Motivation.

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    Mar 11, 2008 8:16 AM GMT
    What is it that keeps you motivated to continue the healthy fitness lifestyle? How do you keep yourself from slipping into the stagnation of lethargy?

    I started this year out good. I had made a vow to get my ass outa the chair and into the gym, or at least into exercising. At first I was doing ok, was doing smoe light cardio and found ways to get lifting done w/out actual equipment. I even lost some weight! I was so happy with myself, until I fell back into my old lazy ass habits.

    I find it hard to force myself to get going when I want to exercise, and get discouraged when I don't think I am working to my potental. I KNOW that I WANT to get fit/healthy. I WANT the body that will get me the attentions of guys, I WANT the body that is only obtainable through hard work and sweat, but I just can't seem to shake off my old habits.

    Any suggestions for motivation? And before you say "get a personal trainer"...I would LOVE to be able to do that but currently my finances are nowhere NEAR enough to cover that and living expenses.
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    Mar 11, 2008 11:04 AM GMT
    I look at pictures of buff guys and get myself mad. icon_wink.gif

    I tell myself:
    "You're NEVER gonna look like that, if you don't get your LAZY ass of that bed and work out!"

    Or I daydream about guys who'd date me if I was buff.

    Or scare myself that I'll be alone forever if I don't work at it.

    Or promise myself sleep later on.

    Or listen to good music while working out to forget its tediousness and just zonk out.

    Or reimagine that pleasure-pain combination you feel in your muscles after working out.

    Or imagine myself slipping back to my previous state. icon_razz.gif

    Or I just WILL myself to DO IT.

    When the sweating starts I'm usually all ready for the rest.

    Fighting lethargy is just like taking the first step into a cold pool. Once you're all in, it fades away. icon_razz.gif
  • SoDakGuy

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    Mar 11, 2008 5:11 PM GMT
    I love the way I look and how I feel. I can run rings around most everyone I know. I love being active. Sitting still and being lazy drives me up the wall!!!

    and I love feeling younger than my real age. Hell, I'm A LOT more active than I was 5 years ago.

    Being active has done wonders to my skin too. Hell, most people guess my age at least 5 years younger in ANY LIGHTING!

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    Mar 11, 2008 5:14 PM GMT
    Besides the stereo-typical reasons, for me it's the emotional/mental state of being; if I don't go after a week or 2 I am SUPER SUPER crabby & not pleasant to deal with at all!!
  • auryn

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    Mar 11, 2008 6:04 PM GMT
    I look at my belly and see that it's not as bloated as I was (and not because of lypodystrophy). One thing that helps is taking part in the 12 week programs. Three months can go by fast but if I have to take a week off here and there, I see how that time is just going to lag on and on. It doesn't sit right with me, so I get off my butt and put away my excuses and get into the gym.

    Of course, there is my primary reason; I have to stay healthy and build muscle to help my body suppress it's squatter, but vanity helps too. How am I ever going to get on anyone's hot list if I can't get my body on par with some of the guys on here? Sure, I get hit on and my boyfriend loves me, even with my body the way it is, but it would still feel good to be on a hot list and be noticed for more than my personality.

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    Mar 11, 2008 6:16 PM GMT
    Well, you just feel like shit if you don't keep up with the workouts icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 11, 2008 7:15 PM GMT
    I guess everybody has different motivations. In my 20's it was because I was competing in amateur shows and I wanted to look good at circuit parties (shallow, yes, but true). In my early 30's I wanted to look good for my partner at the time. After we broke up and I am now 38, I really do it for myself. Of course looking good is still a motivation, but its not my primary one, and the body dysmorphia I had in my 20's isn't present. My golden retriever doesn't care what I look like (I dont think), as long as I keep her fed, watered, and plenty of long walks...:-)
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    Mar 11, 2008 7:32 PM GMT
    my motivations are pretty much across the spectrum

    primarily, the fitness level and feeling good when you engage in a regular workout schedule is one. i'm also motivated by the fact that it helps me in playing competitive level volleyball, i'm swinging harder and hitting faster now than i've ever been before i worked out regularly. my endurance level is much higher too.
    and as a student nurse, the overall body strength is a HUGE help, especially when i'm moving/lifting/adjusting heavy patients. and i spend a lot of time walking and standing too.

    and i'll be honest, i like the attention that i can get when i feel and look good icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 11, 2008 7:52 PM GMT
    I want to be as healthy as possible and stay that way. As a gay man who has been in long term relationships that ultimately didn't work out, I want to remain healthy and independent because I can't count on there always being someone that I can rely on.

    Unfortunately I live in a city where it's easy to lead a sedentary lifestyle, and I work in an office environment where the people get bigger and slower every day--and sadly it's become the accepted societal norm. I don't like it, but it's extremely difficult to get people out of ruts that they've become comfortable with over the years. People don't like change, and it's natural to want to do what is easy. Not to mention many people lack the patience to wait for results, so they tend to give up if there's no immediate gratification.

    I guess everyone's motivation is different, and I am far from perfect. I fall off the wagon from time to time, but I've always gotten back on and kept going. It was hard to get back into the gym after my knee injuries, and also discouraging when I went back after having been gone for nearly a month after my trip to China last year. However, I stuck with it, and I feel like I'm in the best shape of my life.

    I think the most challenging part is getting myself out of the house. Once I get into the gym, I'm usually fine. Sometimes I have no desire to go after a long day at work, but I still force myself to go even if I have to dial down the weights, or lower the levels on the cardio machines. That way, I don't have the sense of guilt for missing a workout, which can lead to stopping altogether.

    It's probably easier to stay motivated now that I'm in maintenance mode. If you're just getting started, then you have to focus on setting realistic, achievable goals and work on them one at a time. Good luck!
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    Mar 11, 2008 8:00 PM GMT
    nwphx1972 saidI want to be as healthy as possible and stay that way. As a gay man who has been in long term relationships that ultimately didn't work out, I want to remain healthy and independent because I can't count on there always being someone that I can rely on.


    I couldn't have said it better myself.

    a1972guy saidBesides the stereo-typical reasons, for me it's the emotional/mental state of being; if I don't go after a week or 2 I am SUPER SUPER crabby & not pleasant to deal with at all!!


    This too...

    Plus I just want to prove to myself that I can have washboard abs...I know I can do it, and I will! icon_smile.gif

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    Mar 11, 2008 9:17 PM GMT
    Freakyninjamonkey said
    I find it hard to force myself to get going when I want to exercise, and get discouraged when I don't think I am working to my potental. I KNOW that I WANT to get fit/healthy. I WANT the body that will get me the attentions of guys, I WANT the body that is only obtainable through hard work and sweat, but I just can't seem to shake off my old habits.

    Any suggestions for motivation? And before you say "get a personal trainer"...I would LOVE to be able to do that but currently my finances are nowhere NEAR enough to cover that and living expenses.


    Yep and I shall tell you again what I told ya months ago and maybe you wil listen this time icon_wink.gificon_cool.gif

    Its all about the age old accounting principle of ROCE return on capital employed.

    As yourself this when you did get the results what was the sacrifice you had to make, the effort you had to put in? and the amount of time invested?

    Then ask yourself when you fell down: why was it you fell down? Was it because results were slow? You were putting alot of time in and the level of loss didnt seem comensurate?

    Motivation comes from those achievements. Understanding what it specificaly was that enabled you to make those achievements empowers you. Once you know well this weekend I went off the rails one day, but if I do X Y and Z I will be back on track. then you will be on the route to long term success
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    Mar 11, 2008 10:13 PM GMT
    This Is what keeps me motivated

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    Mar 11, 2008 10:19 PM GMT
    I'm not motivated, but I do it. I'd rather not waste time having to:

    eat
    sleep
    shit
    pee
    wash
    clothe myself and all that go with that
    take my medicine
    work
    pay taxes
    exercise

    If I fail to do any of those, I'm in big trouble. Drop your need for motivation and develop a habit, it's the closest thing you'll find to compulsion.
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    Mar 11, 2008 10:36 PM GMT
    Never get fat, it's the kiss of death for your sex life.
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    Mar 11, 2008 10:51 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidNever get fat, it's the kiss of death for your sex life.

    Not always. As mentioned in the "being overweight" thread there are people who like bigger guys, and my ex was overweight but that wasn't the reason we broke up.
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    Mar 11, 2008 10:56 PM GMT
    redheadguy saidNever get fat, it's the kiss of death for your sex life.

    nwphx1972 saidNot always. As mentioned in the "being overweight" thread there are people who like bigger guys, and my ex was overweight but that wasn't the reason we broke up.


    I actually had a bf that was a borderline feeder. He was turned on that I was gaining weight while we were together. I swear he was spiking all my food with crisco and sugar.icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 11, 2008 11:12 PM GMT
    GQjock saidThis Is what keeps me motivated

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    Mar 12, 2008 12:18 AM GMT
    It's not always about motivation. If you need to be inspired on a daily basis to work out, then it's not going to happen, because true inspiration doesn't come that easy.

    You've got to make it a habit.

    If you ask yourself, "Should I work out today?" then you're already halfway defeated.

    Frankly, if you ask yourself, "What time should I work out today?" then you're courting defeat.

    Every week you should know exactly what days you'll be working out, what you'll be doing each day, and what time you'll be doing it. That way you have to make a conscious decision not to work out instead of the other way around.

    And get yourself a work out partner who is willing to make the same type of week-in-advance commitment so that if you don't work out it means you have to call someone who's counting on you and say out loud, "I'm not working out today."
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    Mar 12, 2008 12:57 AM GMT
    One of my reasons for being movtivated was by a man who was paralyzed from the waist down. I was on an AF base and saw him in the gym during our PT session. He had been in a car accident 5 years ago and lost the use of his legs. For a few years he had let himself go and felt that he didn't need or rather couldn't do more. He went to physical therapy for about 3 years to rehiblitate his legs even after the doctors told him that there was a huge chance he'd never walk again. He proved them wrong.

    He gave a speech about never giving up and it was very inspirational. I was certainly inspired to want to do better for myself. Once I learned about what he had gone through I realized that in my current condition I could achieve alot.
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    Mar 12, 2008 1:12 AM GMT
    I think a big key is getting back on the horse even after you've fallen back into your "lazy ways." This whole thing is a process, especially if you have major resistance or strong negative voices in your head, it rarely works out that we declare we're *always* going to stick with our plan from here on out and then actually do it. You need to realize that it's okay to collapse as long as you jump back up. The more that you get back on the horse, the less you actually find yourself collapsing because you're sending a signal to yourself that you don't buy into your own resistance anymore. Resistance can come a-knocking but you're not going open your door.
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    Mar 12, 2008 11:10 AM GMT
    Squarejaw saidIt's not always about motivation. If you need to be inspired on a daily basis to work out, then it's not going to happen, because true inspiration doesn't come that easy.

    You've got to make it a habit.

    If you ask yourself, "Should I work out today?" then you're already halfway defeated.

    Frankly, if you ask yourself, "What time should I work out today?" then you're courting defeat.

    Every week you should know exactly what days you'll be working out, what you'll be doing each day, and what time you'll be doing it. That way you have to make a conscious decision not to work out instead of the other way around.

    And get yourself a work out partner who is willing to make the same type of week-in-advance commitment so that if you don't work out it means you have to call someone who's counting on you and say out loud, "I'm not working out today."


    I agree. It must become a habit. A workout partner is a great idea - they also make it fun and push you. Try to find someone who is a similar build or heading in the direction you want to go.