yeah I talked to him about it and he has backed off. I am not going to have a threesome with them... That is just awkward... Threesome with your good friend and her boyfriend?
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    Nov 08, 2010 1:09 AM GMT
    LJay saidLook straight into the mirror and say out loud: I am not in high school any more.

    To your female friend, you say nothing.

    To the enterprising bi guy, you say: Maybe another time, but while you are dating my female friend I do not think that it would be fair to her to play around.

    That is it. No more. ESPECIALLY drop the melodrama.


    I couldn't have said it any better myself.

    Underscore.