I am gonna have to stick with local dating only!?

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    Nov 09, 2010 4:55 AM GMT
    This year I have being meeting a string of really nice guys; the problem is they all seem to be at least an hour away! I am going to finally meet someone this weekend that I have been talking over the phone for the past four weeks. He seems nice and we share a lot of things in common, however the thought of commuting from New Jersey through NYC and on to his town in Long Island seems like too much of a hassle just to meet someone for a date, let alone any possibilities of some sort of connection? I don't know what to do? like I said the guy seems very nice and we seem to share a lot of things in common, but the thought of having to face or deal with the bumper to bumper traffic commute just seems too much to bother with; which leads me to believe that maybe I should just stick to local dating prospects only! What would you guys do in my situation?


    Leandro ♥
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    Nov 09, 2010 12:59 PM GMT
    I think that if you do not try it, you will never know.
    For every problem there is a solution. maybe it doesn't even work out.
    It is better to know what happend, as keep guessing but never know.
    Go for it, and I think will be clear to you afterwards.
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    Nov 09, 2010 2:38 PM GMT
    You dont want it enough to go the trouble. So stay local.
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    Nov 09, 2010 2:52 PM GMT
    You've already met on the phone and get along, so I'd go this time.

    After this one (if nothing comes from this) stick to local dating. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
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    Nov 09, 2010 3:02 PM GMT
    awwwwwwwwww you will find someone soon enough..i already did and soon your prince will come in a pink horse lol
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    Nov 09, 2010 3:21 PM GMT
    My Hubbys a 20 hr, two hub, transcontinental flight away....Thus I cannot sympathize with your inability to haul your ass two towns over icon_neutral.gif

    And I second the Ignore dis bitch click....
  • camfer

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    Nov 09, 2010 3:47 PM GMT
    I'd suggest meeting in manhattan.
  • Sk8Tex

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    Nov 09, 2010 3:53 PM GMT
    I once flew from South Texas to San Diego, CA to meet a man I was talking to online...though it didn't work out so hot, in the long run I never would have met my partner Ray if I hadn't so I am glad I made that mistake. icon_biggrin.gif

    Maybe you two could pick a place in the middle somewhere to meet at for a date? The only downside I could see there is you wont get to drive him home or vice versa..
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    Nov 09, 2010 5:38 PM GMT
    aaww! the distance factor is so sad. isn't it?
    Wish there was a genieicon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 09, 2010 5:41 PM GMT
    blinqdd saidI think that if you do not try it, you will never know.
    For every problem there is a solution. maybe it doesn't even work out.
    It is better to know what happend, as keep guessing but never know.
    Go for it, and I think will be clear to you afterwards.


    I completely agree!
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    Nov 09, 2010 5:45 PM GMT
    I tried the long distance and found that I really needed someone local for those spur of the moment get togethers and they are so worth it icon_smile.gif

    No more long distance for me, I've got a local boy icon_smile.gif
  • Arab_in_NL

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    Nov 09, 2010 6:19 PM GMT
    Thank God Kuwait is a very small country ..
    I go to the most far place within 1 hour max. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Nov 10, 2010 12:03 AM GMT
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    Nov 10, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    I have a kid from stanford university drive 3 hours each way sometimes just to stay the night with me. It depends on how much you like the guy. I had a guy i used to fly to DC to see a couple times a month, sometimes just for a weekend. But I really cared about him. An hour's drive is nothing. I spent two hours riding to and from work on a bike every day.

    Sometimes.... you gotta go the distance if you want to get what you want.
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    Nov 10, 2010 12:25 AM GMT
    I'd say meet the guy, if I could meet the guys that I seem to have a connexion with I would, trouble is they're always overseas. No such thing anywhere local.
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    Nov 10, 2010 12:44 AM GMT
    Thank you guys for all of your positive responses and encouragement. Like most of you already said if I don't satisfy my curiosity I will never know if the guy is as good as he looks on cam, or is able to communicate as well in person unless I meet him! if we click and he has a good heart I will have no problem with the distance. The only thing I am still iffy about is facing the heavy commute to get to his place; as anybody who lives in the NYC and Long Island area knows how that is like!!


    Leandro ♥
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    Nov 10, 2010 12:52 AM GMT
    Go and meet him. What if he is the one. My philosophy is, its better to take a chance than wondering how it could have been.
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    Nov 10, 2010 1:00 AM GMT
    I make my first meetings at the cafe in a nearby Barnes and Nobles....5 minutes away. If he cant make, then he's not for me.

    Did I tell you once that I drove all the way to 23rd Street to meet a guy?.....what a disappointment! Never Again!!! That's all I gotta say
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    Nov 10, 2010 1:19 AM GMT
    Try it you will never know unless u try.
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    Nov 10, 2010 2:49 AM GMT
    ALEZANDAR saidThank you guys for all of your positive responses and encouragement. Like most of you already said if I don't satisfy my curiosity I will never know if the guy is as good as he looks on cam, or is able to communicate as well in person unless I meet him! if we click and he has a good heart I will have no problem with the distance. The only thing I am still iffy about is facing the heavy commute to get to his place; as anybody who lives in the NYC and Long Island area knows how that is like!!


    Leandro ♥


    If you want to talk about a commute i used to commute from sacramento to JFK every week because i worked on Wall Street. That was a commute! If you dont want to deal with traffic then don't meet him!
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    Nov 10, 2010 3:03 AM GMT
    CaliBoySwag said
    ALEZANDAR saidThank you guys for all of your positive responses and encouragement. Like most of you already said if I don't satisfy my curiosity I will never know if the guy is as good as he looks on cam, or is able to communicate as well in person unless I meet him! if we click and he has a good heart I will have no problem with the distance. The only thing I am still iffy about is facing the heavy commute to get to his place; as anybody who lives in the NYC and Long Island area knows how that is like!!


    Leandro ♥


    If you want to talk about a commute i used to commute from sacramento to JFK every week because i worked on Wall Street. That was a commute! If you dont want to deal with traffic then don't meet him!



    Sacramento...like in California? every week....by car? to JFK Airport, NYC? you are either a millionaire, or someone who loves to drive long distances? I am sorry but I have never ever heard anyone who drives to and from work every week thousand of miles away to commute to work!?gosh not even if they pay me a million bucks, and for that I rather take a plane ride, but by car!? no way Jose!!


    Leandro ♥