My Best Friend's Wedding - Falling in love with him.

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    Nov 06, 2010 8:56 PM GMT
    Ever see "My Best Friend's Wedding" the 90's Julia Roberts movie? Well that's happenening to me.

    My best friend, who is also gay, has recently gotten into a relationship. It's a brief but fast moving relationship and since its inception, I've come to realize that I think I'm in love with him for many different reasons.

    What should I do? Tell him and end up like Julia Roberts or just forget about it and wish him the best?
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    Nov 06, 2010 10:22 PM GMT
    Personally I think you should be honest bout how you feel.. dont expect it to be mutual though, but its better not to keep things secret between friends
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    Nov 06, 2010 10:24 PM GMT
    kfed saidforget about it and wish him the best?
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    Nov 06, 2010 10:27 PM GMT
    Be careful, only because you say "I THINK I'm in love with him..." and what you might discover, once you declare your love, is that suddenly *poof* it's not what you thought. Think long, and hard about what happens if he doesn't feel the same, or, if you find yourself suddenly not as attracted as you had thought.

    Not saying you shouldn't tell him, just saying be certain of how you feel, and be prepared for it to change things in ways you couldn't expect and might not want.

    Good luck.
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    Nov 06, 2010 10:58 PM GMT
    When you say, "It's a brief but fast moving relationship" do you mean it's ending already (brief) or do you mean the relationship is still new?

    -Doug

    I've been in this situation and never said anything. As far as I was concerned my friend was taken; so that, as they say, was that. I reminded myself that if I had been 'the one', my friend would not have gotten involved with someone else, he would have been trying to go out with me.

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    Nov 06, 2010 11:33 PM GMT
    dude, if you love him then you need to let him be happy with who he is with now. if you two are meant to be then you will be. remember what happen to julia roberts in that movie now do you want that to happen to you. they had to make it a happy ending in the movie because that is what it was. however, life isn't like the movies.
    i suggest you do not tell him unless him and his current bf breakup. he may not feel the same way about you
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    Nov 06, 2010 11:42 PM GMT
    kfed saidEver see "My Best Friend's Wedding" the 90's Julia Roberts movie? Well that's happenening to me.

    My best friend, who is also gay, has recently gotten into a relationship. It's a brief but fast moving relationship and since its inception, I've come to realize that I think I'm in love with him for many different reasons.

    What should I do? Tell him and end up like Julia Roberts or just forget about it and wish him the best?


    Don't say anything. You think you love him after he was proposed to. You might just be playing what-if fantasies if you did something before hand.

    I can only see disappointment and misery coming out of this.
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    Nov 07, 2010 12:26 AM GMT
    Wow - with only a handful of replies, I think the answer is clear. You are all very wise. Thank you for the advice.
  • trvlmscl

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    Nov 07, 2010 12:31 AM GMT
    Is this a case of only wanting something that you now cannot have?
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    Nov 07, 2010 12:35 AM GMT
    No, I don't think so. Since the time that he started dating, I've gotten to know him differently. We've worked together professionally and I've really grown to admire him as a person. He is smart, thoughtful, put together and I guess it's taken these circumstances for me to put all of this together.
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    Nov 07, 2010 1:11 AM GMT
    I think you need to tell him how you feel. Don't expect reciprocity, and don't even expect that things will be the same between you. Make sure he understands that you simply need to get these emotions off your chest. Just be brave, and you'll probably feel better.
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    Nov 11, 2010 6:19 AM GMT
    open_minded10 saidI think you need to tell him how you feel. Don't expect reciprocity, and don't even expect that things will be the same between you. Make sure he understands that you simply need to get these emotions off your chest. Just be brave, and you'll probably feel better.