Help Gay guy loves Straight guy. x

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    Nov 08, 2010 11:55 AM GMT
    Hi there so I have a Problem that I would love anyone to help me with please icon_smile.gif

    Ok so Iam gay and 19 iam out to everyone, I work in a call centre and about a year
    ago i started speak to this straight guy, hes a year older than me and so hot.
    He's into sports i.e football (soccer). We first started speaking after a work weekend away
    and i started of emailing him i grew in confidence and over the months used to flirt with
    him telling him he was hot etc and that i wanted to go and watch him play footbal to see
    his legs etc and he wasnt botherd by this he was up for it. He has a child of 3 and
    is very manly goes about with straight guy etc dresses straight etc, Recetly i have fallen
    in love with him and i decided to tell him he said he wasnt botherd and would act the same
    way towards me. He has also sent me pictures of himself in his boxers and of his body etc
    and recetly one naked but its of his bum and back etc he his on off gf is currently pregnant
    with his 2nd child. He does seem to be protective over me and i do get jealous when
    he gets with girls but i let him know this, He does often say he is sorry he isnt gay etc
    the other day he hugged me and then text me saying " ly mate xx " wee always email one another
    in work and he sometimes puts xx or other days xxxxxx and (L) etc. I find i fall out with
    alot because i really like him. At then end of the working day we always right " ly xxx " but my head is confused i dont know if he does have feelings for me or not
    i think if he was drunk stuff would happen but i want more, He has been to 2 girls houses over the past
    week but also sent me 2 pictures over 2 mornings of him in a towel and other one naked but you see the back
    of him can people advise me what they think of this please.....If you want to know anymore please just ask
    thanks. p.s i love him lots
    xx
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Nov 08, 2010 12:30 PM GMT
    Sounds like he just likes the attention. Maybe you should stop giving it to him for a little while.
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    Nov 08, 2010 12:59 PM GMT
    He is straight and flirting with you. Straight guys have egos and you're stroking his. Leave it as an attraction and move on.
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    Nov 08, 2010 1:08 PM GMT
    I've had this happen to me. fell in love with my hetero best friend...it ended badly. over 10yrs of friendship and closeness gone because I couldn't recognize the he was NEVER GOING TO ENGAGE IN GAY SEX.

    the guy does sound like he just likes the attention. Also sounds like he's leading you on. He's dragging you along and teasing you with no intention of having a relationship with you.

    Perhaps you should just accept him as a "player" and move on. What about him are you attracted to? his body? the fact that he's someone you can't have?
    Understand what it is that is attracting you and find that in someone else. Someone that will be intimate with you. Someone that isn't going to fuck a girl and rub it in your face that they got something you can't have.

    Remember to do this in a civil manner...otherwise, he could turn it on you as sexual harassment in the workplace.

    move on, guy. learn from this and move on.
    oh, and welcome to the club.
    --Gregori
  • Bunjamon

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    Nov 08, 2010 1:13 PM GMT
    *SNAP OUT OF IT*

    Your energy would be better spent NOT lusting away over someone who will never reciprocate your feelings.
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    Nov 08, 2010 1:46 PM GMT
    stop wasting your time looking for love the wrong person
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    Nov 08, 2010 1:51 PM GMT
    Do this to him and see what his reaction is:

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    If he likes it, then you know his flirting is real. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 08, 2010 2:15 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidDo this to him and see what his reaction is:

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    If he likes it, then you know his flirting is real. icon_biggrin.gif


    I'm pretty sure the guy who posted this is a bottom Paul haha.
  • rescal1960

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    Nov 08, 2010 2:15 PM GMT
    First of all you need to learn how to write correctly,learn how to spell.Seems to me your mentality is of a child and you need to grow up a little,when you do this things then come back to us and we can discuss your problem.
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    Nov 08, 2010 2:16 PM GMT
    advice on falling for a straight guy:

    dont
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    Nov 08, 2010 2:22 PM GMT
    hopefully you're not doing anything stupid like buying him gifts, loaning him money or something of that nature
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    Nov 08, 2010 3:16 PM GMT
    Bunjamon said*SNAP OUT OF IT*

    Your energy would be better spent NOT lusting away over someone who will never reciprocate your feelings.


    WHAT HE SAID! SNAP OUT OF IT!
  • Sk8Tex

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    Nov 08, 2010 3:35 PM GMT
    I had a straight friend that sounds exactly like this scenario...back when I was like 21 I fell really hard for my married straight friend who constantly teased me. It was a really confusing period of time where I had a lot of difficulty seperating fact and fiction but looking back its really clear and obvious what had me so screwed up, and it was him.

    The hardest thing ever was convincing myself that despite his flirtations, I never really stood a chance in hell with him. Stop torturing yourself and keep yourself open to other possibilities, even though right now I know you dont want to. To continue on will do nothing for you except keep you in that feeling you've got right now, wondering, hoping, and trying to make sense of it all...just stop.
  • Sk8Tex

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    Nov 08, 2010 3:37 PM GMT
    rescal1960 saidFirst of all you need to learn how to write correctly,learn how to spell.Seems to me your mentality is of a child and you need to grow up a little,when you do this things then come back to us and we can discuss your problem.

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    Nov 08, 2010 3:58 PM GMT
    Ohh Lawdy, another one...
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  • ohioguy12

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    Nov 08, 2010 5:45 PM GMT
    maybe I'm an idiot, but what does "ly mate xx" mean?
  • Sk8Tex

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    Nov 08, 2010 5:50 PM GMT
    ohioguy12 saidmaybe I'm an idiot, but what does "ly mate xx" mean?


    love you mate kiss kiss? or hug hug? I forget which one is X and which one is O but you get the point lol
  • coolarmydude

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    Nov 08, 2010 5:51 PM GMT
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    Nov 08, 2010 5:56 PM GMT
    ohioguy12 saidmaybe I'm an idiot, but what does "ly mate xx" mean?


    Love you mate, kisses/huggs?

    So, OP needs to stop. He's got kids, he's got girlfriends. Just walk away... You're doing nothing but fighting for a lost cause. Would you rather stand by the sidelines and watch great guy's life, or live your own by moving on?
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    Nov 08, 2010 7:15 PM GMT
    I hope you know by now what to do.
  • coolarmydude

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    Nov 08, 2010 7:41 PM GMT
    icon_idea.gif Relationships are intended to build each other up, enhance their character, and work as a team. They are not intended to fulfill a fantasy. icon_idea.gif
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    Nov 08, 2010 8:23 PM GMT
    He's getting off on having his ego stroked at the expense of your feelings!

    If he had any respect for you he would have treated your admission as a reason to respectfully create a more comfortable distance beteeen the two of you, if he couldn't return yor feelings. Instead, what does he do? Start leading you on with half naked photos and kisses. If this is your idea of a good man then God bless you...

    I'm already well beyond turned off by this guy and, for your sake, hope you will be soon as well.
  • Crashingthewa...

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    Nov 08, 2010 8:39 PM GMT
    a gay guy in love with a str8 guy???!! omg ive never heard of this!!!???!!! lol
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    Nov 08, 2010 8:43 PM GMT
    CrashingTheWave saida gay guy in love with a str8 guy???!! omg ive never heard of this!!!???!!! lol

    x2
  • bmoney1

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    Nov 09, 2010 5:01 AM GMT
    rescal1960 saidFirst of all you need to learn how to write correctly,learn how to spell.Seems to me your mentality is of a child and you need to grow up a little,when you do this things then come back to us and we can discuss your problem.



    Your overall attempted call out of the OP on his bad spelling, grammar, and writing skills becomes instantly fallacious when you, yourself, fail to propperly apply the conventions of language. Your comment seems to lack spaces, correct usage of commas, comma splices where you did use commas, and includes a misuse of the word this.