SAHEM62896 saidNo, you're not weird, but you really need to get over this "I'm ugly and repulsive" bullshit. You're not... and to insist that you are is just as just arrogant as saying that you're the best looking son-of-a-bitch in Los Angeles.
Try saying thanks instead, even if you don't really feel it in your heart. It's really not too difficult, not to mention courteous, to accept the fact that someone is saying something nice about you and allow them the dignity of their opinion.
And trust me... I know from whence I speak. It's EXACTLY what I had to do at your age... and you know what? It actually got me to start changing my opinion of myself after a while. I hope it does the same for you.
Yeah I dont know why but I hate getting compliments cause it makes me feel bad inside, i dont know people might find that weird. I just hate hate getting compliments since now I feel like I have to give someone a compliment or it would be just rude. So thats why sometimes I feel bad when people give me a compliment on something.
meninlove said Hey Gbob, "This is incredibly cheesy but: for someone to love you you must first learn to love yourself. (omg I just cringed too!) "
There are many many instances where this doesn't hold any water. There are many times when a person that doesn't love him or herself is loved by another.
There are also many instances of those who don't love themselves loving another.
Now the OP says, " I told them I find it disgusting and gross when someone call me that since I find myself to be ugly and atrocious. Then they were like wtf, and were thinking why do I think like that and were like how would I get a boyfriend if I cant accept a compliment. I told them I hate being in a relationship and dealing with other people drama and baggage. I like being left alone and being alone since I find it relaxing. Im very independent and dont like being held down, I hate knowing someone knows stuff about me."
I think he should ask himself why he thinks this way.
Some of it is contradictory. An example is this:
"I like being left alone and being alone since I find it relaxing. Im very independent"
...and yet here he is on RJ socializing.
" I hate knowing someone knows stuff about me."
..and yet here he is with a very personal topic about.......himself, along with his pics. His profile says to just ask if you want to know anything about him.
Personally I think most of his self description is emotionally defensive positioning. It's not weird. It makes me wonder if he got hurt very badly at one time.
Haha i dont hate socializing, im very social person but I like being left alone since I hate dealing with others people drama. What i meant by other people knowing something about me is that I dont like other people to know like secrets or stuff in my life, they can know the general information
sydney_cider saidAre you like me in that you rarely initiate social contact preferring to wait to be invited upon which you can choose if you interact?
No I always am the one initiating social contact, and most of the time invited. However, I find it sometimes better to be alone, maybe cause I have to many drama queens as friends.