Nov 04, 2010 6:35 AM GMT
Why is it so hard for men to simply say "I'm not into you" rather than claiming they want to hang out and be friends, but are always busy or cancel last minute?
DoomsDayAlpaca saidWhy is it so hard for men to simply say "I'm not into you" rather than claiming they want to hang out and be friends, but are always busy or cancel last minute?
AvadaKedavra saidProbably because they don't want to hurt your feelings.
DoomsDayAlpaca saidWhy is it so hard for men to simply say "I'm not into you" rather than claiming they want to hang out and be friends, but are always busy or cancel last minute?
meninlove saidDoomsDayAlpaca saidWhy is it so hard for men to simply say "I'm not into you" rather than claiming they want to hang out and be friends, but are always busy or cancel last minute?
That phrase means the guy doesn't like your personality, either. I can't see anyone NOT being hurt by that.
-Doug
meninlove said
That phrase means the guy doesn't like your personality, either. I can't see anyone NOT being hurt by that.
-Doug
sibim4fun saidmeninlove said
That phrase means the guy doesn't like your personality, either. I can't see anyone NOT being hurt by that.
-Doug
Not in gay terms.... everyone asks "what are you into?" and it means sexually.... I have several ppl that I wasn't "into" but like them personally and are friends.
meninlove saidsibim4fun saidmeninlove said
That phrase means the guy doesn't like your personality, either. I can't see anyone NOT being hurt by that.
-Doug
Not in gay terms.... everyone asks "what are you into?" and it means sexually.... I have several ppl that I wasn't "into" but like them personally and are friends.
That's in your particular social environment, what are you into refers to an activity or an object, not a person.
More like "who are you into".
RowBuddy saidYup. Even when you think a guy is "into you" they are just not that into you. I get mixed signals all the time from guys. ALL THE TIME. I am sure the gay gene is on the same allele as the flake gene.
There should be rules about these kinda of things. If you meet a guy and at ANY point do not "feel it" with him. STOP. DO NOT LEAD HIM ON!
us old and ugly people have better things to do then go through life thinking someone is into us. Better to be let down, again, and start from scratch then waste our time continually on someone who is sending mixed signals.
1. If you are not into a guy, don't kiss him. Ever.
2. Don't sleep over, cuddle, put your head on the other guy's shoulder, give him a back rub. NO TOUCHING.
3. Don't offer to buy dinner
4. Don't tell him he looks hot, cute, sexy.
5. Don't ask for his number. Don't text him sweet nothings, Don't Sext him. Don't text him in the middle of the day to see how his day is going. Don't tezt him Friday night when you are bored seeing if he is around and wants to hang out. Don't Text PERIOD.
6. Don't use the D word (date)
7. Don't hang out with him and then tell him "i had a great time, lets do it again!)
8. Don't send him dirty or shirtless pictures on the internet, Grindr or AIM.
9. DON"T give him FALSE HOPE (this is the most important thing). Telling him you want to hang out, or do something, or meet, or making ANY plans, and then continually flaking out, letting things hang in the air, or make halfassed commitments. This just makes the seeker want to reschedule because they actually WANT to be with you and are willing to wait, and wait. and wait. and wait.
If you do ANY combination of the above you are basically telling a guy "I am into you". If you are NOT into him, GIVE HIM A BREAK and just let him move on.
Lets face it, when you are in "love", "lust", "adoration" or whatever level of hell you are in, the Object of Dis-Affection loses the ability to be rational and will believe anything the Object of Affection says. We will look for any sign of interest and hold onto it with a death grip. By the time we wake up and figure out we are wasting our time another year has gone by and we are STILL single.
*disclaimer: Yup. I am having one of THOSE weeks.
DoomsDayAlpaca saidWhy is it so hard for men to simply say "I'm not into you" rather than claiming they want to hang out and be friends, but are always busy or cancel last minute?