Single isn't fun anymore...

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    Nov 05, 2010 4:44 AM GMT
    So i just came home from work and realized how lonely I am. How I would give anything to cuddle up to some when all this cold rain is out side. I used like being single and meeting new people but its getting old. I want some one to come home to so here is my letter for that person:


    Dear The One,

    I want to apologize that I haven’t found you yet. I promise I am searching as far as I can. I see you every night in my dreams. I feel your breath on my neck in the middle of the night just to turn over and realize no one was there. I feel your heart beat every second of the day. I know your real and I know you feel me too. I know when I call out you hear me. I have met some interesting people in my life and they’re northern stars leading me straight to you. All I have is hope that you exist and that you find this letter. I wonder what you are doing, are you safe? , Are you trying to find me too? One day we will find each other and when that day comes, I will be ready. As you complete the final piece of me, my heart, but till that day I know I can always see you in my dreams.

    Love
    Significant other
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    Nov 05, 2010 4:49 AM GMT
    story of my life.
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    Nov 05, 2010 4:52 AM GMT
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    Nov 05, 2010 5:37 AM GMT
    Nice letter. It would make a nice little monologue in a play. I've felt that way before too and I'm sure many have.

    Good luck with your search.
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    Nov 05, 2010 5:45 AM GMT
    I think the next person you find friendly, attractive, and hopefully gay you should walk up to them and start a conversation icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 05, 2010 6:13 AM GMT
    You haven't searched deep/far enough, keep on searching!. I can really tell how you feel being Lonely and single. Don't worry! you WILL find him. icon_smile.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 05, 2010 6:18 AM GMT
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    Nov 05, 2010 6:46 AM GMT
    If you plan on doing any searching do it within. The guy comes on his own when the time is right.
  • DKnight

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    Nov 05, 2010 6:54 AM GMT
    Hey, Mr, lonely.

    Don't be sad! I am pretty sure there are many ppl like you, so am I. But what's the point of being upset right now? Come on, be happy though. Sometime your Mr, right would show up at the unexpected time! Chop-chop.


    The song is for you!
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k3sdvoX7pJY&ob=av2n
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    Nov 05, 2010 12:30 PM GMT
    You'll probably hate this response, and subsequently hate me but...

    Sitting at home and posting on an internet fitness forum isn't going to solve the problem. If you are tired of the results, you have to change the components that lead to it.
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    Nov 05, 2010 12:32 PM GMT
    Pinny saidYou'll probably hate this response, and subsequently hate me but...

    Sitting at home and posting on an internet fitness forum isn't going to solve the problem. If you are tired of the results, you have to change the components that lead to it.


    Exactly. We get back from the world what we put out into it.
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    Nov 05, 2010 12:37 PM GMT
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    LOL!!
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    Nov 05, 2010 12:44 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidIf you plan on doing any searching do it within. The guy comes on his own when the time is right.


    You always have good advice.
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    Nov 05, 2010 12:50 PM GMT
    You probably don't want to hear this, but I'm going to say it anyway. You have to learn to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. I'm sure that you have a great group of friends; call them up, talk to them, and go out and do something. I doubt that your life is boring so enjoy being single and young and cute.

    And by the way, there is nothing wrong with being single! I often wonder if those who demand that people find a relationship and get married miss their single days???
  • fitartistsf

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    Nov 05, 2010 12:50 PM GMT
    You're only 21..... try being 48 and alone.
    Never having a boyfriend, never having a partner, never having a relationship... I've tried for years, intensely, and not, to find "the one", but it just has never happened. I have resigned myself to the fact that I may never find him... it's not written in stone that we ALL will find our mate...

    Nice letter though, let's me know I'm not the only one with feelings of loneliness...
  • MuscPup

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    Nov 05, 2010 1:03 PM GMT
    Let me echo what FitArtist just said - dude, you're 21..... you're watching too much Sex and the City..... its OK to be alone. I hate to say this but I have friends that have a portion of your ideology and RUSH into relationships because they need to be with someone - not good. You're setting yourself up for disaster if you do that.

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    Nov 05, 2010 1:06 PM GMT
    MuscPup saidLet me echo what FitArtist just said - dude, you're 21..... you're watching too much Sex and the City..... its OK to be alone. I hate to say this but I have friends that have a portion of your ideology and RUSH into relationships because they need to be with someone - not good. You're setting yourself up for disaster if you do that.



    I rushed into a relationship thinking that I HAD to be with someone while being led by my feelings, emotions and love high feelings that I had, and although it ended on good terms, I am still feeling the emotional pain a year later.
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    Nov 05, 2010 1:41 PM GMT
    Takedown saidSo i just came home from work and realized how lonely I am. How I would give anything to cuddle up to some when all this cold rain is out side. I used like being single and meeting new people but its getting old. I want some one to come home to so here is my letter for that person:


    Dear The One,

    I want to apologize that I haven’t found you yet. I promise I am searching as far as I can. I see you every night in my dreams. I feel your breath on my neck in the middle of the night just to turn over and realize no one was there. I feel your heart beat every second of the day. I know your real and I know you feel me too. I know when I call out you hear me. I have met some interesting people in my life and they’re northern stars leading me straight to you. All I have is hope that you exist and that you find this letter. I wonder what you are doing, are you safe? , Are you trying to find me too? One day we will find each other and when that day comes, I will be ready. As you complete the final piece of me, my heart, but till that day I know I can always see you in my dreams.

    Love
    Significant other


    Your not alone. I've been yearning for a man's touch and let me tell you- I'm a busy man. I don't want a relationship- I just want to feel love. And I don't like to hook up; I want something long term with meaning- at least whoever that man may be- will feel good knowing that I waited for him.
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    Nov 05, 2010 1:47 PM GMT
    Same here man still single and a vergin so you see how am i feeling icon_cry.gif
  • cityguy39

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    Nov 05, 2010 1:54 PM GMT
    Very sweet letter, but try being a gay man over 40 and single. Then get back to me. I would love to see a letter from you then if you still happen to be single.
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    Nov 05, 2010 1:55 PM GMT
    welcome to the real world!
    The One does not exist, you just have to make the one you're with your "The One".
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    Nov 05, 2010 1:57 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidIf you plan on doing any searching do it within. The guy comes on his own when the time is right.


    couldn't agree more!
    one must be content and happy inside without the need and or want to be with someone to be completed. loving oneself is a must, and "the one" will fall in love with you the same way you love yourself in perfect timing, always.
    Basic Law of Attraction
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    Nov 05, 2010 2:09 PM GMT
    lol, hang in there Takedown, both Bill and myself have felt exactly how you feel.

    Whether or not you love yourself, loneliness is loneliness. Guys, he's venting and getting it off his chest, hardly a matter of coming here instead of doing something about things, with a whopping 152 posts. He's also out and about and meeting people, per his post, but he's finding it's beginning to wear a little thin.

    There are many The Ones, and they are not perfect by any means, but are a perfect fit. icon_wink.gif

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    Nov 05, 2010 2:24 PM GMT
    RRButch said
    Ciarsolo saidIf you plan on doing any searching do it within. The guy comes on his own when the time is right.


    couldn't agree more!
    one must be content and happy inside without the need and or want to be with someone to be completed. loving oneself is a must, and "the one" will fall in love with you the same way you love yourself in perfect timing, always.
    Basic Law of Attraction


    I think to differ. it's true one must love thyself- but everyone needs the human touch- without it, I think people will feel lonely. I know I love myself, and I have some great friends, but I don't want to cuddle with them. So what is a man suppose to do then? Before, I would rather hook up at the bath house- instant gratification- I later learned, it wasn't worth sharing my body to some stranger, when I can be sharing it with someone that deserves it. I guess what i'm trying to say is- good things will happen to good people. If you be good with yourself- you will be valuable. Think of it as an investment, in the market, you will be selling at a premium price- even during a recession. icon_rolleyes.gif Man, i'm good. icon_cool.gif
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    Nov 05, 2010 2:31 PM GMT
    This brave, valuable, handsome, articulate and passionate man comes home early in the a.m., as he states, to realize he's lonely and would like to be valued, loved, admired and held, and to value, love, admire and hold in turn. Look at the time/date stamp. Pay attention. Read the profile. He's no more guilty of being here posting his desire than you are of lurking here to post snarky fucking insensitive responses, that's for fucking sure! In the moment, in THIS moment, are some of you incapable of empathy and recognition of a man's heart?

    This is not a desperate man. This is a human heart of great worth. There is no pathology at work other than the condition of seeking to share a life, and to no longer be solitary. His independence is neither in question, nor his sense of himself and his own worth. To overlay a passionate moment - trustingly shared with this community in hopes it might not float out into a void, by the way! - with some easy pop-psychological analysis of how he see's himself is a bit of a stretch, don't you think?icon_rolleyes.gif

    OP, you're a handsome, articulate, obviously passionate cat. You deserve the same. Trust me, he'll find you. He will. Keep the faith, brother. And never, ever be afraid to speak your hope.

    xo
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