Am I weird?

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    Nov 03, 2010 6:38 AM GMT
    Ok well I just had this discussion with a couple of people I know from realjock. Well I was talking to them about relationship and other stuff. I told them that I hate it when people say "im cute" or something around that lines. I told them I find it disgusting and gross when someone call me that since I find myself to be ugly and atrocious. Then they were like wtf, and were thinking why do I think like that and were like how would I get a boyfriend if I cant accept a compliment. I told them I hate being in a relationship and dealing with other people drama and baggage. I like being left alone and being alone since I find it relaxing. Im very independent and dont like being held down, I hate knowing someone knows stuff about me. Am I just weird or are there many other people like that? Should be more open to having a boyfriend and letting someone in my life? Or should I wait for prince charming to come?
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    Nov 03, 2010 6:50 AM GMT
    "I told them I hate being in a relationship and dealing with other people drama and baggage. I like being left alone and being alone since I find it relaxing. Im very independent and dont like being held down, I hate knowing someone knows stuff about me."

    Well, with all those walls up, Prince Charming is going to have to be very loud. icon_wink.gif
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    Nov 03, 2010 7:18 AM GMT
    You are fucking weird.

    Freak.
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    Nov 03, 2010 7:23 AM GMT
    So predat0r, you hate this guy you don't even know?

    -Doug
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    Nov 03, 2010 10:44 AM GMT
    when the right person comes, all that will disappear ;)
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    Nov 03, 2010 10:46 AM GMT
    Are you like me in that you rarely initiate social contact preferring to wait to be invited upon which you can choose if you interact?
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    Nov 03, 2010 10:49 AM GMT
    What's your name again? Rapunzel?

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    Nov 03, 2010 10:52 AM GMT
    blinqdd saidwhen the right person comes, all that will disappear ;)


    No it doesn't. You just end up becoming more involved with the other persons life and crowding them leaving them wondering why you don't have friends of your own.
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    Nov 03, 2010 10:54 AM GMT
    I do not agree,
    I think when the right person comes along, and you are in love with him, you will like his compliments, and you like it that he knows how you are.
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    Nov 03, 2010 11:07 AM GMT
    GQjock saidWhat's your name again? Rapunzel?

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    Lolz.....

    Honey, the monastery just called.....either that or pharmaceuticals.......
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    Nov 03, 2010 11:09 AM GMT
    Trust me, I was like you and no prince charming usually waits long enough to break the walls. Let alone breaking the wall, he might not even say the first hi and you loose a wonderful guy. So be a little bit more open when somebody tries to get close.
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    Nov 03, 2010 11:22 AM GMT
    No because then you are forcing yourself to be more open.
    Just be yourself, although being a little more insecure and gaining a little confident wouldn't hurt icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 03, 2010 1:49 PM GMT
    A_1991 saidOk well I just had this discussion with a couple of people I know from realjock. Well I was talking to them about relationship and other stuff. I told them that I hate it when people say "im cute" or something around that lines. I told them I find it disgusting and gross when someone call me that since I find myself to be ugly and atrocious. Then they were like wtf, and were thinking why do I think like that and were like how would I get a boyfriend if I cant accept a compliment. I told them I hate being in a relationship and dealing with other people drama and baggage. I like being left alone and being alone since I find it relaxing. Im very independent and dont like being held down, I hate knowing someone knows stuff about me. Am I just weird or are there many other people like that? Should be more open to having a boyfriend and letting someone in my life? Or should I wait for prince charming to come?


    I can relate although I'm not exactly the same. It makes me uncomfortable if anyone complimented me; I take it gracefully but deep down I don't believe them. I don't think I look great but I can't be bothered to change how I look just for the sake of looking good.

    Try not to find it 'disgusting' or 'gross', well at least do not show that to them - it would be very rude. I'm independent too, but there's a line between being independent and being a recluse. If you just 'wait' for prince charming to come to you, he may never will...
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    Nov 03, 2010 1:53 PM GMT
    he will come when you are ready,
    if you go looking you won't find him, it will come when it is time.
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    Nov 03, 2010 1:57 PM GMT
    blinqdd saidhe will come when you are ready,
    if you go looking you won't find him, it will come when it is time.


    I don't really believe that though. So are you saying that he should not go looking at all and that Prince Charming will suddenly pop out of nowhere when 'it is time' especially seeing that he doesn't seem very open?
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    Nov 03, 2010 1:59 PM GMT
    no, he should just do what he normally does, or go to places where he normally goes.
    I believe, when you are in peace with yourself, and feel good about yourself, people will see it and come sooner to you, as when you do not want compliments, people shall see that, and will not give you compliments
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    Nov 03, 2010 2:06 PM GMT
    blinqdd saidno, he should just do what he normally does, or go to places where he normally goes.
    I believe, when you are in peace with yourself, and feel good about yourself, people will see it and come sooner to you, as when you do not want compliments, people shall see that, and will not give you compliments


    I agree with being at peace with oneself: that's definitely true.

    However judging by how his statements such as 'I hate it when people say I'm 'cute'', 'I find it disgusting and gross', 'I can't accept a compliment', 'I like being left alone' and 'should I be more open?' it seems that the OP is far from that stage of being at peace with himself.

    Perhaps that is the first step to conquer? This is incredibly cheesy but: for someone to love you you must first learn to love yourself. (omg I just cringed too!)
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    Nov 03, 2010 2:09 PM GMT
    Yes I agree with you, first you have to be in peace with yourself,
    If you manage to find a boyfriend, and you still feel bad about yourself, the boy will eventually do not like it as well.
    so first love yourself, before someone else can love you.
    I have bin there as well.
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    Nov 03, 2010 2:16 PM GMT
    Hey Gbob, "This is incredibly cheesy but: for someone to love you you must first learn to love yourself. (omg I just cringed too!) "

    There are many many instances where this doesn't hold any water. There are many times when a person that doesn't love him or herself is loved by another.

    There are also many instances of those who don't love themselves loving another.


    Now the OP says, " I told them I find it disgusting and gross when someone call me that since I find myself to be ugly and atrocious. Then they were like wtf, and were thinking why do I think like that and were like how would I get a boyfriend if I cant accept a compliment. I told them I hate being in a relationship and dealing with other people drama and baggage. I like being left alone and being alone since I find it relaxing. Im very independent and dont like being held down, I hate knowing someone knows stuff about me."

    I think he should ask himself why he thinks this way.
    Some of it is contradictory. An example is this:

    "I like being left alone and being alone since I find it relaxing. Im very independent"

    ...and yet here he is on RJ socializing.

    " I hate knowing someone knows stuff about me."

    ..and yet here he is with a very personal topic about.......himself, along with his pics. His profile says to just ask if you want to know anything about him.

    Personally I think most of his self description is emotionally defensive positioning. It's not weird. It makes me wonder if he got hurt very badly at one time.

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    Nov 03, 2010 2:19 PM GMT
    No, you're not weird, but you really need to get over this "I'm ugly and repulsive" bullshit. You're not... and to insist that you are is just as just arrogant as saying that you're the best looking son-of-a-bitch in Los Angeles.

    Try saying thanks instead, even if you don't really feel it in your heart. It's really not too difficult, not to mention courteous, to accept the fact that someone is saying something nice about you and allow them the dignity of their opinion.

    And trust me... I know from whence I speak. It's EXACTLY what I had to do at your age... and you know what? It actually got me to start changing my opinion of myself after a while. I hope it does the same for you.

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    Nov 03, 2010 5:08 PM GMT
    SAHEM62896 saidNo, you're not weird, but you really need to get over this "I'm ugly and repulsive" bullshit. You're not... and to insist that you are is just as just arrogant as saying that you're the best looking son-of-a-bitch in Los Angeles.

    Try saying thanks instead, even if you don't really feel it in your heart. It's really not too difficult, not to mention courteous, to accept the fact that someone is saying something nice about you and allow them the dignity of their opinion.

    And trust me... I know from whence I speak. It's EXACTLY what I had to do at your age... and you know what? It actually got me to start changing my opinion of myself after a while. I hope it does the same for you.



    Yeah I dont know why but I hate getting compliments cause it makes me feel bad inside, i dont know people might find that weird. I just hate hate getting compliments since now I feel like I have to give someone a compliment or it would be just rude. So thats why sometimes I feel bad when people give me a compliment on something.

    meninlove said Hey Gbob, "This is incredibly cheesy but: for someone to love you you must first learn to love yourself. (omg I just cringed too!) "

    There are many many instances where this doesn't hold any water. There are many times when a person that doesn't love him or herself is loved by another.

    There are also many instances of those who don't love themselves loving another.


    Now the OP says, " I told them I find it disgusting and gross when someone call me that since I find myself to be ugly and atrocious. Then they were like wtf, and were thinking why do I think like that and were like how would I get a boyfriend if I cant accept a compliment. I told them I hate being in a relationship and dealing with other people drama and baggage. I like being left alone and being alone since I find it relaxing. Im very independent and dont like being held down, I hate knowing someone knows stuff about me."

    I think he should ask himself why he thinks this way.
    Some of it is contradictory. An example is this:

    "I like being left alone and being alone since I find it relaxing. Im very independent"

    ...and yet here he is on RJ socializing.

    " I hate knowing someone knows stuff about me."

    ..and yet here he is with a very personal topic about.......himself, along with his pics. His profile says to just ask if you want to know anything about him.

    Personally I think most of his self description is emotionally defensive positioning. It's not weird. It makes me wonder if he got hurt very badly at one time.

    -Doug



    Haha i dont hate socializing, im very social person but I like being left alone since I hate dealing with others people drama. What i meant by other people knowing something about me is that I dont like other people to know like secrets or stuff in my life, they can know the general information icon_razz.gif.

    sydney_cider saidAre you like me in that you rarely initiate social contact preferring to wait to be invited upon which you can choose if you interact?


    No I always am the one initiating social contact, and most of the time invited. However, I find it sometimes better to be alone, maybe cause I have to many drama queens as friends.
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    Nov 03, 2010 5:09 PM GMT
    GQjock saidWhat's your name again? Rapunzel?

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    icon_eek.gif hahahaha I thought about that about myself once im not going to lie icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 03, 2010 5:10 PM GMT
    blinqdd saidYes I agree with you, first you have to be in peace with yourself,
    If you manage to find a boyfriend, and you still feel bad about yourself, the boy will eventually do not like it as well.
    so first love yourself, before someone else can love you.
    I have bin there as well.


    Haha derek oh I love myself icon_razz.gif Im just "different on the ways I view things"
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    Nov 03, 2010 5:53 PM GMT
    From reading the OP first post in this thread, my initial impression is wow, this guy sure seems closed off from others. I'm wondering if something happened in the past to cause this? I'd encourage anyone to keep their heart open. Sure, you stand the risk of being hurt, but you also allow so many more wonderful things a chance to come into your life.
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    Nov 04, 2010 3:25 PM GMT
    My first reaction was that you need to get over yourself. It's seems you can't accept/allow other peoples' opinions of yourself to be other than what you want it to be, which is the reason why you oppose it so adversely and you can't always be right. Even if you don't like what they say, at least deflect the attention ('Oh really? It never occured to me' or something along that line).

    Dealing with people's drama and baggage is part of living. I think keeping things pent up is fine as long as you can deal with it but expecting people around you to do the same so you aren't affected seems selfish. A lot of people need someone to talk to, it's part of how you build a strong relationship with people around you.

    I guess you don't want to be in a committed relationship or any at all and your mind is set on that so I don't understand why you care if you're weird or not or asking if you should open up and let someone into your life. If you like the way that you are then why change?