What are the 77 biggest relationship mistakes that gay guys make?

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    Nov 05, 2010 12:34 PM GMT
    I would like to put together the all time list of mistakes that gay guys make when dating or starting to date. To get started on the 77 mistakes, here are three mistakes that I think gay guys make. Please tell me your opinion and lets make the list longer ;)

    1. They show attitude.
    2. They put sex in front of other interests.
    3. They practice unsafe sex and destroy the possibility for a relationship.

    What are your 3 mistakes you'd like to add to this list?
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    Nov 05, 2010 12:40 PM GMT
    4) Lying about something important, i.e. age or status
    5) Not being themselves
    6) Going into 'Penis Mind' mode
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    Nov 05, 2010 12:48 PM GMT
    77? Is that an arbitrary number, or have some significance? But here are some I'm observed, whether this brings us up to 77 or not, numbered consecutively from above:

    7. Totally self-centered, the conversation all directed to them.
    8. Failing to keep appointments/dates, and to generally be on time.
    9. Showing more interest in distractions, like a cell phone or random encounters with friends, than with their date. (The guy who mutes his cell while with me, refusing to even look at it, has won my heart. Which, BTW, is what I do)
    10. Bragging about what they own, and how much they make, what position they hold.
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    Nov 23, 2010 12:43 AM GMT
    Some things I have noticed:

    11. Some like to hear themselves talk more, rather than hearing their date/boyfriend (Not good listeners)

    12. Too worried about fixing the smallest things (Does my hair look just right? Are my clothes on exactly how I want them so I don't look fat? etc..) to notice that their date does not give a fuck about those small things and is just glad to be with the guy in the first place.

    13. Some just apologize too much, for the things they do, when an apology just isn't necessary.
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    Nov 23, 2010 12:51 AM GMT
    14. Wait for the other gay to say I love you.

    15. Insist on being the hunter and then bitch about not being hunted

    16. Mistake porn sex for real love making
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    Nov 23, 2010 12:58 AM GMT
    17. Smokes, drinks or dopes too much/or at all.
    18. Doesn't not have interests or pursuits. (Everyone should have a hobby or interest to which they devote valuable time and energy, which they can share with others, which enriches life and romance.)
    19. Being too tied to first impressions.
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    Nov 23, 2010 1:22 AM GMT
    20. Being clingy and high-maintenance
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    Nov 23, 2010 1:25 AM GMT
    21. Stereotype each other and create a social hierarchy illusion.
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    Nov 23, 2010 1:30 AM GMT
    22 - making a list of faults to use against me later.
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    Nov 23, 2010 4:28 AM GMT
    23. Lack of communication
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    Nov 23, 2010 4:29 AM GMT
    24. finds himself unable to hold a job, because, well it just wasn't for him. 198 times in his 34 yrs!
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    Nov 23, 2010 4:30 AM GMT
    25. Consistently inconsistent!
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    Nov 23, 2010 4:47 AM GMT
    Having long lists of expectations for their prospective partners to measure up to or else.
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    Nov 23, 2010 5:01 AM GMT
    Understanding their own needs and wants in life

    Open / honest Communication, even if it's tough

    Remembering the qualities in the person that made them want to initially commit

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    Nov 23, 2010 11:00 AM GMT
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    Nov 23, 2010 11:27 AM GMT
    1. Thinking that a gay relationship is different that any other type of committed human relationship.

    2. Superficiality.

    3. Sex is great but it is not the cornerstone of a solid relationship.
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    Nov 23, 2010 12:29 PM GMT
    Having some self-help book upon which he bases his entire existence and browbeats its tenets into your skull.

    Patrick
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    Nov 23, 2010 1:18 PM GMT
    RudeMech saidHaving long lists of expectations for their prospective partners to measure up to or else.
    This is number one.. anything else after is not relevant...
  • gymlocker

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    Nov 23, 2010 1:52 PM GMT
    1) They think "relationship" is just about them
    2) They think "relationship" is just about them
    3) They think "relationship" is just about them
  • muscularman

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    Nov 23, 2010 1:56 PM GMT
    dominating somebody else and lie about it
  • muscularman

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    Nov 23, 2010 3:04 PM GMT
    dominating people behind your bf 's back
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    Nov 23, 2010 3:21 PM GMT
    26) Attempting to date after years of being a meth head. Except they're too easily bored and cannot date someone beyond a few months. Best they just date a circus clown or stay single.
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    Nov 23, 2010 3:34 PM GMT
    27) Deluding themselves into looking for a Mr. Right who matches the perfect fictional boyfriend they've put together in their heads
  • wellwell

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    Nov 23, 2010 3:41 PM GMT
    28 ) Expecting duration out of a relationship that is strictly concubinal.icon_confused.gif
  • wellwell

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    Nov 23, 2010 3:45 PM GMT
    29) Running away when a guy shows you how truly-masculine he REALLY is; WTF, are we not all-about men . . .