Gay life in Romania - little story

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    Nov 07, 2010 11:52 AM GMT
    This is not my story, i just translated one that i found on a site but i have to say that this is pretty much what happens here. Of course the gay community differs from region to region and Bucharest is not the most friendly place to live.

    Hope my English is ok...

    "For some reasons I will only tell you that my name is ******, I live in Romania and I will try to give you an image of what it means to be gay in this country.
    I am 20 and for only 9 months i have moved to Bucharest from a small town where people did not have any idea of my sexual orientation and i was waiting for the life in the capital to bring me happiness, freedom and acceptance.
    Being gay in Romania is only a trauma that we have to live until the age of 18-19 when you begin to accept what you are.
    Although I coped with the idea of being gay since i was 17, i couldn't like the idea that my friends and family will find out one day.
    And i won't tell you a brave story right now, when all people find out and everything's ok...i admit, i am still afraid to tell my family.
    Things in our country did not evolve very much and if we think about it, it's still very hard to make a person to understand what it means to be gay and accept it.
    Until i moved to Bucharest i had many relationships with girls, two of them pretty serious, one for a year and one for 8 months but all this time i was in love with a boy. He didn't know what feelings I had for him but he eventually found out and that was the ending of a friendship.
    This campaign should make young gays to understand their life is not a tragedy like they consider it, that someday you have to fight for happiness and to teach them that there is a community willing to help them but that community is still unexistent.
    Coming into the capital i expected to find a well defined community, with common occupations, events and very important meetings for building an acceptance. But I had a huge disappointment, when instead of humanity I i found here sentimental cannibalism.
    Going to he gay club here in Bucharest i only found mean people, guys that were pointing fingers, talking behind others backs saying they are not frustrated, that they are very happy being gay when the opposite was obvious.
    Guys mocking other for being exclusive bottoms or others saying they are only tops while all they wanted was a dick in their asses.

    Now, after 9 months of being away from home I can finally admit that I can have a gay life and that is such a relieve. I finally managed to accept that I am gay and that I can't change it. I have also told my best friends and my brother about it.
    It is too bad that in this gay world most look only for sex, no sentimental implications and other wonderful people that don't accept themselves being gay because of the frustrations, frustrations that start to appear when young, hearing your mother say: "Another bastard died" when she sees a passion crime between gays on TV.

    Young boys and girls that have those problems have no one to turn to, no association to help them. We all live in homophobic families, hearing our parents curse the gays every day and all we know is that they will feel the same way about us if they find out.
    Not few were the evenings when alone in bed i was thinking about the future and i started crying because i knew that my family, my friends and the society i loved will all be missing. I knew that to find happiness i will have to sacrifice everything.
    I know that most LGBT people in this country live away from their families, having a secret life.

    I don't want a secret life, I don't wanna give up on my family, I don't wanna hear other youngsters having those problems, I don't wanna see on TV other teenagers committing suicide.

    I hope everything will turn out to be better in the near future but he gay life in Romania is still sad and limited."
  • masculumpedes

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    Nov 07, 2010 12:00 PM GMT
    In some places in the USA, it is still not so different. Maybe one day...icon_sad.gif
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    Nov 07, 2010 12:02 PM GMT
    at least you can move to Florida or California where is not that bad from what i hear.
    But here...eh, there's nowhere to go.
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    Nov 07, 2010 12:05 PM GMT
    BuckYou saidat least you can move to Florida or California where is not that bad from what i hear.
    But here...eh, there's nowhere to go.



    Sometimes to move is not an option.....I will agree that in some places it is better than in others, however homophobia of some degree is everywhere I believe. icon_sad.gif
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    Nov 07, 2010 4:43 PM GMT


    Yikes. The poor guy. That was a powerful read.

    Thanks, BuckYou!

    -Doug
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    Nov 07, 2010 5:54 PM GMT
    It wasn't that long ago that this was true all over the world.
    So yeah, things are getting better.
    Unfortunately not as fast in some places.
    But every generation can move things along.
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    Nov 07, 2010 5:54 PM GMT
    well yeah, poor guy. most of it is my story also except the fact that I've chosen maybe the best city to go study so everything turned a little better for me
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    Nov 07, 2010 6:05 PM GMT
    BuckYou saidwell yeah, poor guy. most of it is my story also except the fact that I've chosen maybe the best city to go study so everything turned a little better for me



    !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!omg!

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    Nov 07, 2010 6:14 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    BuckYou saidwell yeah, poor guy. most of it is my story also except the fact that I've chosen maybe the best city to go study so everything turned a little better for me



    !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!omg!

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    Nov 07, 2010 6:32 PM GMT
    ummmmmm....maybe it was a good thing that we didnt have our RJ holiday in Roumania. ... icon_eek.gif

    That story is the same in many smaller communities in America. But there is enough pro-gay sentiment nation-wide to help prevent communities from acting too out of line. But they sure push the envelope!

    And then we have some odd legal situations. Like gay righs are fully protected in my city and the county north of me, but not in the state. Probably the state law would trump the local ordinances, but it would make for interesting court cases.