Curious ? does faceless profile pic = no profile pic ?

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    Nov 06, 2010 4:42 AM GMT
    so im still in the closet right and not yet at a point where its smart for me to come out which is why i don't have a profile pic . but i noticed that generally guys are reluctant to or sometimes don't respond to my messages and im guessing its cause of no proflie pic which is understandable so i was thinking of upgrading to the cliche (shirtless , usually taken in your bathroom with your head chopped off ) pic .
    but im just curious if it would make things better and would i be sending the wrong idea cause im not into nsa hook ups . are guys more comfortable talking to some one with a pic even with out a face or is it the same as no pic at all ?
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    Nov 06, 2010 5:04 AM GMT
    thats a good question because i havent came out yet either, which is the reason i dont have any pics up, it is easier for me to talk to someone with a pic but i feel like its a little hypocritical of me since i dont have a pic. I will still do a cam though, but im interested to see the comments on this because i am also curious about this
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    Nov 06, 2010 5:09 AM GMT
    Of course.

    No pic = troll.

    The whole "im not out" argument is crap, cause you're on RJ...a gay site, frequented by gay people (and the occasional troll). What do you think, that straight people will go past all the gay profile sites out there to try look you up?

    Don't be ridiculous. Grow a pair and put your pic up. With a face. If you wanna talk to other guys your face pic is more important than the cliche torso shot.

    I don't usually make small talk with a pair of nipples.
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    Nov 06, 2010 5:16 AM GMT
    I personally don't chat with guys who don't have pics or headless guys, and I assume most guys won't either. I think your being a bit paranoid that your going to be "outed" from posting a pic.
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    Nov 06, 2010 5:25 AM GMT
    If you are coming on here looking for "someone/Mr. Right" (which I think is lame to begin with...but to each his own) then yes you might want a face pic. Same applies if you are trying to make individual contact with most. But you have to move at your own speed.

    I've met a few RJ ers in person just to hang out (and I don't have a pic up).

    ...and I've seen a few of my current school mates on here (all of whom have GF's btw...lol...might be an image thing b/c medicine is still quite conservative)

    For some I guess it depends on your intentions!

    best of luck to ya
  • Chunner

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    Nov 06, 2010 5:59 AM GMT
    I Know where you are coming from, being scared to put yourself out there, however we are all here for community. I would highly doubt that anyone on this site would "out you." We've all had to deal with coming out or not coming out.

    But personally I feel like I put myself out there so anyone I talk to should too. And be verified.

    If you are going to have no pic you should attach a pic to a message, if you send one to another member. I respond to those.

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    Nov 06, 2010 7:38 AM GMT
    Any sort of pic is better than no pic at all.
    I'll reply to someone without a pic if the message is polite and intelligent but the reply will usually be very short and without substance since I don't know anything about who I'm talking to.
    (More often than not, no profile pic=completely empty profile as well)
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    Nov 06, 2010 7:45 AM GMT
    Maybe u just send ur pic(s) along with the msg for the guy. This would do.
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    Nov 06, 2010 8:13 AM GMT
    Tazo995 saidOf course.

    No pic = troll.

    The whole "im not out" argument is crap, cause you're on RJ...a gay site, frequented by gay people (and the occasional troll). What do you think, that straight people will go past all the gay profile sites out there to try look you up?

    Don't be ridiculous. Grow a pair and put your pic up. With a face. If you wanna talk to other guys your face pic is more important than the cliche torso shot.

    I don't usually make small talk with a pair of nipples.

    This, so much.

    I'm out to quite a few people but not to everyone yet. Am I afraid they might find out? Not really, because then they'd have to be on this site and that just means I found a new friend. ;)
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    Nov 06, 2010 8:42 AM GMT
    Tazo995 saidOf course.

    No pic = troll.

    The whole "im not out" argument is crap, cause you're on RJ...a gay site, frequented by gay people (and the occasional troll). What do you think, that straight people will go past all the gay profile sites out there to try look you up?

    Don't be ridiculous. Grow a pair and put your pic up. With a face. If you wanna talk to other guys your face pic is more important than the cliche torso shot.

    I don't usually make small talk with a pair of nipples.



    BULL shit, most people have career to save and watch over, so dont say no pic=troll, respect other people's private/personal life, when they're ready to come out they will, i have made progress to actually be on a gay site, its just a matter of time before i do it fully, so anyone thats wanting to come out please do it on your comfort zone and only when you are ready, dont let anyone tell you other wise icon_smile.gif
  • Hokenshi

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    Nov 06, 2010 9:30 AM GMT
    Yeah, you can just make it so only members can see your profile.
    That way the evil straight guy whose desperate to out you will have to sign up to RJ. Then when he tries to out you you can just show his profile (or it's footprint) to people....of course this is all fiction as I don't think anyone would go to that much trouble.

    As a rule I don't reply to messages but I wll send a thank you message for comments etc.
  • RSportsguy

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    Nov 06, 2010 11:55 AM GMT
    When I first got online and I was not 'out' I would not post pics of myself either. It did make me feel like a troll sometimes and I know that my posts were not taken as seriously. I started to feel more comfortable with myself here when I did post pics. I like the verified status here too. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 06, 2010 1:48 PM GMT
    Forget about the online world for a minute. Think about real life. We connect with people based on appearances (for better or worse).

    We make instant judgments that determine whether they are our peers or not and whether there might be potential for friendship or romance... based on looks.

    How well do you think you'd connect with someone who always wore a bag over their head (putting aside that you would judge them to be really weird for doing that)? icon_confused.gif
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    Nov 06, 2010 1:52 PM GMT
    Agamemnon said
    Tazo995 saidOf course.

    No pic = troll.

    The whole "im not out" argument is crap, cause you're on RJ...a gay site, frequented by gay people (and the occasional troll). What do you think, that straight people will go past all the gay profile sites out there to try look you up?

    Don't be ridiculous. Grow a pair and put your pic up. With a face. If you wanna talk to other guys your face pic is more important than the cliche torso shot.

    I don't usually make small talk with a pair of nipples.



    BULL shit, most people have career to save and watch over, so dont say no pic=troll, respect other people's private/personal life, when they're ready to come out they will, i have made progress to actually be on a gay site, its just a matter of time before i do it fully, so anyone thats wanting to come out please do it on your comfort zone and only when you are ready, dont let anyone tell you other wise icon_smile.gif


    Yea man you are so right.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 06, 2010 3:31 PM GMT
    bobbob23 saidso im still in the closet right and not yet at a point where its smart for me to come out which is why i don't have a profile pic . but i noticed that generally guys are reluctant to or sometimes don't respond to my messages and im guessing its cause of no proflie pic which is understandable so i was thinking of upgrading to the cliche (shirtless , usually taken in your bathroom with your head chopped off ) pic .
    but im just curious if it would make things better and would i be sending the wrong idea cause im not into nsa hook ups . are guys more comfortable talking to some one with a pic even with out a face or is it the same as no pic at all ?


    I preemptively block all picture-less / profile-less. Their take, take, take, mentality, their cowardliness, low esteem, and lack of any basic integrity, are HUGE turnoffs.

    I don't wait for them to contact me; I do it ahead of time.

    If they can't / won't play nicely, then, I don't play with them at all.
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    Nov 06, 2010 3:36 PM GMT
    alright.. yall convinced me to put one up. icon_neutral.gif ha
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    Nov 06, 2010 3:37 PM GMT
    Agamemnon said
    Tazo995 saidOf course.

    No pic = troll.

    The whole "im not out" argument is crap, cause you're on RJ...a gay site, frequented by gay people (and the occasional troll). What do you think, that straight people will go past all the gay profile sites out there to try look you up?

    Don't be ridiculous. Grow a pair and put your pic up. With a face. If you wanna talk to other guys your face pic is more important than the cliche torso shot.

    I don't usually make small talk with a pair of nipples.



    BULL shit, most people have career to save and watch over, so dont say no pic=troll, respect other people's private/personal life, when they're ready to come out they will, i have made progress to actually be on a gay site, its just a matter of time before i do it fully, so anyone thats wanting to come out please do it on your comfort zone and only when you are ready, dont let anyone tell you other wise icon_smile.gif




    totally agree
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    Nov 06, 2010 3:43 PM GMT
    bobbob23, this should satisfy you and others.

    Upload some pics. Make them private. Upload pics of your face and if you like, a few torso only or leg only or whatever-you-feel-is appropriate pics.

    Your avatar will now say private pics only.

    Now take a look at Socal's profile.

    Here: http://www.realjock.com/socalfitness

    You will notice that there is NO face pic chosen as his avatar here, but he is verified.

    -Doug

    PS it's not difficult to do.

  • TxGrunt

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    Nov 06, 2010 3:44 PM GMT
    simple - remain discrete BUT

    upload a shirtless or good taste body shot. a pic is worth a thousand words.

    you also have the option of uploading a private picture where you can include you face.

    but you def need a pic or a few of them... pics are not about hooking up, and it doesnt send that message. unless of course youre advertising XXX pics
  • HndsmKansan

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    Nov 06, 2010 3:45 PM GMT
    It really helps to have a face pic. Chest pics are acceptable, but this is about personal connections and discussion. The better the pic, the better the response. You feel a little better connection..... that doesn't mean that if you are talking to a troll or an ass with a face pic, there is going to be a connection...LOL

    Certainly we encourage you to put on a face pic, but if you aren't comfortable yet, do what makes sense. One of my best connections on this site has been with someone who has never put his picture on... well with the exception of a
    UNC flag.... of course when he did that, his team was crush by Kansas.
    LOL

    Do what you are comfortable with.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Nov 06, 2010 3:46 PM GMT
    A profile that has faceless pics is obviously not a profile without a photo. So a faceless profile is not the exact same as a profile with no photos.
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    Nov 06, 2010 3:47 PM GMT
    Pics help, and I will have a conversation with someone who doesnt have one, but I do expect them to show me it somehow. It just doesnt have to be publically shown.
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    Nov 06, 2010 3:48 PM GMT
    a pic of your chest is ok with me icon_razz.gif
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    Nov 06, 2010 3:49 PM GMT
    Having a face pic makes the number of guys willing to read your profile and even message you goes up. People just want to ensure they're talking with someone who is who they really say they are.

    While I respect people's privacy and decision to come out when they're ready but if you're on a site geared toward gay and bi guys and someone finds you on this site it likely they are also gay or bi themselves. You can set your profiles to private and they can't be found in Google. You can always turn the table on them and ask them what they were doing on a gay site.

    Also, someone would have to know your member name to be able to search for your posts in Google and finding that out is beyond the scope of most people's knowledge about using the internet.

    It's also illegal to fire someone based on sexuality (in the US at least) and most employers don't want a lawsuit, especially in this economy.

    If you're insecure about your looks there's all types of guys here and who you are as a person is more important in the long run.
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    Nov 06, 2010 3:50 PM GMT
    I talk to the faceless and photoless profiles. I like to hear why they hide their faces. It is usually some legit reason.

    Also, remember that whole "it gets better" campaign? Some guys might become more comfortable with being gay if they can get to know someone who is already there.

    However, if you're just trying to do something like hookup but have no photo then I think you should be ignored. RUDE!!