Should I make a move on a best friend...?

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    Nov 04, 2010 4:44 PM GMT
    Aite guys. Brand new to this site. Seems like people check it regularly and figured here is where I can find the most help.

    Anyway. A little about me first. I'm 21 closted bi/mostly gay guy. Have had the hotts for a friend for a quite a while but now its burning me. And all the signs point to he is gay or at least bi too.. Heres the scoop, quite interesting story too.

    Aite so this guy has been a good/best friend of mine for the past 5 years hang out at least once a week, drink, smoke, workout, videogames what ev.

    We worked at a pizza shop together for 2 years. He was kinda flirty i guess with me. Two of the waitresses advised me to stay away from him because they didnt like the way he looked at me. I caught him from time to time just giving me the day dreaming eyes, like hes jsut happy to be looking at me. After work some nights we would party at a mutual friends apparment. He frequently broke into the bathroom while I was peeing asking what i was doing tryn to get a glimpse of my dick.

    At a party over the summer i was hooking up with a girl in my car, to have him basically cock block me. i mean we are boys. you dont cock block. he was jumpin on my car showing me his ass his dick shaking my car until the girl i was with was like this aint gunna happen and we just got out and went back in the party with him. that night he made it a point to sleep at my house. jsut him

    one night he slept here with two other friends. me and him on the floor other two on the couch. we rolled and bumped into eachother all night. i kept my hand near his ass. finnally i went to sleep cause i thought he was, and he rolls on top of me to spoon. leg over my leg his shit all up on my ass.

    This past summer his sexuality became a big question. During spring break a gorup of us went out to a club. had lots to drink, left to smoke. he brought with him a friend i never met before. while we were smoking everyone exited to the car but me him and another friend of mine. He told me "steve i have a big secret to tell you but no one esle can be around" i guess he didnt realize that some one was in the front seat... they blurted out that they wanted to know. the secret was.... it still remains untold.

    weeks later i found out the friend that i never met was infact a gay guy. they were spending lots of time together. he has even slept at his house more then 10 times. i went clubbing with these two and another friend. smoked a blunt with the friend i am crushing. during this he told me he loves me and he trusts me and he wants me to ask him anything.. i was nervous. was i goign to ask him what his big secret is, he say hes bi/gay and me say mee too and just go at it infront of my friends house??? i talked bout girls instead. told him of my conquests. he started the conversation "if your really straight you should go for her" very weird to me.

    Quick facts of this gay guy he was chillin with. He name is mel. hes gay he is a rich partner of some other gay drug dealer whos in jail. this guy mel is also dating my brothers best friend who just came out of the closet. I partied with my crush mel and two other friends who are straight. We drank drank and drank some more. then decided the hot tub was a good idea. I declined mad nervous but was forced to. went to get changed upstairs in the room. there was no door on the bathroom no where to change privately in the room. My crush told me to change infront of them and no one will look at me. strike one... i changed in the walk in closet mad fast. after done i was waiting on the bed for everyone else when the guy i like came running out of the cornere in hott pink underwear. modeling them, posing asking if they were hot... dude has a mad hott body. aint gunna front. strike 2...we made our way to the hott tub 5 dudes. we drank more just chilld. my crush went to lean out of the tub, pants came down ass out, to change the music, let his ass hang for a long min pulled them up and fell back into my lap. grinded his shit on my like 5 times and then went to his corner. i didnt know wtf to do. i was hooked since then

    I told everyone these stories, saying how hes gay but not how i am crushing him. theyre blown away can kinda see it. i guess hes made efforts to tell me. i was home alone one ngiht called him to smoke like three in the morn came over, no shirt rolled up and he jsut talked about a friend i made that just came out to us as a bi sexual. i avoided any serious talk. he left and made sure to call me sexy. He aslo calls me love bug, sugar butt, and just mad shit.

    speed up to now i had a halloween party this past weekend. askd me who i was going to sleep wiht. i told him my friend lau if anyone. he wanted to sleep here he said, fine w me you kno dotn drink and drive. so he gets trashed here and kept hugging me and rubbing his dick on my leg. i dont remember going to bed but i do remember him shaking me up asking if he could sleep in bed w. me dont remember what i said but he as well as lauren woke up with me. lauren got out of the bed early in the morn and moved to the floor. ithink he attemped to play w/ me moving his hand closer and closer. us exchanign elbows. until we herd some one walk up the stairs wake up call...

    there is so much more i can add.. wtf am i supposed to do.
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    Nov 04, 2010 6:47 PM GMT
    With all those experiences I would prob say the best thing you can do is accept a move on you, the worst that can happen is a bit of awkwardness.
    He seems to completely want you, and either he is a hella comfortable with his sexuality or he is gay.

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    Nov 04, 2010 6:49 PM GMT
    As Nike would say: Just do him.
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    Nov 04, 2010 10:54 PM GMT
    I would have done him after the first three paragraphs
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    Nov 04, 2010 10:59 PM GMT
    I think you should or maybe you can do the same stuff to him when he trues that again icon_biggrin.gif
    i wish you all the best man.
  • swimmerdude52...

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    Nov 04, 2010 11:10 PM GMT
    amar_m saidI would have done him after the first three paragraphs


    I was thinking the exact same thing. I would say have the conversation with the guy- pretty obv that you know what the answer is gonna be.
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    Nov 04, 2010 11:22 PM GMT
    Yea dude, totally. Do him!
  • OklahomaBreak...

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    Nov 05, 2010 6:25 AM GMT
    swimmerdude521 said
    amar_m saidI would have done him after the first three paragraphs


    I was thinking the exact same thing. I would say have the conversation with the guy- pretty obv that you know what the answer is gonna be.


    concur
  • geebus

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    Nov 05, 2010 11:10 AM GMT
    Dude, if someone was this forward to me, even my shitty v1.0 gaydar would've fired!

    Go for it man, and report back! icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 05, 2010 1:25 PM GMT

    more to the story

    he "knows" im gay supposedly. the gay he was hangin out with told him that i hooked up with his x boy friend when i was 16. kinda true it was my first gay experience. he never said anything to me about it tho. i only herd this through one of our mutual best friends who was all fucked up one night. he told me that my crush thinks im gay and im coming out soon. but then he finished to say that my crush is not sure. when he sees a hot girl he doesnt feel any thing. when he sees a hott guy he thinks dirty things.... how am i supposed to make this move?
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    Nov 05, 2010 3:09 PM GMT
    Next time he's over at your place, tell him you're going to take a shower. Then lead him by the hand.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Nov 05, 2010 3:11 PM GMT
    We want pictures icon_lol.gif
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    Nov 05, 2010 3:15 PM GMT
    Actually, yea, pictures.

    Or it didn't happen icon_razz.gif

    Make it a graphic novel, the crowd on here responds way better to that.
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    Nov 05, 2010 4:20 PM GMT
    hahahah ill find a pic from the halloween party
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    Nov 05, 2010 4:27 PM GMT
    ite recent pic is in my profile. is in the gold shadowing me like he was all night. and he winded up in my bed. wish i could of remembered how...
  • ricric

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    Nov 07, 2010 8:18 PM GMT
    The same situation just happened to me, but yours sounds very promising. If you guys have been close for 5+ years, then maybe you can talk to him openly about it? My friend, who I liked for a long time, came out to me, told me that he didn't like me, then hooked up with me in "a drunken blur."

    Just look out for yourself - don't let him push your emotions around...