What are you doing in RJ if you are HAPPILY married to a woman???

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    Nov 09, 2010 1:43 AM GMT
    I am sorry guys but I might be old fashion on this...

    I think that if I am on relationship I would never betray my partner...
    I would break up or have a huge talk but will never do it while with somebody else.
    Can somebody please explain to me how can you betray somebody that is there with you as a couple??

    BREAK UP BEFORE HUNT FOR BOYS!!! And don't even say the open relationship thing if you can't prove... LOL
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    Nov 09, 2010 1:46 AM GMT
    SQSNY saidI am sorry guys but I might be old fashion on this...

    I think that if I am on relationship I would never betray my partner...
    I would break up or have a huge talk but will never do it while with somebody else.
    Can somebody please explain to me how can you betray somebody that is there with you as a couple??

    BREAK UP BEFORE HUNT FOR BOYS!!! And don't even say the open relationship thing if you can't prove... LOL



    I don't see how having a profile on this site would be considered betrayal.

    I myself am not gay, and while not married am in a serious relationship with a girl.

    I didn't join this site because it said "Gay Dating", I joined because of the "fitness and health" part.

    now if he's seeking out sex or dates, that's a different story.
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    Nov 09, 2010 1:53 AM GMT
    Is not about having a profile in the site... You can have because it is a very good workout/diet/exercise website.

    The thing is: Do you keep IMing guys?
    Trying to hookup and do dates?

    It wasn't about being here as a workout tool but using this tool to hookup is a kind of sad. No?
  • laxdude25

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    Nov 09, 2010 2:10 AM GMT
    People are on this site for many reasons, and people follow many different paths to happiness in a relationship. I am happily married to a woman, have two kids, and yet am totally comfortable with my sexuality...which puts me somewhere on the gay-bi spectrum. My wife is 100% aware of my sexuality, I told her before I proposed to her, and she is cool with it. So it works for us, though I understand it may not work for others.
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    Nov 09, 2010 2:11 AM GMT
    Funkapottomous said
    SQSNY saidI am sorry guys but I might be old fashion on this...

    I think that if I am on relationship I would never betray my partner...
    I would break up or have a huge talk but will never do it while with somebody else.
    Can somebody please explain to me how can you betray somebody that is there with you as a couple??

    BREAK UP BEFORE HUNT FOR BOYS!!! And don't even say the open relationship thing if you can't prove... LOL



    I don't see how having a profile on this site would be considered betrayal.

    I myself am not gay, and while not married am in a serious relationship with a girl.

    I didn't join this site because it said "Gay Dating", I joined because of the "fitness and health" part.

    now if he's seeking out sex or dates, that's a different story.


    Ok so your dating someone, but yet on your profile your looking for dating, or relationship along with hooking up?? You make no sense at all.
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    Nov 09, 2010 2:26 AM GMT
    Funkapottomous said
    SQSNY saidI am sorry guys but I might be old fashion on this...

    I think that if I am on relationship I would never betray my partner...
    I would break up or have a huge talk but will never do it while with somebody else.
    Can somebody please explain to me how can you betray somebody that is there with you as a couple??

    BREAK UP BEFORE HUNT FOR BOYS!!! And don't even say the open relationship thing if you can't prove... LOL



    I don't see how having a profile on this site would be considered betrayal.

    I myself am not gay, and while not married am in a serious relationship with a girl.

    I didn't join this site because it said "Gay Dating", I joined because of the "fitness and health" part.

    now if he's seeking out sex or dates, that's a different story.


    I don't understand...you say you are not gay, but in your profile you go so far as to even say what types of guys you are attracted to?
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    Nov 09, 2010 3:06 AM GMT
    Funkie is saying why he joined, not what he decided to do once he set up his profile. He has a comfortable open relationship with his girlfriend, who, from what I understand, is rather titillated by his bisexuality. icon_wink.gif

    monogamously yours, -Doug

    PS they're happy, which is really what matters.
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    Nov 09, 2010 5:13 AM GMT
    meninlove said Funkie is saying why he joined, not what he decided to do once he set up his profile. He has a comfortable open relationship with his girlfriend, who, from what I understand, is rather titillated by his bisexuality. icon_wink.gif

    monogamously yours, -Doug

    PS they're happy, which is really what matters.


    Oh, OK, so he admits he's bi. I thought he was saying he was straight. My bad.
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    Nov 09, 2010 5:39 AM GMT
    travelfan said
    meninlove said Funkie is saying why he joined, not what he decided to do once he set up his profile. He has a comfortable open relationship with his girlfriend, who, from what I understand, is rather titillated by his bisexuality. icon_wink.gif

    monogamously yours, -Doug

    PS they're happy, which is really what matters.


    Oh, OK, so he admits he's bi. I thought he was saying he was straight. My bad.


    Hey travelfan, there's no bad. Just thought I'd try help sort it out. Thanks!

    -Doug
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    Nov 09, 2010 10:19 AM GMT
    hehehe he is here to see if he could find a better guy than he alredy hase my friend and if he finds one he will broke up with old guy
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    Nov 09, 2010 10:32 AM GMT

    To be fair to RJ, there are better fitness sites out there, so if anyone if straight and on here for "fitness" then they are fooling themselves.

    I am happily in a relationship, and only ever chat with guys on here who respect that, I am on here mostly as it's a gay multicultural website that doesn't seem to be as sex driven.
  • coolarmydude

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    Nov 09, 2010 10:46 AM GMT
    SQSNY saidI am sorry guys but I might be old fashion on this...

    I think that if I am on relationship I would never betray my partner...
    I would break up or have a huge talk but will never do it while with somebody else.
    Can somebody please explain to me how can you betray somebody that is there with you as a couple??

    BREAK UP BEFORE HUNT FOR BOYS!!! And don't even say the open relationship thing if you can't prove... LOL




    You're not old fashioned. You're judgemental and immature. You never compare your relationship to someone else's relationship.
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    Nov 09, 2010 10:50 AM GMT
    coolarmydude said
    SQSNY saidI am sorry guys but I might be old fashion on this...

    I think that if I am on relationship I would never betray my partner...
    I would break up or have a huge talk but will never do it while with somebody else.
    Can somebody please explain to me how can you betray somebody that is there with you as a couple??

    BREAK UP BEFORE HUNT FOR BOYS!!! And don't even say the open relationship thing if you can't prove... LOL




    You're not old fashioned. You're judgemental and immature.


    What is wrong with what SQSNY said, he is entitled to his opinion, and he is right, break up with your partner before you go hunting for boys.

    He says don't use the open relationship excuse if you can't prove your wife isnt in agreement,
  • coolarmydude

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    Nov 09, 2010 11:09 AM GMT
    I never said that. icon_rolleyes.gif No one should ever question someone else's presence on this website, especially with the presumptuous and judgmental tone of the title of this thread.
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    Nov 09, 2010 11:15 AM GMT
    Sorry I got the name wrong, I meant SQSNY!

    Of course he can question someone's presence, websites are full of real people, it's not as 'virtual' as it once was and people should be held accountable.

  • coolarmydude

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    Nov 09, 2010 11:18 AM GMT
    Thisuserexists saidSorry I got the name wrong, I meant SQSNY!

    Of course he can question someone's presence, websites are full of real people, it's not as 'virtual' as it once was and people should be held accountable.




    On who's authority? People who nag into people's business are needy immature people. Kind of like those who want government to tell us what kind of relationship we should be in.
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    Nov 09, 2010 11:27 AM GMT
    coolarmydude said
    Thisuserexists saidSorry I got the name wrong, I meant SQSNY!

    Of course he can question someone's presence, websites are full of real people, it's not as 'virtual' as it once was and people should be held accountable.




    On who's authority? People who nag into people's business are needy immature people. Kind of like those who want government to tell us what kind of relationship we should be in.


    It's a moral authority. SQSNY has been IM'd by "straight" married guys looking for sex and has every right to question their behaviour.

    In fact its the complete opposite of the government telling people anything, its self policing. Name and shame I say!

  • coolarmydude

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    Nov 09, 2010 11:29 AM GMT
    It's one thing to deal with people who individually contact you and aren't who they say they are, but it's a completely different thing to start a flaming thread that lumps people into a generalized category that insinuates that their mere presence in RJ is nefarious.

    And BTW, that's not how the OP started this thread, so if there is more to the story, then let HIM tell the story. Don't be a parrot.

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    Nov 09, 2010 11:36 AM GMT
    coolarmydude saidIt's one thing to deal with people who individually contact you and aren't who they say they are, but it's a completely different thing to start a flaming thread that lumps people into a generalized category that insinuates that their mere presence in RJ is nefarious.

    And BTW, that's not how the OP started this thread, so if there is more to the story, then let HIM tell the story. Don't be a parrot.



    SQSNY said
    The thing is: Do you keep IMing guys?
    Trying to hookup and do dates?


    .............
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    Nov 09, 2010 11:40 AM GMT
    Thisuserexists said
    coolarmydude saidIt's one thing to deal with people who individually contact you and aren't who they say they are, but it's a completely different thing to start a flaming thread that lumps people into a generalized category that insinuates that their mere presence in RJ is nefarious.

    And BTW, that's not how the OP started this thread, so if there is more to the story, then let HIM tell the story. Don't be a parrot.



    SQSNY said
    The thing is: Do you keep IMing guys?
    Trying to hookup and do dates?


    .............



    What we've go here is a buttload of FAIL.
  • massbuildah

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    Nov 09, 2010 11:43 AM GMT
    Totally agree with Coolarmydude....

    And furthermore..... Take it from me, no one knows what's going on behind the scenes of that 'str8' and/or 'married' man's life. Maybe his relationship is not all that fullfilling and he needs to find more. Maybe he's afraid to come out to his wife or even to himself. Does the OP know the answers to these things when he gets hit on by some 'married' or 'str8' guys? Of course not! So ask the questions if you're interested, and if you're not interested or if you're offended then simply use some common courtesy, say' thanks but no thanks' and move on.

    Oh and one more thing, everyone has different morals and values, judge not lest ye be judged!

  • coolarmydude

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    Nov 09, 2010 11:45 AM GMT
    Thisuserexists said
    He says don't use the open relationship excuse if you can't prove your wife isnt in agreement,


    So let's clear something up. If someone can actually prove that his husband/boyfriend/girlfriend/wife is okay with an open relationship (a permission slip should suffice), then you're saying that that would make it ok for the OP to engage in sex with someone else?
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    Nov 09, 2010 11:47 AM GMT
    coolarmydude saidI never said that. icon_rolleyes.gif No one should ever question someone else's presence on this website, especially with the presumptuous and judgmental tone of the title of this thread.


    I agree to an extent.
    I'm 100 % gay so I don't know how it feels like to be bisexual. But why can't you be happily married to a woman and still be attracted to men.

    I think people who are bisexual suffer even more from the imposition of traditional (conservative) perceptions of relationships and sexuality. And they probably feel they have to hide or supress their sexuality, even more so than gay people.

    99.9 percent of us here on this site can agree that sexuality is NOT a choice. The OP is falling into the trap of resounding (indirectly) the religious conservative notion that you can choose, he's essentially saying bisexuals should make a CHOICE to be either gay or straight.

    more acceptance, less judgement please.

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    Nov 09, 2010 11:47 AM GMT
    coolarmydude said
    Thisuserexists said
    coolarmydude saidIt's one thing to deal with people who individually contact you and aren't who they say they are, but it's a completely different thing to start a flaming thread that lumps people into a generalized category that insinuates that their mere presence in RJ is nefarious.

    And BTW, that's not how the OP started this thread, so if there is more to the story, then let HIM tell the story. Don't be a parrot.



    SQSNY said
    The thing is: Do you keep IMing guys?
    Trying to hookup and do dates?


    .............



    What we've go here is a buttload of FAIL.


    You're 36! lol I clicked on your profile expecting you to be 19 with that comment.

    Brilliant.
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    Nov 09, 2010 11:48 AM GMT
    massbuildah saidTotally agree with Coolarmydude....

    Oh and one more thing, everyone has different morals and values, judge not lest ye be judged!



    That's what makes the human race so GRANDicon_razz.gif